LittleMonkey Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Hey, so I met this amazing girl about a month ago and we had a really good connection, we talked about emotions and how we feel, and she had a preplanned trip abroad for a month and a half. Contact with her, when she's not in front of me, has always been a little scarce. She attributed it first to being embarrassed talking on the phone, to being extremely busy with preparations for the trip later. A few times we wanted to meet (to come to her parents', to the movies) but she eventually couldn't and I was left in the dark about it because I didn't know what's going on, also because of the preparations and the pressure before the trip. We did meet a few times before the trip, and when we met she alleviated all my fears and told me how she likes me and that I have nothing to worry about. I gave her the keys to my apartment, and she said she'll carry them with her throughout the trip, and she'll move in with me when she comes back. Her flight was a week ago, I was with her at the airport with her parents (whom she told about me, and how excited she is with me) She told me she was excited about the trip but now bummed to go because it will be far from me, wanted me not to forget her (of course not!) and that she loved me (which I told her as well). I made her a drawing for the flight, of our first kiss and wrote a letter. We talked about talking when she's over there and she said she'll talk to me all the time on skype etc, and I was really happy. When I'm with her I feel like in a dream. So she took the flight, and since then there have been only texts, most if not all responses to my texts, she did say she misses me already.. I tried not to text her too much (although she said she wanted me to text her) so we had about one exchange a day. On monday, I texted her in the morning asking how about some skype when she has the time (I saw her online there), and texted her again in the afternoon seeing her online, she said she's going to sleep, I told her good night, then she replied with how she misses me, and she wants only to kiss me, and that I'm so handsome.. I told her I think about her all the time, she said she does as well and it's tough for her. The day after, I was relaxed, again I texted in the afternoon with how I miss her, and tried to strike up a text-conversation with how was her day (seeing her uploading a pic to facebook) no reply. So I thought I'll wait. I waited a day, and nothing and here I am, a day after that, with still nothing, no response or message from her. I'm not sure what to do, I'm afraid I've messed things up by contacting too much... What do I do? I really don't want to lose her, I really think about her all the time, I'm afraid she'll forget about me if I won't contact her, or think I don't want to talk to her, and afraid of bugging her or driving her away if I do text her.. I don't understand why she saw my messages and didn't reply to them.. Am I not important to her like she said? Am I second priority to facebook or the other people she texts? (saw her online on the later days too) What if I wait and she doesn't contact me at all? What about that part when she said she misses me so much? I really miss her and don't know what's happening...
carhill Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I wouldn't expect much after a month, especially if distance is involved in the dynamic. She's on vacation, hopefully enjoying herself. Leave her the space to do that. How long is the trip? Are we talking a couple of weeks or months here? If you quit monitoring her online activities and focus on other things, other people, and your own life, the natural progression of things will flow. It's not uncommon for people to 'meet' someone while on vacation, so that's a potential too. Unless and until you've clarified your association as exclusive and monogamous, that potential for either of you is a normal and healthy possibility. I'd keep things light and contact only occasionally.
stillafool Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Wow I think you guys are moving way too fast for only knowing each other for a month!? She is on vacation in a foreign country and has alot to see and people to meet. I think you should back off and give her freedom to enjoy herself.
Art_Critic Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I wouldn't expect much after a month, especially if distance is involved in the dynamic. She's on vacation, hopefully enjoying herself. Leave her the space to do that. How long is the trip? Are we talking a couple of weeks or months here? If you quit monitoring her online activities and focus on other things, other people, and your own life, the natural progression of things will flow. It's not uncommon for people to 'meet' someone while on vacation, so that's a potential too. Unless and until you've clarified your association as exclusive and monogamous, that potential for either of you is a normal and healthy possibility. I'd keep things light and contact only occasionally. I totally agree with Carhill...
Author LittleMonkey Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Well, I broke, I've sent her another text 2.5 days after the previous one, hoping she has a nice weekend, and saying it would be nice to hear from her, and that I miss her. No reply. That's it, I'm not sending any more texts.
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