skyisfalling Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I hope everyone in the US had a great fourth of july. As for me, I decided that maybe I should put myself out there and go out on a date. So I decided to meet up with a friend who I know was interested in me yesterday. We watched Ted, had dinner, and went for drinks afterwards. During the whole date all I could think of was my ex and how well mannered he was despite him being the biggest douchebag of all time. When my date didn't open the car door for me, I thought of my ex, when my date didn't order for me, i thought of my ex, when my didn't pull out my chair, i thought of my ex. We decided to go for drinks and I guess I didn't realize how much I was drinking and got drunk. I couldn't stop talking about my ex, how bad he was, how good he was, i was pouring out my heart and soul about my ex to my "date." I became the date from hell. I was a trainwreck. Not only did I talk him to death of my ex, but I threw myself at him asking him if he found me attractive. We made out and I was just being such a big hoochie mama I can't believe myself! He was a gentleman and didn't take it further. THANK GOD!!! I hit rock bottom, I just wanted to feel wanted, feel attracted. I remember him telling me that I am in no position to be out on a date. Luckily, my date was nice enough to tell me I had too much to drink and waited with me in my car until i sobered up. I hit rock bottom. I didn't drunk dial my ex, but I couldn't stop thinking about him last night. UGH, I am so ashamed of myself. Just thought i'd vent here and let you know, sometimes, its not better to date. FML, I need to go nurse my hangover.
Zammo25 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 The guy sounds like a decent Man. Maybe you should give him a chance. It may be too soon, but when is too soon ? If it is over it's over so move on.
DMS Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Hang in there sky! I believe it is natural to draw comparisons to your ex but it sounds like this guy was nice enough to see you were in pain and try to let you talk through it. i know you are feeling low but all is not lost. Even going out with someone else is a big step forward. Sure it wasnt easy but in time you will be in tip top shape. 1
Author skyisfalling Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 zammo: definitely not ready to move on yet. thanks dms! Ugh this breaking up thing really sucks. It's the worst possible pain ever. HANDS DOWN!
Zammo25 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 zammo: definitely not ready to move on yet. thanks dms! Ugh this breaking up thing really sucks. It's the worst possible pain ever. HANDS DOWN! Sorry to hear that. I feel your pain. I am in the same position. I just think this guy was very decent to you and you might want to think on that. Not many of those around.
Mariana345 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 :/ At least you know that you're not ready yet. With time you'll find someone even better, you just have to keep trying, whenever you're ready
Author skyisfalling Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Thanks guys. No more romantic dates for me! Can't believe i was such a hoochie mama...
Edtheduck Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Sky, I'm a male, 3 months post BU, and 3 weeks went on a date with a stunner of a lady. How did I feel? I just thought of my ex the whole time, and talked about her a tiny bit. You're not alone. I know I'm not ready to date. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just take your time. I still miss my ex and have a little hope, but, I'd rather stay single and get my head down with work, than go on dates knowing my hearts not really in it. Regardless of it maybe making me feel better at the time. Keep going, even if it's day by day.
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