LoverOfDance Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I feel like I can't deal with anything at all with a guy right now if I'm trying to dance cause dancing requires so much focus and concentration(and that's one thing I'm struggling with - focus). Today, this guy whom I've met twice came to dance class. I usually stand at the back so he stood next to me. He didn't say hi so I thought - who cares who says hi first. Waiting 4 the other person to say something first is so high school. I said hi to him and went back to my dancing. Felt like he was getting closer whenever I moved away so I changed my position. I feel like I'm running away from guys right now cause I need to focus on dance but I don't know if I'm making the right decision. Is it ok if I decide to focus on dance right now and ignore guys and dating for a while(maybe a few years), cause I don't feel like I can focus with all that going on. Not sure if I'm making the right decision. What do u guys think?
Trimmer Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 What are your goals in dance? Are you just doing it as a life-enriching activity, or are you studying seriously with the intention of performing, or making it your life's work in some way? How old are you? How much experience do you have with relationships so far? What kind of dance are you studying? One thing about dancers who study dancing with intense focus and who go on to perform at the higher levels, they tend to find that they are able to expose themselves emotionally on stage, but perhaps only on stage, as the other side of that is if they don't take care to create a balanced life, they are less able to expose themselves emotionally in their interpersonal relationships. So what are your goals for dance and how it will fit into your life? 1
fishtaco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Actually you don't need a reason to not date. If you're not ready, you're not ready. You don't need dancing, or anything else, to justify not dating. Just out of curiosity, are you doing dancing as a career, or just a major hobby? Are you doing salsa? tango? swing? I went though a period where I only focused on music. I didn't date, because I wasn't ready. I also went through a period where I only focused on working, I didn't date, because I wasn't ready. When you decide you don't want to date, you will miss opportunities. But there will be more opportunities in the future. It's better to get your life together first. 1
Author LoverOfDance Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 What are your goals in dance? Are you just doing it as a life-enriching activity, or are you studying seriously with the intention of performing, or making it your life's work in some way? How old are you? How much experience do you have with relationships so far? What kind of dance are you studying? One thing about dancers who study dancing with intense focus and who go on to perform at the higher levels, they tend to find that they are able to expose themselves emotionally on stage, but perhaps only on stage, as the other side of that is if they don't take care to create a balanced life, they are less able to expose themselves emotionally in their interpersonal relationships. So what are your goals for dance and how it will fit into your life? Wow, you're so right about dancers not being able to expose themselves emotionally in their interpersonal lives. A lot of them seem to me like they have only one emotion - happiness. But when they dance they show so many other emotions - anger, sadness, happiness, and I can't help but wonder where all that comes from. I'm not like that. When I dance I try to show as much emotion as possible but in my relationships with friends, siblings etc, I do the same. I like to stay positive most of the time but I don't act like happiness is my only emotion. I think that's why I don't find it hard to make friends or find friends that I can call close friends. I think It's because I don't hide my emotions. If they don't need to be hidden, I show them. I only hide them when I feel it might be best to keep them hidden. Honestly, I'm just very passionate about dance. I take training very seriously. I compete as much as I can and that's it. I think as time goes on I'll figure out what I really want to do with it. I'm training in different styles right now(hip hop, whacking and house. I'm also training in freestyle dancing as well) and as time goes on, I plan to expand my focus and learn other styles that I find interesting as well. I'm 20. Why do u ask?
Author LoverOfDance Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Actually you don't need a reason to not date. If you're not ready, you're not ready. You don't need dancing, or anything else, to justify not dating. Just out of curiosity, are you doing dancing as a career, or just a major hobby? Are you doing salsa? tango? swing? I went though a period where I only focused on music. I didn't date, because I wasn't ready. I also went through a period where I only focused on working, I didn't date, because I wasn't ready. When you decide you don't want to date, you will miss opportunities. But there will be more opportunities in the future. It's better to get your life together first. Thank you for your reply. That's exactly how I feel. I feel like I'm not ready. I feel like I just don't need that in my life right now. It feels like a distraction. But I also feel like I might be missing out on a lot. I don't want the love of my life to walk in and walk out of my life without me knowing it. I feel like this is what is best 4 me right now but I may also be wrong. I just don't want to make a decision I'll regret later in life.
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