WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 For those that have been cheated upon or those that were the cheater, could you give just a quick answer as to where the relationship began? Example: Work, Church, Volunteering, Bar, online etc. Thanks.
PegNosePete Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 World of Warcraft. I believe it was in Undercity, or maybe Orgrimmar. 1
2sure Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Craigslist, dating sites, grocery store, anyone willing to overlook his being married because he was , seemingly, nice to them.
GLDheart Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 ...could you give just a quick answer as to where the relationship began? Your question can be answered two ways. MY relationship with her began through mutual friends. HER reationship with the OM started at thier work...
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 For those that have been cheated upon or those that were the cheater, could you give just a quick answer as to where the relationship began? Example: Work, Church, Volunteering, Bar, online etc. Thanks. He was a bouncer at a gay bar...... and he opted out with cheating
iambookworm Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 online dating. he was working overseas, same as me.
Author WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 He was a bouncer at a gay bar...... and he opted out with cheating Lost in translation some. Opted out? Cheated with someone he met working at the gay bar? Thanks.
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Lost in translation some. Opted out? Cheated with someone he met working at the gay bar? Thanks. no......he opted out many jobs later we survived the gay bar,fifteen years and most thought we would never split, an affair at his current job took us out....we are still friends.... 1
beenburned Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 All of my H's OW(3), he met when he made deliveries to the stores they worked in.
melenkurion Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 One of his dalliances was an ex. Two (that I know of, I suspect there were more) were online. The final straw was one of my friends, which made it easier to do stuff together without initially attracting suspicion.
Silly_Girl Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 My best friend, an ex-gf, girl he worked with, girl he met through the course of his work, old school friend (Facebook), Facebook, my cousin, a chat room.
SoMovinOn Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Most of STBXW's A's were with friends - guys we had known for some time. One she met on the job (not working together for the same company though).
carhill Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Most significant was the employee of a customer. Others have been family of or friends of friends. Most started as the MW (undisclosed or disclosed) needing an ear and going from there. I would say workplace and social occasions (birthdays/weddings/events) were the most common venues.
goodthingscome Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Women on his postal route. Yeah, he was the mailman that delivered!
sad puppy Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Met xMM on Facebook - friends of friends. He pursued me, joined me on an outing to a concert, game on. Twenty month affair, he left marriage, he's getting divorced soon, should be final within next month or two. We ended our relationship, too much turmoil. Yeah, Facebook is responsible for a lot of affairs, primarily between old loves, I think.
sad puppy Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Agreed on they will find a way to cheat. Most lawyers in a divorce, cite fb as a resource to check on spouse and oftentimes they find an affair happening. Been reported in many articles. If I was married, I'd want open borders on my spouse's fb page. Lotta flirting going on, for everyone to see.
Owl Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 World of Warcraft. I believe it was in Undercity, or maybe Orgrimmar. Interesting! Everquest...probably in PoK.
Betrayed&Stayed Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Work, with an environment that involved a lot of social interaction among co-workers.
Author WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 Gonna' bump this one time. Studying something. Thanks for all replies.
Author WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 7, 2012 Author Posted July 7, 2012 Well it appears that in the majority it is what I thought. To be fair, a very small study group. Affairs begin at work for the most part. Then, is women entering the workforce the primary reason for infidelity and divorce? Options were indisputably increased when this happened. And now, secondly, internet is blamed for infidelity and breakups. Again, increased options brings about enough choice to stray. Interesting....
anne1707 Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 (edited) Well it appears that in the majority it is what I thought. To be fair, a very small study group. Affairs begin at work for the most part. Then, is women entering the workforce the primary reason for infidelity and divorce? Options were indisputably increased when this happened. Options increased for both men and women because of greater interaction with the opposite sex away from the spouse and of course a reason for not being at home. However I think also for women, work has given them greater financial independence and they are therefore less dependent than previous generations on their husbands. Hence if not satisfied within the marriage, in some ways they have less to lose now. Plus in some cases, women will see that not all men are like the loutish, bullying brute they may have at home. (note the "some") Edited July 7, 2012 by anne1707 3
GLDheart Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Since the thread is now focussed on drawing conclusions from the observations here goes: I say that all these new "options" simply make it too easy to not stick out the tough times and work through the tough problems. No Long term relationship is without it's hiccups. Having an easy out means more failed relationships. Thus, people simply don't put in what it takes to truly invest in the long run. 3
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