LoverOfDance Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I have been trying to get over this guy I really like cause he has a gf. The last time I saw him was a month ago. I have made a lot of progress since that time. I don't miss him as much, I feel so much better and I'm not as sad as I used to be but I just can't get closure. I just don't feel like it's over yet. I feel like this thing between us(whatever it is) is not gonna end(ever) until I let it go. I'm not gonna go to his classes until I'm sure that I'm completely over him but I know I'm gonna see him again at a dance event or something. I know why I can't let go. It's because when I'm around him, he acts like he cares. If he was mean to me like the last guy I liked was, it would have been so much easier for me to let go. But he's not mean at all. When I'm around, even though he doesn't say much, he doesn't want me to leave. Please help me, I don't know how to let him go. I'm doing so much better now but I know I'm still holding on to hope that something miraculous will happen. How do I let go completely? How do I give up hope? Keeping busy won't do it. If hope is there, it is there and it won't leave until something happens - something that makes u decide in you're heart that you're truly done. What is this thing and how do i make it happen? Please help.
Guitarjeff Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You are young, just realize that what you are going through is completely natural and your response to it is very normal, right where it should be. You will probably love a few times before you find the one you are to spend your life with, and each one will seem like it is the deepest and most real, but just because it is at the present. No real way to cheat out of the pain, but you can try to understand it all better from a natural standpoint, and learn to accept that you are very normal, each person feels like their pain is worse than anyone else could ever feel. Look at it all from above the best you can. You are a human being, with weaknesses that we all have, and you are on a path forward, becoming, actualizing who you are supposed to become. You are growing, and that's the important thing, so accept the pain as if it were a pitiless room mate. Understand that it will move out soon, it can't live there very long. Doors will open for you, and life will go forward, sometimes you can just laugh at being human, it's alright. 1
flitzanu Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 best way to start is by removing him from your life. don't look for him or talk to him and don't stalk him on facebook. out of sight, faster to be out of mind. 1
TaraMaiden Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Read my signature, and follow the Caliguy No Contact guide.....
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