somedude81 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I think there is a difference between settling and lowering expectations. If a girl was totally into Ryan Gosling and was saving herself for him and turned down all other guys because she thought they weren't as good as he was. Then one day she realized, "Hmm, I'm never going to have a relationship with goose and somedude is a pretty cool dude, I'll go out with him." That's perfectly fine with me. It's basically a girl or a guy, realizing that their standards were too high and they started to focus on reality. The key thing is that they can't bring up their ideal and make their partner feel insecure. 1
Leopard Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Every woman that dated me for a few months then blew me off all came around a yr later when they realized I was in shape and acting like I won the lottery because they now deemed me good enough. I invited them over for a movie, told them to wear something sexy for the lulz. I mean honestly, it blows my mind that a woman can waste someone's time like that, blow them off for someone "better" then when "better" is done banging her & moved on they notice i'm not fat anymore & come a calling me & expect me to be over joyed? How could I take someone like that seriously? Every single ex boyfriend I have ever had told me this exact same thing. "When the next guy hurts you, you will come running back to me." The funny thing is, the next guy was always better than the last
NeoGen85 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Hrm. Settling? Well. Sometimes settling isn't a bad thing because there are a few cases where people find the one they're looking for. We just don't settle for people who we think are absolutely repulsive in the first place. You people make it sound like you know someone who fell in love(or they think they're in love) with a large person who slobbers, and has a princess laying on their belly tied to chains. And Jabba the Hutt was ugly AND mean! I do understand. I have two friends dating and they look absolutely great together. But sometimes looks can be deceiving. My homeboy hates that his girlfriend his clingy and how she doesn't really have a life outside of work. He can't get any space. With that said, his girlfriend doesn't like liars and he lies to her sometimes in order to do what he wants to do. This always creates arguments. On the other hand I have a home-girl who has pretty high standards. The last boyfriend she had was a handsome established military doctor. Then she dates a man who installs garage door openers for a living. But! They're perfect together. He was able to open her up and show her how to have a good time. On the other hand she made him realize what should be important to him. Now he's back in college getting his degree in computer science. I've seen other the men she's been with and not one has made her this happy. Not to mention he's shorter than her and she hates short men. To be honest people have some unrealistic standards and beliefs. Check it; how many of us believe in not killing one another but they support wartime efforts?
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