Procrastinator Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) I know this sounds like the most ridiculous thing I could ever do, but obviously it's one of the reasons for us breaking up. Thanks in advance for your advice and reading this, objectively. When it comes to emotions all my objectivity is out the door Basically I dated him for a year, we were happy. He had to move to Hawaii. We both planned on going to law school together. We both go into Hawaii (ranked 106) and Tulane (ranked 51). He chose Hawaii because it would only cost him less than $40,000. He thought I would chose the higher ranking school, costing $150,000 for me. So he broke it off because we would never live in the same place again. Emails later he also mentions that even though we are in love, we can't be compatible because I don't challenge him spiritually and we'd frustrate each other in the long run. God's put us on different paths and if he wanted us on the same path it would be unmistakable. So I offer to go to Hawaii. He says its foolish. But then after watching a video message I sent him. He's been starting to have a harder time with the breakup. Should I throw caution to the wind and bind myself to Hawaii for the rest of my life on the off chance that he might change his mind?...or do i stay miserable on the mainland? Tulane$150K for me Hawaii $150K for me. Do I risk it...has he already made his decision? ...im still hoping... Edited July 4, 2012 by Procrastinator too long
Samilia Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I know this sounds like the most ridiculous thing I could ever do, but obviously it's one of the reasons for us breaking up. Thanks in advance for your advice and reading this, objectively. When it comes to emotions all my objectivity is out the door Basically I dated him for a year, we were happy. He had to move to Hawaii. We both planned on going to law school together. We both go into Hawaii (ranked 106) and Tulane (ranked 51). He chose Hawaii because it would only cost him less than $40,000. He thought I would chose the higher ranking school, costing $150,000 for me. So he broke it off because we would never live in the same place again. Emails later he also mentions that even though we are in love, we can't be compatible because I don't challenge him spiritually and we'd frustrate each other in the long run. God's put us on different paths and if he wanted us on the same path it would be unmistakable. So I offer to go to Hawaii. He says its foolish. But then after watching a video message I sent him. He's been starting to have a harder time with the breakup. Should I throw caution to the wind and bind myself to Hawaii for the rest of my life on the off chance that he might change his mind?...or do i stay miserable on the mainland? Tulane$150K for me Hawaii $150K for me. Do I risk it...has he already made his decision? ...im still hoping... No.. he even told you why: I don't challenge him spiritually and we'd frustrate each other in the long run. God's put us on different paths and if he wanted us on the same path it would be unmistakable. So no, really not.. live for yourself, not for the ex. 2
forgottenangel99 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 So no, really not.. live for yourself, not for the ex. I couldn't have said it better. If you go there thinking that's going to save your relationship, you're going to be 10x more disappointed if things don't work out. If it is meant to work out it will. Also, from the reason he gave you for breaking up with you, sounds like you may have made a lot of decisions based on him and came off as a "clinging vine". If things don't work out with him in the long run, in your next relationship follow the same advice and love yourself first. No man or woman can make you happy, you are the key to your pursuit for happiness-- Good luck Sweetie!!! 1
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