Svet74 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Is it weird that im sort of feeling indifferent toward my ex? we made it 3 months NC and then he broke it so we have been in contact for 1 month. The only time id see him is if he fixed mine or my moms car. Which he is still working on. But if he goes days without calling or whatever it doesnt bother me, I never ask him what he is up to or anything about his life unless he just tells me himself. we have been broken up over a yr. But when we were in NC i thought about him constantly and wanted to talk to him so bad. I have no idea whats going on? 1
carhill Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 It sounds like you've processed the end of the relationship and now accept it. Indifference is the antithesis of love. He's a zero now, not in a bad or demeaning way, rather merely like the background noise of life. That's pretty normal IME. 1
Samilia Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Is it weird that im sort of feeling indifferent toward my ex? we made it 3 months NC and then he broke it so we have been in contact for 1 month. The only time id see him is if he fixed mine or my moms car. Which he is still working on. But if he goes days without calling or whatever it doesnt bother me, I never ask him what he is up to or anything about his life unless he just tells me himself. we have been broken up over a yr. But when we were in NC i thought about him constantly and wanted to talk to him so bad. I have no idea whats going on? You got over him?
Author Svet74 Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 You got over him? Lol, It is so hard to believe Because I honestly thought I never would! Its true what they say. Time heals everything At this point i could care less if he is part of my life or not. A little bit of me yes still cares, and yes has love for him, and yes hopes that he changes for himself, But if he doesnt then im really not losing anything after all, I lost him the day he broke up with me 1
Samilia Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Lol, It is so hard to believe Because I honestly thought I never would! Its true what they say. Time heals everything At this point i could care less if he is part of my life or not. A little bit of me yes still cares, and yes has love for him, and yes hopes that he changes for himself, But if he doesnt then im really not losing anything after all, I lost him the day he broke up with me Oh for sure, I still have feeling for my ex (few years back), even my very first boyfriend actually (we're talking 20 years ago), but I also am over them.
Mariana345 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Lol, It is so hard to believe Because I honestly thought I never would! Its true what they say. Time heals everything At this point i could care less if he is part of my life or not. A little bit of me yes still cares, and yes has love for him, and yes hopes that he changes for himself, But if he doesnt then im really not losing anything after all, I lost him the day he broke up with me That was so inspiring! Congratulations on being ok again be happy!! 1
Samilia Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 That was so inspiring! Congratulations on being ok again be happy!! She should get a medal or something 2
Author Svet74 Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Thanks girls! Im finally enjoying my life. Spending time with friends, meeting people and traveling. 6 months ago those are the things i didnt want to do. just wanted to always be home, was tired and depressed. I got myself back!
Samilia Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Thanks girls! Im finally enjoying my life. Spending time with friends, meeting people and traveling. 6 months ago those are the things i didnt want to do. just wanted to always be home, was tired and depressed. I got myself back! That's awesome !
flitzanu Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 yup. when you feel nothing, you've gotten over it. don't push your luck though, no reason to try and be friends or anything like that.
Zammo25 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Indifference is the worst thing possible. Hate is better as at least that is an emotional response to someone. Indifference means there is nothing left.
flitzanu Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Indifference is the worst thing possible. Hate is better as at least that is an emotional response to someone. Indifference means there is nothing left. why would someone care to have any emotional response to an ex though when you want to be over them?
Zammo25 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 why would someone care to have any emotional response to an ex though when you want to be over them? Clearly she is over him so best to tell him. Why be in contact with him ? It is not fair on him.
carhill Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Yes, since there is no relationship, she should offer to pay him for the work he's doing on hers and her mother's cars and be clear it's all business now. No ambiguity.
Author Svet74 Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Indifference is the worst thing possible. Hate is better as at least that is an emotional response to someone. Indifference means there is nothing left. I would never hate someone, thats an awful feeling. then your living with that unforgivness, hate, anamacity. its just not worth it As for the car, I did pay him for the work, He just has to make some adjustments. At one point we did end up talking about other things rather then the car. Mosty about his life and his future plans or whatever. Im not leading him on or making him think that i want him back. Is it possible that we would ever get back together? I would prob say yeah its possible, because i do have some attraction toward the guy, but there would be a lot for him to work on in order for us to even work out. Im still moving forward. So i mean i dont know
carhill Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Anything is possible. IMO, focus on the real of the moment. You're currently incompatible for a relationship. Act in a manner consistent with that reality. Get the cars done and move on. If he cleans up his act later, see how that goes then, if otherwise unattached.
Author Svet74 Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Anything is possible. IMO, focus on the real of the moment. You're currently incompatible for a relationship. Act in a manner consistent with that reality. Get the cars done and move on. If he cleans up his act later, see how that goes then, if otherwise unattached. Yeah thats exactly what im planning on doing. After this is all done in over with im not planning on keeping in touch with him. When we do talk i keep it short. Dont tell him much about myself and just straight business. He is also trying to leave town for some work so im not gonna see him around anyhow. I also noticed he trys to flirt. I just brush it off. it only confuses me lol. Im always so serious around him
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