Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 He broke up with me, we had no contact for 5 weeks, I thought it was time to reach out and see if there was any chance of reconciliation, he called me back, we spoke for 15 minutes, and then went NC for the next two weeks. He got in touch with me once after those two weeks and it was to tell me to go sell the jewelry he bought me. What an effing loser. It's been almost two weeks since THAT text. So aside from a 15 minute phone call, and 2-3 texts completely going off on him and one final email... it's been about 2+ months NC. I haven't been happier. I realize how unhealthy my relationship was. How unhappy, how stressed out, how full of anxiety, self-doubt, and insecurities I was. It was always eggshells making sure HE was happy. And that I didn't make HIM annoyed. Wow, you are very strong. I would not have the corkage to contact him at all. I really can't handle rejection that well. It must have been really hard for you to hear those words from him. It seem like he is very immature. Using words to hurt you more than he already had. Meanwhile he was the piece of sh*t who treated me however he felt, cheated on me, lied to me up and down, didn't stand up to his a*hole friends who disrespected me, made me out to be the bad person in everything. I have to say all of this NC has made me truly hate him as an individual. I'm more upset at myself for staying as long as I did, and allowing him to make me feel so utterly worthless. NC WINS!!! So yeah, 2+ months and I feel fabulous. Wow, you are very strong. I would not have the courage to contact him at all. I really can't handle rejection that well. It must have been really hard for you to hear those words from him. It seem like he is very immature. Using words to hurt you more than he already had. I believe in second chances but I completely agree with you. If he cheated on you and crossed the line by disrespecting you than he does not deserve your time. What an A**!. My ex also allowed his friend to disrespect me and most of them don't even like me. I am learning now to never see any time wasted as a loss. You gain experience in every realationship. Such as to value yourself more and to set new boundaries. I am also learning to forgive. Even if he is a worthless piece of junk. Forgive but don't forget. I am happy to hear you have moved on. More power to you!
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 4 1/2 weeks... just with occasional contact to exchange our stuffs I'm starting ex-detox, about 60 days of NC!! so, I hope this 2 months will help me Ugh, it must have been awful! I still have his stuff but I will never waste my time to give it back. If he wants it back he can come and get it. The hardest days are the first few. You may get triggers to call or check his FB. DON'T!. He can do what ever the hell he wants. SO CAN YOU. the world is waiting for you. I have also started to work out everyday. Every single day I either run, workout, or dance. It has helped me soooo much. The 2 months will help you move on. Post back if you need a little push and remember to Stay strong!
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I've been NC for a year and two months. We have been in contact 3 times all initiated by him. Nothing came of it though. Did you want something to happen? What did he call you for?
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 about 5 weeks,NC broken by her about 3 times,i never responded. Do you want her back? Or is she not trying hard enough to win you back?
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Five months, as of today. Still hurting. Wow five months is a while and you are still hurt. Have you been checking up on him/her?. Do you want to get back or move on?
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Day number 2. I don't like it one bit you are still fresh. Ugh it sucks I know! The first two weeks are painful that is why you take your pain and put it some where else. Like your body. Working out and going out dancing. I lost 3inches in my waistline. . The minute we broke up I knew I had to move on or else I would probely go crazy. That is why I suggest you go out and have fun. Trust me I think iam like two weeks in and I feel better each day.
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I managed to keep NC for 3 months. He broke it and called. me. We still speak its been 1 month. And it seems like he wants me back, at the moment trying to fix his life and he seems to be doing better. Also brings up marriage alot How often do you guys speak? Maybe he is testing the waters to see if you will still be around. Why don't you tell him to call you when he is done fixing his life and can provide for you. 3 months is alot of progress and while he is "fixing" his life you are improving yourself more and enjoying life. Either way, hope this is someone who love you and respects you and hopefully be happy together once again.
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 Managed 3 weeks til i caved and texted, she answered back eagerly but short. Did the dumb thing of bringing up the relationship and upset her again. went another 12 days and text-apologized with no response. Now its day 4 She has your apologetic text and you still haven't heard back from her. She probely just wants her space. I think you are doing great. You learned from your mistake and now you know not to conatct her. Take this time for you to improve on yourself. Every time you want to text, call, check FB remember that you have self control. It's very powerful though to control your anxiety and not give in to your fears. Let her be. Do what make you happy. Even if it's alone. Think of it like this. You have made the decision to not contact her anymore. You chose to move on. You left her. It's her loss. Trust me when she sees you sexy, confident, admirable, she will see if she can get you back. That is were you get her back and say no. The best revenge you can give an ex is being better than you ever were with them. Trust me. stay positive and stay menatlly strong.
pathetic1999 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 10 weeks of BU and NC both. I don't know if it's my NC or his....He wrote me an email and phone call that said it's easier on us both if we don't talk then I wrote him back and said please don't respond I couldn't handle hearing him say how much he loves me but can't be with me. So I don't know! He hasn't contacted me at all until today or rather this weekend which I just posted about and it wasn't really contact...he told someone to tell my co-worker to remind her about my birthday on Sunday (as if my friends forget), he knows my co-worker would tell me where the info came from we are women after all! So I don't know what to think about it except he wants to "appear sweet" in my eyes and not have me think he forgot about me but also NOT that he wants me back or he would have contacted me....even if he thinks I asked him not too if he wanted to badly enough he would have. I am still having a hard time depressed a lot, but I have also made big differences in my life, new friends go out a lot having lots of fun. Things he would have never let me do as he was very jealous.
raspberry.12 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 10 weeks since I last saw him, NC since then. My life was like hell for the first few weeks, but since I started accepting the truth, I felt so much better. Whether we could be friends or in contact again in the future or not, to me, it's no longer a problem. If he wants me back, he has to come to me. I'm still missing him though.
