Zezhit Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Before my girl became my girl i was crushing mad hard on her.She was a tough one to get.But after i got her i felt that im not crushing on her as hard anymore ? I still think of her 24/7 tho,and love her deeply.Is that ok ?
Christine52 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You say you're not crushing on her, but you think about her 24/7 and are in love? Please clarify....
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 You say you're not crushing on her, but you think about her 24/7 and are in love? Please clarify.... Crushing on her as in being mad crazy about her
Philosoraptor Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 No it's not ok. In fact you should be more paranoid and start more threads about the same things! It's not uncommon for things to relax a bit after the chase. If you still want to be with her then don't worry so much about not feeling that anxious excitement. 2
Arabella Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 How old are you? How long have you been together? Sounds like the crush feelings you had before may have been simply a product of the "chase" and now that you got her, they have dissipated... But it's also normal after you've been with someone for a while for those initial infatuation feelings to lessen or disappear completely. At that point, love deepens and becomes more stable. If you still care about her, then I wouldn't worry about this. -A
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 No it's not ok. In fact you should be more paranoid and start more threads about the same things! It's not uncommon for things to relax a bit after the chase. If you still want to be with her then don't worry so much about not feeling that anxious excitement. Haha hello again.i swear im falling more and more into depression
Philosoraptor Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Haha hello again.i swear im falling more and more into depression And what thoughts or actions are bringing on this depression? 1
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 And what thoughts or actions are bringing on this depression? Over thinking too much...I don't know why I would over think so much and confuse myself in the process.When I look back on all this confusion I can think of NOTHING at all that caused this.
veggirl Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Have you considered therapy? I don't mean that sarcastically or snarky, I mean it honestly. The number of threads you have started about this girl is insane and very unhealthy. Do you have other things going on in your life other than her?
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 And what thoughts or actions are bringing on this depression? And I know I probably look like some sort of moron for postin all these threads.I just am really confused to the point where I feel like dying.I have no one to count on.Not even my friends.They all gave up on me.
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Have you considered therapy? I don't mean that sarcastically or snarky, I mean it honestly. The number of threads you have started about this girl is insane and very unhealthy. Do you have other things going on in your life other than her? Yeah...I'm currently schooling.I can't study very well now...I just keep thinking
Philosoraptor Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 And I know I probably look like some sort of moron for postin all these threads.I just am really confused to the point where I feel like dying.I have no one to count on.Not even my friends.They all gave up on me. Sit down and take a breath. Why is having feelings for someone causing you depression? 1
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Its really weird like hell...sometimes the confusion would I away.Then it would come back and haunt me again.Gahh! What's going on in my mind is like "ok I love her so everything's gonna be alright...crap maybe I don't really love her...what's if she's not the one and we will end up hurting each other? What if she won't be my friend anymore if we break?" and it just keeps going on and on and on.I tried many times to just focus on happy stuff like to out with friends and things but it will just keep haunting me.
