Mariana345 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Ok, This is more or less my whole history Click aquí The thing is... I'm soooo confused!! As some of you know already I was with this boy for almost 5 years (4 years and 10 months or so) and he broke up with me a month ago, saying that he has resentments against me for ALL the fights and problems in the entire relationship, He told me because of that, he doesn't feel the same way, that even when I look cute or cried (he could not bear to see me cry) he doesn't felt same way as before. That he may need some time to see if he can miss me and recover those feelings. At first he didn't want to break up, but after a while he said that it was the healthier and the best to do. Even I cried, beg and pleaded he didn't chage his mind. At the end I told him that I'll wait for him. He said that he didn't know if he would ever come back. So, I tried to give him space, and didn't talk or text or anything for a week, in which him erased the relationship in facebook around 4 days later. The next monday I sent him an email asking what this "break" was going to consist about, but he answer that he ENDED the relationship, that he thought it would not work, because he didn't feel able to continue. So, I asked if there was a chance that he could change his mind, by email. After 20 minutes I sent another email saying, never mind, I understand, you always be someone special to me. Just a favor to keep my stuf (I asked for a specific stuff) Take care. And I went NC for one week and a half, deleted from my friends from facebook (after that he blocked me a couple of days, then unblocked again) when I called him to get my stuff back ( I found out that he was kinda dating, because he went to the movies 3 times and paid just 2 tickets at the time... Yeah, I spied him... I'm sorry about it now) and again NC until the next week that we saw each other. But the day before he contacted my sister via facebook to say that "now is official, so I'm saying goodbye... " and stuff... after 3 weeks!!! I didn't know what that meant after so long... So, he brought my stuff, I thanked him, took my stuff and said goodbye... nothing else (although he seemed think I was going to talk to him more...) Two days later he ask me to transfer some money that we were saving together (Once he told me that If we break up, he wouldn't want that money) and didn't ask for any other of his stuff... I have to admit that even with all the problems I want him back some day. But as this break up was taking place I thought that I needed to do something, and sometimes I thouhgt that it was better to stay NC to see if he misses me. And I don't know if I should keep NC!! I think he is still angry at me, but don't know if I can do anything right now to make things better. I used NC because... he said that to me!! that he needed to know if he could miss me... but then maybe that made him think that I don't care about us at all!!! I'm so confused... if all I did was ok, or what to do from here... Please, help me!!!
Samilia Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Well I recognize your story and we gave you tons of advice.. Right now you're paniking because you're realizing it really is over. No, the NC didn't make it worse, it makes it better, unfortunately he realized he didn't want to be with you anymore and moved on. You can attack the problems at different angles, you'll get the same answers, and the same result, he moved on, so should you. I wouldn't take all the sh*t he threw at you for granted though, unless you really were the causes of all of your arguments, it really is nothing but just an excuse he came up with to break up with you, when he should have simply said that he wasn't in love anymore. 1
Author Mariana345 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 OH! and after he gave me my stuff he added to facebook this friend of his, that 3 years ago he cut contact because she liked him and that bother me (It was a year problem!!! he denied stuff and at the end he had to give me the reason, she liked him and for some reason he decided to cut contact with her... I didn't tell him to do that, just to gave me my place as a girlfriend...) I don't want to made assumptions, but it seemed to me that he really didn't care what the hell with me and that he chose her.. (and that weekend he went out with her and some other friends)
Author Mariana345 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Well I recognize your story and we gave you tons of advice.. Right now you're paniking because you're realizing it really is over. No, the NC didn't make it worse, it makes it better, unfortunately he realized he didn't want to be with you anymore and moved on. You can attack the problems at different angles, you'll get the same answers, and the same result, he moved on, so should you. I wouldn't take all the sh*t he threw at you for granted though, unless you really were the causes of all of your arguments, it really is nothing but just an excuse he came up with to break up with you, when he should have simply said that he wasn't in love anymore. Yeah, thank you, You've given me lots of advice already, but yeah, I thought that I wasn't giving the whole information... and I wanted to know if I made it worse at some point thank you for giving advice again
Author Mariana345 Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I'm sooooo angry at me!! How can't I move on?!!! He hasn't even contacted me!! Just one fb message to tell me that I didn't tranfer the correct amount, and that I let him know when I'll do... OMG!! He is been like that all along, I get that he is mad at me, and even with this behavior I want him back!! It's been almost 5 weeks, and I can't let him gooo!! WHY!!! We weren't that great together! He don't want anything to do with me, why, whyyyyy I'm keeping this stupid hope?!
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