losingmyground Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 online...probably facebook, but not quite sure.
2sure Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 The more opportunity to cheat, the more cheaters there are. 2
Spark1111 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 None of this is new info. Infidelity gurus Dr. Shirley Glass and Peggy Vaughn published studies on this years ago. With women's return to the workplace and the higher incomes they make today, they are beginning to catch up to men in regards to affairs. Also, the modern ecomomics being what they are, we now spend more time at work than we do at home. Hence, we now spend more time with our co-workers than we do with our SOs. They also speak of the advance of the internet andthe increase in emotional affairs and cyberaffairs. Unless we all talk of boundaries, how to protect our relationships, disclose all of our workplace relationships to our SOs, our relationships could be in trouble. In life, it is normal to develop atteactions to people outside of our primary realtionship. That is human nature and very normal. On the very best relationships, they speak of them, and as a couple decide what boundaries to put in place to protect the primary relationship. Imagine that? 3
freestyle Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 My best friend, an ex-gf, girl he worked with, girl he met through the course of his work, old school friend (Facebook), Facebook, my cousin, a chat room. :eek: Wow, SG---that's the absolute worst---I'm sorry he (AND she) put you through that. It just turns my stomach when I hear stories like that. I almost think the best friend deserves the larger kick in the azz, in the double betrayal scenario....Oftentimes, they've had a longer-term relationship with the BS, so it's really below the belt to cross that line.
Radagast Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Also, the modern ecomomics being what they are, we now spend more time at work than we do at home. Hence, we now spend more time with our co-workers than we do with our SOs. My ex-wife and I worked at the same organisation (different departments) which was what led to our first separation (She was facing disciplinary action at work and wanted me to lie for her but I refused). Our working for the same organisation meant that all of my colleagues knew her, which in turn led to to their overwhelming support for me during the affair. My lover (now wife) did not work with me, but in the same field, and we met professionally and had many mutual friends and colleagues, which made the transition very smooth. Had my ex-wife worked in an entirely different field, at a different organisation, our marriage may have lasted longer, as I would not have seen her interacting with colleagues I knew and respected, and would not have been surrounded by colleagues who disliked her intensely supporting my breaking free of the marriage. Similarly she would likely not have felt threatened by my professional competence and felt such an overwhelming need to undermine me at work and at home. There would have been more "mystery" and more room for the benefit of the doubt, greater compartmentalisation and easier to maintain a semblance of respect. So it can work both ways.
NotCamelot Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Again.......Facebook......old boyfriend from 22 years ago (who had a W that was in an A of her own, also started in Facebook).
Ninja'sHusband Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Main relationship started in a college dorm. The affair started in a dojo (Japanese sword art)
2sure Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 It might be a more current study to research and compare how cheaters get caught or how many marriages reconcile or how many cheaters are repeaters. The women joining the workforce and all that goes with it has just been beat to death.
Radagast Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 The women joining the workforce and all that goes with it has just been beat to death. Women have always been part of the workforce. The only difference is that they are finally getting paid for it.
nofool4u Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 For those that have been cheated upon or those that were the cheater, could you give just a quick answer as to where the relationship began? Sure, my X-wife's affair started at her mother's house. And her mother wonders why I don't care to speak to her when I see her out in public:rolleyes:
g450 Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 Well I met my XW in the Enlisted Club when I was in the Navy. 37 years later she found her old high school lover online and apparently never stopped loving him. Either FB or classmates.com, one of the two. Yeah FB is just a tool but it makes cheating so easy as does many other aspects of the internet. Bill Gates should have called the internet "Infidelity at your fingertiips" because that's exactly what it is.
2.50 a gallon Posted August 17, 2012 Posted August 17, 2012 I can give you two Ex-W new graduate from college took a new job across country, only to find the male work force heavily involved with an off-shoot of EST. From day one was fighting a gang of co-worker OM's, then caught her kissing a guard where she worked and threw her under the bus. In celebration, neighbor, also a member of the cult threw her and the co-workers a victory party that weekend while his wife was gone. I then had a revenge affair with neighbors wife, and broke up their marriage Mine - work / RA - neighbor
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