Necromancer Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 For a very long time while i was really inexperienced, i believed their bullcrrap excuses and kept pushing my luck. If you don´t want to go out with me just say " i am not interested, sorry and hope you the best " i would be perfectly fine with that (even more). Now i feel like if a girl says she has to go somewhere/blabla i feel like she don't want to meet me. So from now on i will only ask gal 1 time out and if she makes up some excuse, then i will tell her to " call me when she can go out with me " (if they ever call back) and delete the number, seems legit. I hope i will send their hamsters spinning into overdrive.
NYC-BigKat Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 For a very long time while i was really inexperienced, i believed their bullcrrap excuses and kept pushing my luck. If you don´t want to go out with me just say " i am not interested, sorry and hope you the best " i would be perfectly fine with that (even more). Now i feel like if a girl says she has to go somewhere/blabla i feel like she don't want to meet me. So from now on i will only ask gal 1 time out and if she makes up some excuse, then i will tell her to " call me when she can go out with me " (if they ever call back) and delete the number, seems legit. I hope i will send their hamsters spinning into overdrive. Yes! Girls are always lying to me & not giving me a chance. Why I gotta be good-looking when lots of unattractive guys get chances in the streets with cute girls everyday? I wanna be one of them! I made a thread about girls telling me how they so so busy to date. They really mean they will be too busy to date me!!!
Author Necromancer Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Yes! Girls are always lying to me & not giving me a chance. Why I gotta be good-looking when lots of unattractive guys get chances in the streets with cute girls everyday? I wanna be one of them! I made a thread about girls telling me how they so so busy to date. They really mean they will be too busy to date me!!! Unattractive guys don´t get a chance with cute gals 95% of the time (even more). It´s a myth. But it might happen if you are average. Yea, i hate this "turning him down gently". Really? wth, if you want to be gently just tell me that you are not interested. instead of getting pissed off, because i am not getting your turning down gently stuff. 1
Nicomis Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Just remember, if she says anything other than "Yes", or something you could easily verify, then it means she is not into you. Women are big on "you need to be confident, and have courage, blah,blah, blah, but God forbid they should have the stones to politely say "I am not interested".
yongyong Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I say try at least Twice. She might be doing that just to look popular even if she will be in PJs and just watching gossip girl on weekends. If you tell a girl 'call me when you want to hangout', No American girl will call you even though they had an attraction for you. For a very long time while i was really inexperienced, i believed their bullcrrap excuses and kept pushing my luck. If you don´t want to go out with me just say " i am not interested, sorry and hope you the best " i would be perfectly fine with that (even more). Now i feel like if a girl says she has to go somewhere/blabla i feel like she don't want to meet me. So from now on i will only ask gal 1 time out and if she makes up some excuse, then i will tell her to " call me when she can go out with me " (if they ever call back) and delete the number, seems legit. I hope i will send their hamsters spinning into overdrive.
carhill Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 One strike and they're out sound healthy to me. Women around LS seem to agree that they know nearly immediately if a man has romantic potential for them and generally won't say 'no' when that exists. So, 'no' or excuses adding up to 'no' are good information and can be acted upon swiftly and decisively and with a smile. IME, when you run across some who do reject politely and directly, those are some quality people to have in your life if you can reconcile your attraction. Assets come from many directions. It's up to each of us what we choose to do with them. The others? Meh, billions more to be served.
El Brujo Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Sheesh, the least a woman can do is just give a guy the middle finger. Personally, I much prefer the blunt approach to playing Guess My Secret.
lino Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 You'll likely never live to see that happen... Get used to it.
MrCastle Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Some people say they'd want the blunt truth, but I disagree. I don't think many people would want to know flat out they are not attractive in a particular person's eyes. Get better at reading between the lines. There are always signs that let you know if a female is truly interested (hint: go by what she does, not what she says) Improving your interest-o-meter will prevent you from wasting your time on girls that aren't interested. 2
fishtaco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 For a very long time while i was really inexperienced, i believed their bullcrrap excuses and kept pushing my luck. If you don´t want to go out with me just say " i am not interested, sorry and hope you the best " i would be perfectly fine with that (even more). Now i feel like if a girl says she has to go somewhere/blabla i feel like she don't want to meet me. So from now on i will only ask gal 1 time out and if she makes up some excuse, then i will tell her to " call me when she can go out with me " (if they ever call back) and delete the number, seems legit. I hope i will send their hamsters spinning into overdrive. Err... actually... that's what you're supposed to do. You make one try, it doesn't happen, put the ball in their court, move on to the next one.
todreaminblue Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 For a very long time while i was really inexperienced, i believed their bullcrrap excuses and kept pushing my luck. If you don´t want to go out with me just say " i am not interested, sorry and hope you the best " i would be perfectly fine with that (even more). Now i feel like if a girl says she has to go somewhere/blabla i feel like she don't want to meet me. So from now on i will only ask gal 1 time out and if she makes up some excuse, then i will tell her to " call me when she can go out with me " (if they ever call back) and delete the number, seems legit. I hope i will send their hamsters spinning into overdrive. Rejection is rejection.....if they use honesty or excuses.....it still feels the same......still is a blow to your confidence......when you chat to a girl next just enjoy getting to know her..... be interested in what she has to say......show a sense of humor and be open......it will relax her .....and open her up to the possibility of meeting up again......if you are tense she will be tense.....most likely rejection will follow.....dont expect rejection dont expect a yeah sure......just enjoy the moment and the girl you are talking too.....anything else is just bonus time......good luck ....best wishes.....deb
Emilia Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Lots of people, especially men, say things like 'I'd rather have the blunt truth' or 'I'd rather know what she is thinking exactly, I can take it'. The truth is you probably can't. It's your conception of yourself but just how self-aware are you? Rejection is rejection, you need to develop social skills to read between the lines as someone else said. It's not that hard to understand. You should be glad you meet considerate people who don't want to rub your face in it, in my opinion. You would be posting here calling her a bitch otherwise anyways.
