How do you get closure when there's a definite chance of getting back together?

[cheerflexie]

Hello

 

I just had a breakup recently, there were some issues but it was mainly because my ex was going on an 8 month deployment and it was the most logical thing to do. I know the guy still cares for me very much. he checks in on me every few days through emails and he said we will see how we are when he comes back in 8 months and perhaps start over again. We are no longer lovey dovey but at this point all I want is for this 8 months to fly by and for that reconciliation time to come. My friends tell me I should just come to terms that it's over, stop contact with him and move on. But a part of me feel like I can't have that closure and I'm not willing to let that go yet because we were still so good together especially with that chance of getting back together.

 

Would it be best for me to stop talking to him completely? I'm confused

[Starman8]

If you feel this way, I would tell him about it so you are both very clear on where you stand with each other and what his intentions are when he returns. I can understand that being away from someone that long with little to no contact is very difficult and stressful. I would start with talking with him about it and go from there. Everything must be clear and expectations must be defined.

 

If he's on the same page as you, that's one thing. Otherwise, it's probably best to move on.