Cl0udy Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Have they tried to contact you and how long has it been that you decided to cut them out? I am still fresh and hurt. He broke up with me to have guilt free sex with other girls. I have not checked up on him and I don't plan on taking him back. I am still hurt and obviously still thinking of him. How do you guys/gals feel up to this point? Thanks for any feedback.
BB7 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Been NC for 2 weeks. Been broken up for about 2 1/2 months, hit a rough patch due to injury about a month ago which stuffed any progress I had made (I was in patches of NC/LC before that). Haven't heard anything from her and I don't even know if I want to.
coltsfan1 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I have been in NC for close to 2 years. I still think about my ex, I miss my friend. However my friend is gone, I have now came to terms with her choice and respect it. my life has improved greatly, I do not know where or what my ex is doing. We have seen each other out and now we are just two passing strangers. It took all this time to get there but it is best for us both. You will get there as well!
barese1 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 5 1/2 weeks NC. Never heard sh^t from her, worse time of my life ever, only look forward to being asleep so I don't have to deal with the pain 2
KatZee Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 He broke up with me, we had no contact for 5 weeks, I thought it was time to reach out and see if there was any chance of reconciliation, he called me back, we spoke for 15 minutes, and then went NC for the next two weeks. He got in touch with me once after those two weeks and it was to tell me to go sell the jewelry he bought me. What an effing loser. It's been almost two weeks since THAT text. So aside from a 15 minute phone call, and 2-3 texts completely going off on him and one final email... it's been about 2+ months NC. I haven't been happier. I realize how unhealthy my relationship was. How unhappy, how stressed out, how full of anxiety, self-doubt, and insecurities I was. It was always eggshells making sure HE was happy. And that I didn't make HIM annoyed. Meanwhile he was the piece of sh*t who treated me however he felt, cheated on me, lied to me up and down, didn't stand up to his a*hole friends who disrespected me, made me out to be the bad person in everything. I have to say all of this NC has made me truly hate him as an individual. I'm more upset at myself for staying as long as I did, and allowing him to make me feel so utterly worthless. NC WINS!!! So yeah, 2+ months and I feel fabulous. 1
Mariana345 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 4 1/2 weeks... just with occasional contact to exchange our stuffs I'm starting ex-detox, about 60 days of NC!! so, I hope this 2 months will help me
edelveis Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Hi.i started strict NC right after she dumped me that means since 2months and 5 days ago..we havent seen each other after that and i dont know what she is up to.i try not to care anyway.i have my up and down periods and miss her but i am working hard on it and i have made some improvements.i dont know how long its gonna take but i ll make it.and the same will you.its normal to miss him and often think of him even if you ve decided that its over for you even if he comes back someday.try to be strong and find something to focus on.i ll be glad to be reading about your progress in the near future take care 1
CopingGal Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 (edited) I've been in NC since either October or November of last year. Yes, my ex did call me sometimes and harassed me. If you read my entry in the "Post here instead of Contacting Your Ex" Thread, you can see what happened. It's on Page 448 of the thread, #6720 The last time I had contact with my ex was on April 2nd. I think my ex no longer contacts me because he began to take my threats to report him to the police seriously. I'm feeling okay. NC helped tremendously. Edited July 5, 2012 by CopingGal 2
CaliBabe Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I've been NC for a year and two months. We have been in contact 3 times all initiated by him. Nothing came of it though.
headsashed Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 about 5 weeks,NC broken by her about 3 times,i never responded.
kyle77 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 well i had a nice streak of 3 months going until she texted me and then that through me all crazy for a bit....bottom line is no contact makes it sooo much easier..... 3
Sugarkane Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I've been in NC over a year and a half. Anyone that tells you they always come back is lying.
Svet74 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I managed to keep NC for 3 months. He broke it and called. me. We still speak its been 1 month. And it seems like he wants me back, at the moment trying to fix his life and he seems to be doing better. Also brings up marriage alot
steelgator Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Managed 3 weeks til i caved and texted, she answered back eagerly but short. Did the dumb thing of bringing up the relationship and upset her again. went another 12 days and text-apologized with no response. Now its day 4
Tree_Salmon Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I just went back on NC for the last 3 days after a month of communication. Before then it was 1 month and she started contacting me. So much easier to do NC now. I can probably do it indefinitely. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Managed 3 weeks til i caved and texted, she answered back eagerly but short. Did the dumb thing of bringing up the relationship and upset her again. went another 12 days and text-apologized with no response. Now its day 4 Don't apologize and don't text about the relationship. I bet if you let a month she'll text you then you play it off like you don't care. Watch her scramble. And at that point you shouldn't care anyway. It's her job to bring up the relationship and if she doesnt then just let it go.
Green21 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 For me, it's been about 13 months. Last time I tried communicating with her was the day we broke up. Received a letter and some of my things back a month later, but that was it. Sadly, I did receive an email from her account last weekend, which made my pulse race a bit. I opened it...and found it was a spam email containing a dodgy link to something irrelevant. To the person above, saying "Anyone that tells you they always come back is lying.", they've summed it up perfectly in one sentence. It's a harsh reality but once you realise this, it does get better. Keep yourselves busy and don't let someone who's no longer in your life try and rule your head. I spent too long thinking about what we had and how callously it was thrown away but being angry is only going to hurt you and make it harder to move on. 1
Sugarkane Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 My ex is such a callous toxic person, I want to be in NC the rest if my life. I'm not joking. 2
Tree_Salmon Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 My ex is such a callous toxic person, I want to be in NC the rest if my life. I'm not joking. This is true.
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I have been in NC for close to 2 years. I still think about my ex, I miss my friend. However my friend is gone, I have now came to terms with her choice and respect it. my life has improved greatly, I do not know where or what my ex is doing. We have seen each other out and now we are just two passing strangers. It took all this time to get there but it is best for us both. You will get there as well! I agree with you, I think what hurts the most is that you had something so special with this person and then suddenly they become strangers in your life again. It's a sad truth in life. 2
Author Cl0udy Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 5 1/2 weeks NC. Never heard sh^t from her, worse time of my life ever, only look forward to being asleep so I don't have to deal with the pain The minute he broke up with me I decided to move on. I did not want to bury myself in a hole. I only allowed myself to hurt for a couple of days. After that I began to plan my life again. It was very exciting. In the begining it was hard but now I love to run, go out dancing, and meet new people. Trust me, they have moved on. It's time for you to start fresh with yourself again. You don't need her in your life. Plus working out releases any pain you feel. I really hope you've been feeling better.
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