greaze_munky Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 hi everyone, i need some real help from people at the moment, so any advice would be really appreciated. heres the story. i'm 21 and my girlfriend is 23. we started going out early last year, and went out for about 5 months till she came to uni one morning and said to me 'i love someone else more than you' and i found out it was a guy who was meant to be my friend. it crushed me, but i said alright as long as your happy, and don't do anything with him in front of me. so about 3 hours later she was kissing him infront of me. which drove me insane, and i ended up drinking like there was no tomorrow, and i was getting so angry that i punched a brick wall and nearly broke my hand (but i never did it in front of her). When i asked her a week later she told me it was because i never showed her i loved her, which i found so strange because i do love her more than anyone else in the world. so anyway after 4 weeks we were out with some of our friends and she kissed me, and told me how much she missed me. we slept together and we got back together. Everything was fantastic from there on. she told me that she didn't deserve me, that i was way too good for her and so on. and for the first time ever she told me she wanted to be with me and no one would come between us for the world. Then came new years. I had spent about $300 getting a nice hotel, wine etc for a romantic evening. she rang me up and told me her friend had been having a fight with her, and when she came to my place i saw that something was wrong. she knows she can tell me anything, coz i care respect and love her. and she told me she didn't want to spoil the night so don't worry. i asked her again later that night and she told me she had been in a lesbian relationship with her friend for the past 6 years and had broken it off to be with me. but her friend had gone and told her mum and her mum went nuts and wouldn't speak to her. so i did everything i could to help her and look after her coz she was near suicidal. then in late january she broke up with me saying that she loved both me and her friend and she needed to decide what she wanted. we saw each other once while we were broken up, which was so hard because we couldn't help kissing each other and hugging. She went in for a dental operation the day before valentines day, so when she came out i had a whole lot of stuff for her to cheer her up. She started crying and said no one had ever given her a valentines before and she was glad i was the first, and told me she loved me. we went out on the friday, and i gave her the silver bracelet i had bought her, and she started crying again, and we got back together in mid february. everything has been alright since then. But she does talk badly to me and treat me like dirt some times. see when she is happy things are absolutely fantastic, but when she's depressed things are aweful. i love her to death and for some reason understand why she's the way she is. her father walk out on her family when she was 6. her brother hates her and her mother. and her mother is insane. her mother has brought her up hating men, and constantly tells her she is a disappointment, and dirty, and blames her for everything wrong in her life. and about 3 weeks ago her mother started up about the lesbian thing again and now won't speak to her. so she is forced to move out of home, but can't find a place to live. i don't have my license till next week so i can't help her. but everything was alright between me and her till about a week about when she stopped calling, and kept cancelling our plans to go out. and she sounds like she never wants to talk to me. is there something wrong? have i done something and not realised or have i not done something and need to? i had asked her if she wanted me to help her find a house and to live with her and she told me no. so i haven't asked since. and she has now started saying she doesn't want to answer me when i ask if she loves me. Is it just coz she's depressed and tired, or is it something else? i need help bad.
moimeme Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 How ever are any of us supposed to know what's wrong with her? Ask her!!!! Only she can tell you what's going on in her head. Best we can do is guess - and likely guess wrong. Ask the girl!!!
Fritz Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Ask her whats wrong? But that would be too easy! Personally, I'd have doubts about continuing a serious relationship with her given that shes cheated on you twice or however that all works out.
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