ac11442 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 34 days. It's been tough. Literally 5 days ago I hit rock bottom and thought it's never ever going to get better. But here it is, 5 days later, and even though it's still hard and I'm still struggling I'm beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Well, maybe not the actual light, but the hint that a light might be there someday. For now that's enough to keep me going. 5 days ago I couldn't have even typed this without crying. I can feel that horrible tightening of the throat and stinging of the eyes coming on, but no tears as of yet. Progress! 1
Svet74 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 How often do you guys speak? Maybe he is testing the waters to see if you will still be around. Why don't you tell him to call you when he is done fixing his life and can provide for you. 3 months is alot of progress and while he is "fixing" his life you are improving yourself more and enjoying life. Either way, hope this is someone who love you and respects you and hopefully be happy together once again. Yes i think so. I think he might think that i am waiting for him because i still talk to him. we would speak a couple times a week or so. Plus he was fixing my moms car and we kept in touch for that reason. and sometimes talked about other thinks. I dont want him to think that i am waiting for him so im careful on what i say or when he makes jokes about other girls I dont get mad or defensive and dont show jealousy. As for resect he was careful the way he spoke to me until this weekend. embarressed me in front of his sister. Just acted like a complete jerk I was shocked
IST Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 How do I stay commited to No Contact? I keep wanting to text her/call her even though I know she'll just ignore me. I've been trying to go NC for over 2 weeks now, but I keep messaging her every couple of days. She hasn't talked to me (other than to coordinate getting each other's stuff back) since the 27th.
Pod81 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 23 days of NC and 27 days since BU. Although I do miss her, she is finally starting to step off the pedestal that I put her on. The most difficult part so far is not breaking NC, but taking off those rose-tinted glasses. Getting there slowly but surely...
Sugarkane Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 1 year and have not been contacted since. Me too, i usually feel like the only one on here.
jmjacobs31 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I am about to start complete NC on Sunday! Up until this point we had to have contact many times in the past 3 months since our break up. He got mad when I left my keys for our house when I moved out and told him I wanted to go NC (he broke up with me). I can't wait to go completely NC. I hope it makes things easier.
fucpcg Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 She dumped me and went NC 4 days before our 1 year anniversary. She has maintained it for 16 months. I still don't do well with it at all. Whoever thinks they don't always come back, that hasn't been the case for me. First love went NC on me for a year, then tried to win me back, then became total bitch again and disappeared. 15 years later, she finds me on FB and apologizes for what she did to me back then. My second love came back to me a year after NC. My third love came back about 4 years later. They all have come back to rekindle at least a friendship, though the longest took a decade and a half. NC for a year is small on the scale of life.
Sugarkane Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 She dumped me and went NC 4 days before our 1 year anniversary. She has maintained it for 16 months. I still don't do well with it at all. Whoever thinks they don't always come back, that hasn't been the case for me. First love went NC on me for a year, then tried to win me back, then became total bitch again and disappeared. 15 years later, she finds me on FB and apologizes for what she did to me back then. My second love came back to me a year after NC. My third love came back about 4 years later. They all have come back to rekindle at least a friendship, though the longest took a decade and a half. NC for a year is small on the scale of life. Still haven't heard from my first ex a decade ago. He constantly followed me and made out with his gf whenever he could. I couldn't do much we had classes together. I tried avoiding them, they stalked me everywhere. I've only heard back from an ex when he blamed the whole breakup on me and bragged about how much better he was without me. He asked me back, stood me up and then verbally abused me by text. He also had a new gf,
fobosk Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 2 days NC after a week since she has "wanted to be single right now" I feel like texting her or calling her every single minute. I check her facebook/social media every second. this is tough.
CopingGal Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 My ex is such a callous toxic person, I want to be in NC the rest if my life. I'm not joking. It's the same with me Sugar! My ex is VERY toxic and I'm NC for life!
CopingGal Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Still haven't heard from my first ex a decade ago. He constantly followed me and made out with his gf whenever he could. I couldn't do much we had classes together. I tried avoiding them, they stalked me everywhere. I've only heard back from an ex when he blamed the whole breakup on me and bragged about how much better he was without me. He asked me back, stood me up and then verbally abused me by text. He also had a new gf, There's something wrong with him. My ex didn't abuse me by text. He psychologically abused me.
Tree_Salmon Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 my ex has come back time and time again. Usually after a month of NC. It's almost been one week of my fresh new NC. But i can go for a long time. She has been writing me however. Messages that will get my attention and she wants me to respond to. It's just not working.
headonstraight Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 BU was 1 month ago. NC from the moment she dumped me. LC (voice-mails) initiated by her twice, and one instance of text. The latest attempted call from her was 1.5 weeks ago when she asked me to help her with something. I texted her back, respectfully declined, and haven't heard from her since. I then found out she went on a date(s) a few days after she dumped me. That was my closure. I don't think I ever want to hear from her again. Each day is getting easier for me, I'm gaining my confidence back at an exponential rate, and I am becoming very selfish by focusing on me (contrarily, I focused too much on HER during our relationship - I was incredibly selfless). It also helped my confidence the other day when a gorgeous woman said that I should consider modelling, and another woman thought I was 12-15 years younger than I actually am. Grass is greener for the other party too, my dear Ex. Thanks! NC for yourself is a blessing.
2muchlove Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 my ex has come back time and time again. Usually after a month of NC. It's almost been one week of my fresh new NC. But i can go for a long time. She has been writing me however. Messages that will get my attention and she wants me to respond to. It's just not working. I know its cynical to think this way. But I love reading things like this. Warms my heart. 1
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