fishtaco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Lots of people, especially men, say things like 'I'd rather have the blunt truth' or 'I'd rather know what she is thinking exactly, I can take it'. The truth is you probably can't. It's your conception of yourself but just how self-aware are you? Rejection is rejection, you need to develop social skills to read between the lines as someone else said. It's not that hard to understand. You should be glad you meet considerate people who don't want to rub your face in it, in my opinion. You would be posting here calling her a bitch otherwise anyways. Almost agree. Not all women that reject men indirectly do it for the men's sake. Sometimes it's for self protection, because some men react poorly when rejected directly, sometimes it's to sooth their own guilt - it makes the women feel better about it. But I agree with your point. It's up to the men to figure it out. Also when a woman is interested, she will let you know. She may not hit up on you like a man, but she will not let the opportunity slip through her fingers. The only type of woman that may drop the ball, i.e. run away when she's interested, are ones with low self confidence. But why would anyone want to date that type of women? So rest assured, yes means yes, no means no, and maybe also means no.
Algermas Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Almost agree. Not all women that reject men indirectly do it for the men's sake. Sometimes it's for self protection, because some men react poorly when rejected directly, sometimes it's to sooth their own guilt - it makes the women feel better about it. But I agree with your point. It's up to the men to figure it out. Also when a woman is interested, she will let you know. She may not hit up on you like a man, but she will not let the opportunity slip through her fingers. The only type of woman that may drop the ball, i.e. run away when she's interested, are ones with low self confidence. But why would anyone want to date that type of women? So rest assured, yes means yes, no means no, and maybe also means no. Because the hotter a woman is the more insecure she feels, this is almost universally true. You want a really confident woman? Find one of those large and in charge heifers.
phineas Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I say try at least Twice. She might be doing that just to look popular even if she will be in PJs and just watching gossip girl on weekends. If you tell a girl 'call me when you want to hangout', No American girl will call you even though they had an attraction for you. Actually, if they tell me their "busy" this week I used to tell them to let me know when their free & then not contact them again & some would contact me. But ultimately they blew me off & flaked down the rd. Now I do the binary thing. Anything but yes = no. I just don't dwell on it anymore.
Author Necromancer Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Some people say they'd want the blunt truth, but I disagree. I don't think many people would want to know flat out they are not attractive in a particular person's eyes. Get better at reading between the lines. There are always signs that let you know if a female is truly interested (hint: go by what she does, not what she says) Improving your interest-o-meter will prevent you from wasting your time on girls that aren't interested. I just think guys need to realize, that most girls will not find them attractive. (unless top 20). I am not talking about saying " I find you ugly " just " Sorry, but i am not interested ". Ill just stick with the if it´s not Yes=no method.
MrCastle Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I just think guys need to realize, that most girls will not find them attractive. (unless top 20). I am not talking about saying " I find you ugly " just " Sorry, but i am not interested ". Ill just stick with the if it´s not Yes=no method. Yep, you're right about that part. Girls that are interested will show interest. You'll know when they dig you. Anything less, just cut your loses and move on.
Author Necromancer Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Lots of people, especially men, say things like 'I'd rather have the blunt truth' or 'I'd rather know what she is thinking exactly, I can take it'. The truth is you probably can't. It's your conception of yourself but just how self-aware are you? Rejection is rejection, you need to develop social skills to read between the lines as someone else said. It's not that hard to understand. You should be glad you meet considerate people who don't want to rub your face in it, in my opinion. You would be posting here calling her a bitch otherwise anyways. I am pretty confident and aiming for improvements. Yes, i can handle it. There is nothing wrong with saying " i´m sorry, but you are not my type ". I am not socially retarded if you think so. i talk to random girls all the time. If she deserves to be called a bitch then i will call her a bitch.
MrCastle Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 If she deserves to be called a bitch then i will call her a bitch. And that's the whole thing. Some guys on here get labeled bitter and stuff for their lack of success with women. I'm sure yes, for some of them, it's because of stuff they either have to work on and refuse to work on, or stuff they have to work on but don't realize it. But for some others, they really are good men; they're just running into bitchy women. Bitches do exist, just like shallow people exist, etc.
WonderKid Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I hate it when they make up excuses though. But I'm good at analyzing people (I get it from my mom) and once I call BS then I leave it alone. But what about when men reject women? When I reject a woman I be honest with it. I don't leave them in the dust like that.
fishtaco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Because the hotter a woman is the more insecure she feels, this is almost universally true. You want a really confident woman? Find one of those large and in charge heifers. Confidence is not the same as bossy.
Bristolius Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Just within the last couple of hours a woman said to me, thanks but no thanks. It was honest and polite and clear. So it does happen.
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