veggirl Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I wouldn't word it like that, no, but I can tell someone I am not interested in them. I would never say "I am not attracted to you", though. That's kinda mean, why hurt their feelings any more than I have to? 2
Author WonderKid Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 What if you went with someone and you fell out of attraction to them. You broke up. And they want to know the reason why?
MrCastle Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I feel you don't have to. People should get the hint. They find themselves always having to contact you first. You're "busy" anytime they want to hang out. They'll get it, and it's a softer blow compared to saying straight up I'm not interested. That's bad news. I wouldn't go that route and I would hope people wouldn't do it to me either. 1
ikele Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I feel you don't have to. People should get the hint. They find themselves always having to contact you first. You're "busy" anytime they want to hang out. They'll get it, and it's a softer blow compared to saying straight up I'm not interested. That's bad news. I wouldn't go that route and I would hope people wouldn't do it to me either. softer blow short term, but harder long term. its a harder blow long term because they don't know why they keep getting broken up with and don't get the hints. 1
veggirl Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 What if you went with someone and you fell out of attraction to them. You broke up. And they want to know the reason why? Okay, well if we were already in an established R and I lost attraction then yes I would be honest. I mean if we dated for 3 months or something, maybe not, but if we were in a serious R (like a year+) then I would tell them. However! I would say something before dumping them--so depending on what I lost attraction to they could fix it if they wanted. If it was weight gain, yes I have told an ex that he was gaining a lot of weight and I didn't like it! He didn't change it and it's NOT why we broke up, but if it had been...yeah I suppose I would have told him if he asked. 1
Author WonderKid Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 ^^^ Takes some heart to do that though at least you're honest with it.
without Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 softer blow short term, but harder long term. its a harder blow long term because they don't know why they keep getting broken up with and don't get the hints. Agreed. Very true.
Titanwolf Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Aye. It usually goes, "I can tell you're a beautiful woman, but I'm not attracted to you. I have bad taste I guess". That usually avoids me receiving a swift backhand.
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