confused2385 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I find myself trying to move on, but I feel as if I have nothing to move on too. Then I go and check up on her via social media and it kills me to see she is well moved on and loving life. The feeling and tingle that goes through my body and lingers is devastating. Where as if you know my story it's so hard for me to accept given the fact that the feelings were so strong 2 weeks ago after staying away for a month, but now knows for sure she made the right decision and feels nothing and wishes we never met. It's getting worse everyday. Any ideas how to kick this addiction? Really sucks with today being the 4th...all I can think about is last year. Wish I could just forget her
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I find myself trying to move on, but I feel as if I have nothing to move on too. Then I go and check up on her via social media and it kills me to see she is well moved on and loving life. The feeling and tingle that goes through my body and lingers is devastating. Where as if you know my story it's so hard for me to accept given the fact that the feelings were so strong 2 weeks ago after staying away for a month, but now knows for sure she made the right decision and feels nothing and wishes we never met. It's getting worse everyday. Any ideas how to kick this addiction? Really sucks with today being the 4th...all I can think about is last year. Wish I could just forget her I have a little story, if you'd like. First, don't be deceived by what you see on social media. I used to check up on my ex too. She always looked incredible in pics and like she was having the time of her life. I even tried analyzing some of her pics and posts. Thinking that maybe they were about me, or she looked sad around her eyes in some (maybe she wasn't happy). Anyways, most people try to look their best on their FB pages. Some people even do things just to be able to have fun photos to post. So, try not to get caught up and stopping checking if you can (that has truly helped me). I finally saw my ex posed with a guy and his page read, "in a relationship with ________ (my ex's name). It broke my heart, but it also gave me the courage to try to move on. Needless to say, I ended up reconnecting with her mths. later and she informed me that she gave that guy one of the biggest heartbreaks of his life! (Similar to me...now that I think about it.) She said, they looked good on paper, but ''her'' issues, got in the way. So, even though, she appeared to have found happiness with someone else, all that I saw on FB was a lie. She was still the same person that does not do well in a relationship and tends to hurt the people that care about her. When I saw them together, I suppose I should've pitied him a little.lol Hope you feel a little better...
Mariana345 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I find myself trying to move on, but I feel as if I have nothing to move on too. Then I go and check up on her via social media and it kills me to see she is well moved on and loving life. The feeling and tingle that goes through my body and lingers is devastating. Where as if you know my story it's so hard for me to accept given the fact that the feelings were so strong 2 weeks ago after staying away for a month, but now knows for sure she made the right decision and feels nothing and wishes we never met. It's getting worse everyday. Any ideas how to kick this addiction? Really sucks with today being the 4th...all I can think about is last year. Wish I could just forget her I know how you feel. Weeks ago I was feeling the same, all that I wanted was to get my ex back, and the things that I used to enjoy didn't mean anything anymore. Then I realize that I built my life around my relationship, but I do have some dreams that now I can pursue, but that took me some time to figure it out. As you, I was looking into his facebook page (I have to admit that I was seeing it INSIDE his account... but not anymore) and felt devastated too. He seemed having the time of his life... I don't know if that is true, but I made a decision not to look anymore... The only one who gets hurt is me, and I'm tired of it. I know that is painful, so, don't do that anymore... If you don't see, you don't feel. It's hard, but it's necesary for your own good. Also, my doctor said that you have to do things that you enjoy, even if you don't feel like to, because you may get into several depresion... and that's even worse :/
Double D Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Its so tough. After I broke up with my ex, I checked her profile maybe 3/4 times in a year then it got to a point when I said f@@k this + I deleted my fb account. As said earlier the only one getting hurt was me + I was fed up with that. Most of what you see on fb is bulls@@t anyway, so if you can delete or at least block + think bout yourself + your happiness.
Coffee20 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 It happened to me too, I kept checking my ex's fb account for almost one month. He looked happy, happier, the happiest in his life, had so many pics and so many happy status. I deleted him, blocked him and finally deleted my facebook account. I don't care now what he does, maybe it wasn't even real his "happy facebook", he has never had "happy facebook" before, only after we broke up. Maybe it was his intention to look like that there. Maybe it wasn't even for or about me and it was his way how to cope. The best way is to stop doing it, just block it, delete it. It really delays coping a lot.
tryingtodiscoveranew Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Coffee20...you're absolutely right. It took me awhile, but I soon realized a lot of my pain was self-inflicted, which has caused extremely delayed healing. I guess we can't have our cake and eat it too! Meaning, we can't distance ourselves and keep a close eye on them at the same time. We must choose. Another huge thing I learned, is to never ever take anything personally. Especially during a break up. Most people are just doing whatever it takes to cope. And if you do find someone is deliberately trying to make you miserable, that's about them and their own issues...not you.
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