"Not happy in realtionship but have a hard time saying good bye?"

[whitetiger007]

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Hi, I'm in need of some advice from someone who hasn't heard of my relationship. I was/ have been dating the same girl for 4 years. I'm just now 21 and she is 19. It started out to be just a high school fling but some how it has lasted this long. We started out great we could talk all the time and we could go anywhere together. We never wanted to be apart. Then she started to try and make me change my life. She said that I shouldn't hang out with my friends because they were not the "right" crowd for me. This friends I have grown up with all my life. She also said that I should stop living my parents life they wanted for me. I view my self as being very indepent and don't like to be controled but I thought maybe I could change for her.

 

 

I thought I loved her. And I still think I do but 4 years later we have been broken up more times then I can remember yet, we still get back together. We fight all the time about every little thing. I have never cheated on her but she watches me like a hawk. She checks my wallet for number, she always looks on my cell phone to see who i have been calling. Each time we break up I run straight to all my old friends and start to have fun again but something keeps bringing me back to her. I really don't know what because I know where going to fight again and i know that I would rather be hanging with my friends. Everyone but her says I'm a much happier person when I'm apart from her. But, everyone is tired of hearing about my problems.

 

 

The last it about a year ago she found out she was pregent. We were just about to break up again to but I said that I would never run away from my child. I was adpoted and i said that was my choice because I thought i was to young to provide the best life for this child and she conviced me otherwise. Well, i told my parents of this and their exact words were "Well your died to us know you are no long expected in this family!" This just killed me inside but I thought they would come around.

 

 

Well, here I am again I don't want to be with this girl. I'm not happy with her and i'm sick of fighting all the time with her. If its hanging out with my friends from work or talking to my sister. Pretty much anything will set her off. I do not want to run away from my son I just don't want to be with her. And 3 weeks ago I told her this. She has moved to her parents house sense then but everyday I'm come home from work she is here begging not to break up our family and she swears she will change but i've heard it 1000 times. I said i would think about only because of my son. but, i truly beleive I , her and our son will be happier in the long run if we just shared cusdity of him.

 

Please help me? If i'm truly not happy with her should i stay with her? for our son? just looking for some help

thankz

[J_weik]

For the sake of your son, i would atleast try. Maybe tell her you need to take a break and clear your thoughts? Maybe that is all you need.