DRZ Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Hey, Looking for some constructive steps to know what to do here really. Let's start from the start. Met her several years ago as an acquaintance through mutual interests and at that time she had a BF. Had occasional contact with her and we were maybe slightly attracted to each other but nothing major really. Fast forward to last Winter. We'd not spoken for a while and caught up. She was coming up to a year of being single and I'd been single for a similar period of time so when sparks started to fly it was awesome. We lived a long way apart but I was looking to move more in her direction anyway for work. When a job came up near her that was perfect for me, it seemed like the perfect situation - career move and awesome girl all in one go! Worth noting at this point that she's always been a little bit nuts. Nothing absurd but maybe had lower self-esteem than she ought to have had for a tall, slim stunning brunette and a touch of depression which she was dealing with appropriately through her doctor. So yeah, 6 months later and we're broken up. I guess the relationship was a little one-sided in that I was head-over-heels madly in love with her and she said she felt the same but clearly didn't as she left me saying all the usual stuff - didn't want to be in a relationship because of her issues, i deserved better etc etc. Tough to take but I did what I thought was best, I went off to my old friends and had about 10 days of being surrounded by support and good times. When I got back, she'd been into my house and collected up anything that would remind me of her barring one or two expensive pieces of jewellery. I contacted her to give her them back and we went out for dinner. Wasn't unpleasant but when I left I was a touch upset. That was 2 weeks ago, so 3 weeks after the split. Last night we went out for dinner again, mainly because although we'd not been in contact as such, when we had been in contact it had been "like old times", plus I needed to ask her a favour (pop into my house a couple of times whilst I am away on business to check on things). We had a really pleasant time, but on the way back home we got talking about moving on - she was insisting that I should already be out dating other people etc. I suspected this was because she was doing the same and (stupidly) asked her about it. Turns out that yes, she has been on dates and slept with at least one other person. At that point I was fighting being sick. Immediately I made my excuses and left her but when I got back to my house I was a bit of an emotional mess and called her. I'm not exactly sure what we talked about but she was upset and angry and I was upset and angry, there was a bit of a row and now we're not talking (pretty much enforced by her). I know "no contact" is supposed to be the best policy but I kinda really feel like I don't want to leave it on a bad note like that. She's the only person I've ever thought about wanting to spend the rest of my life with as a serious thought...
Chi townD Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 (edited) Dude, she was giving you hints. She wants you to move on because she already has! I mean, dating and sleeping with other people in less than a month should give you an indication on how much she was invested into the relationship. Time to go complete NC, delete everything about her. Block her on Facebook and heal! Don't worry about leaving it on a bad note. Her actions showed you where she stood. She didn't even mourn the lose of the relationship, so I doubt she's put any much thought into you. (sorry to be blunt) Time to move on to bigger and better things. Edited July 5, 2012 by Chi townD 2
headsashed Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 i agree with everything chitown said. Its time to move on pal.
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