dextm Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I met this girl at the beach 1 month ago thru a mutual friend after I made a comment that she was cute a week earlier. We all got along during our beach volleyball activity and dinner and she seemed very likable, easy going and fun. We had this group outing twice before I finally snagged her number indirectly from a friend (she agreed to give her # to another friend to give to me). I actually had legitimate questions to ask her about plants/flowers because her family owns a floral business. No smokescreen. This lead to a lot of emailing back and forth about flowers which eventually led to topics like innocence and corruption, hobbies, stereotypical guy/girl debates, etc. After 4 days of emailing, I asked her out and she said yes (this was 2 weeks ago). We played some fun board games (we're both into 'em), chilled at a park, ate dinner twice (literally), and strolled around downtown in the evening. We saw and talked to each other for a total of 9 hours. We dropped emailing and started texting each other regularly just to see "What's up?" I was trying to be the aggressor but some days I would purposely not text her (didn't want to overdo it) just to see if she would take the initiative to message me first and she did... good sign that she's interested right? I had one phone convo with her late at night from 10PM-2AM and we just kept talking about random stuff, mostly about things we like to do, funny experiences, trying to find common ground. I then had another phone convo with her at night a couple days later talking about similar stuff again. We're both very busy but just last night, we were both able to meet up for some dinner, strolled around, ate ice cream, sat in a park until midnight, then strolled around some more downtown. As we were both going home in our separate ways, she decided to call me and talk some more, up until 4AM in the morning (I had work the next morning so I had to end the convo). This time we spent a total of 10 hours. And the topics of discussion were even more random this time...ranging from religion and ethics to sex, S&M, cheating, orgasm.... Before I hung up, and this was at 4AM (probably a bad decision), I asked her if she liked me. She gave me a yes/no answer - "you're very easy going, I like conversing with you, but I don't know if we really have a spark." Then she asked me if I liked her and I gave her a very "generic answer" (her words) because I was freakin' half asleep - "you're cute, fun to hang out, easy going, i enjoy talking to you". She is a busy person and barely has time for her best friends but seems like she's making me a priority....I figured I would only be able to have her company for a couple hours but on both occasions she spent almost the whole day with me and SEEMED to enjoy it (i made her laugh a lot, we brushed each other a lot, and there seemed to be genuine interest). The long, thought provoking conversations on the phone into the wee hours of the night also makes me think she likes me. What do you guys think?
wco Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 She could be telling you that she really enjoys your company but is not attracted to you, i.e. the no spark thing. It would really all depend on her personality. Is she outgoing or reserved with new people. Maybe she didn't want to commit to the actual "like" thing unless she knew you felt that way about her first. Somebody's got to take the jump and say, I don't just enjoy you but I "like" you.
Author dextm Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 She was somewhat outgoing before she got to know me in the group setting but I'm surprised at the amount of information she divulged once she got to know me 1 on 1 a bit more. Talking for 30 hours in such a short period of time is abnormal to me, most couples don't even have 30 hours of intense talking in one month LOL! Anyways my bday is coming up in 3 weeks and I invited her. She said yes. I don't know if this is gonna be good or bad. Maybe I've been permanently placed in her friend zone already.
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