Author Zezhit Posted July 5, 2012 Author Posted July 5, 2012 Sit down and take a breath. Why is having feelings for someone causing you depression? I have no idea...guess I'm just weird.being in Love is an amazing feeling that I always experience when I'm with her.i have no idea why I feel this way
Philosoraptor Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 Its really weird like hell...sometimes the confusion would I away.Then it would come back and haunt me again.Gahh! What's going on in my mind is like "ok I love her so everything's gonna be alright...crap maybe I don't really love her...what's if she's not the one and we will end up hurting each other? What if she won't be my friend anymore if we break?" and it just keeps going on and on and on.I tried many times to just focus on happy stuff like to out with friends and things but it will just keep haunting me. Well what does she tell you about herself and her feelings? If you trust her then take her words at face value and just try to enjoy yourself. Almost everyone overthinks things though. I know I've done the same thing recently but I just take a step back and look at things clearly. You end up missing too much happy if you worry so much about what could happen rather than focusing on what is happening. 1
Author Zezhit Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Well what does she tell you about herself and her feelings? If you trust her then take her words at face value and just try to enjoy yourself. Almost everyone overthinks things though. I know I've done the same thing recently but I just take a step back and look at things clearly. You end up missing too much happy if you worry so much about what could happen rather than focusing on what is happening. Well come to think of it...she hasn't really told me that she loves me yet
Author Zezhit Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Well what does she tell you about herself and her feelings? If you trust her then take her words at face value and just try to enjoy yourself. Almost everyone overthinks things though. I know I've done the same thing recently but I just take a step back and look at things clearly. You end up missing too much happy if you worry so much about what could happen rather than focusing on what is happening. Come to think of it...she hasn't really told me she loves me.I can just tell that she has feelings for me.And how do I think of what could happen ? What If I don't love her as much as I think I do ? Our friendship could be ruined in the end
Philosoraptor Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Come to think of it...she hasn't really told me she loves me.I can just tell that she has feelings for me.And how do I think of what could happen ? What If I don't love her as much as I think I do ? Our friendship could be ruined in the end Just be patient with her and with yourself. I know it can seem difficult but keep yourself occupied so you don't spend all of your time overthinking where things are and where they might be going. 1
Author Zezhit Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Just be patient with her and with yourself. I know it can seem difficult but keep yourself occupied so you don't spend all of your time overthinking where things are and where they might be going. Do u think I really love her ? Why am I feeling this way ?!
Philosoraptor Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Do u think I really love her ? Why am I feeling this way ?! No one else can tell you how you feel. I think you're highly infatuated and confused as you feel you're putting more into things than she is. Be patient with her and yourself and stop trying to read so much into everything. It will get you nowhere but more confused. 1
Author Zezhit Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 No one else can tell you how you feel. I think you're highly infatuated and confused as you feel you're putting more into things than she is. Be patient with her and yourself and stop trying to read so much into everything. It will get you nowhere but more confused. Yeah I think I am.Ok time to just relax...tell myself everything is okay between us and I'm just messed up.I alway feel like that when I'm not with her.But when I'm with her we just feel so much love and passion for each other...I guess this is all just part of missing her...
Philosoraptor Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Yeah I think I am.Ok time to just relax...tell myself everything is okay between us and I'm just messed up.I alway feel like that when I'm not with her.But when I'm with her we just feel so much love and passion for each other...I guess this is all just part of missing her... I've been in your position before. Being much more open and giving than the person you're with. Naturally you're scared and worried that you're going to get hurt. The only thing you can control is yourself though. You can decide to be patient or cut ties and finding someone who is willing to be as open as you are. If you feel like this person is worth it you'll give it time. 1
Author Zezhit Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I've been in your position before. Being much more open and giving than the person you're with. Naturally you're scared and worried that you're going to get hurt. The only thing you can control is yourself though. You can decide to be patient or cut ties and finding someone who is willing to be as open as you are. If you feel like this person is worth it you'll give it time. Thanks man...good to know I'm not the only one.I really don't want to hurt her,it's ok if I get hurt but not her.I love her so much.Everytime we go on dates I just feel so alive and so happy,but I get confused again when I don't see her.But thanks...
Author Zezhit Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I've been in your position before. Being much more open and giving than the person you're with. Naturally you're scared and worried that you're going to get hurt. The only thing you can control is yourself though. You can decide to be patient or cut ties and finding someone who is willing to be as open as you are. If you feel like this person is worth it you'll give it time. And how did u overcome your problem ?
Philosoraptor Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 And how did u overcome your problem ? Patience my friend, patience. You need to trust yourself, make a decision, and stick with it. If you decide you want to be with this girl then be patient with her. No need to rush anything on her end or you'll just end up making her feel pressure or doing/saying something that isn't true/she'll regret. I wouldn't call it a problem though, just a part of growing up and maturing. Everyone is impatient at times, just focus on something else when these things cross your mind. 1
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