JHparkes Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I have a slight paranoia about men going off with younger women as my dad left my mum when I were two for an 18 year old and I've always had negative messages about women ageing. I have just started dating a really attractive man. We are both 33. Things going ok, however he has made comments such as "men age a lot better than women." "she used to be nice, but she is showing her age now" and also "I don't think she has aged very well" on about different women. Is this a red flag that this guy may update me for a younger model eventually?
LostPineapple Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) Can you give some context as to when he said these things? What were you talking about at the time? Lot's of things can sound very bad out of context. Edited July 4, 2012 by LostPineapple
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Not necessarily a younger model but he's definitely got an eye for younger women in general. I think he's got a bit of an ego on him and whenever I hear "really attractive" and something to the effect of "things are going ok" means to me that you're interested in this guy more for his looks than personality or whatever other attributes he could bring to the table. If he's as good looking as you say, and not just to you and he's talking like that then chances are If he had the opportunity to go with a younger girl he would be interested, he's probably attracted to you but not all that thrilled with you being the same age. However don't expect him to admit that, he shouldn't even be saying what he's saying around you in the first place. Now granted, people make a lot of generalized comments that may not have to necessarily do with you but being that there is a pattern to this shows his interest in younger women and his distaste for aging women. So be bases a lot of value of superficiality, but hey, maybe just like you are right now
yongyong Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I dated a woman 9 years older than me when I was in early 20s. She looked very younger so we didn't look weird at all. But I was thinking, would I be still faithful to her when I hit 30 years old? she would be almost 40 and I would be able to still get girls in mid 20s. the age difference is more than 10+ your situation is different though since you guys are the same age. I don't know how strong your relationship is. I am just talking in General. Guys would Definitely prefer younger woman. It's about Whether They Can or Can't (Who doesn't want to drive Ferrari over VW?? it's about whether you can afford or not) I am pretty sure there are lots of husband stuck with their wife and watching them turning less attractive as she gets older. Unless they have very strong relationship, he will be looking at other younger ladies. The thing is you don't want him to stay with you because you are the only option he has right now.
Author JHparkes Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) I dated a woman 9 years older than me when I was in early 20s. She looked very younger so we didn't look weird at all. But I was thinking, would I be still faithful to her when I hit 30 years old? she would be almost 40 and I would be able to still get girls in mid 20s. the age difference is more than 10+ your situation is different though since you guys are the same age. I don't know how strong your relationship is. I am just talking in General. Guys would Definitely prefer younger woman. It's about Whether They Can or Can't (Who doesn't want to drive Ferrari over VW?? it's about whether you can afford or not) I am pretty sure there are lots of husband stuck with their wife and watching them turning less attractive as she gets older. Unless they have very strong relationship, he will be looking at other younger ladies. The thing is you don't want him to stay with you because you are the only option he has right now. Well he was the one that pursued me and has done a lot of chasing to get with me as I was very much on the fence having just split up from someone. he is also pretty mad on me at the moment. But then I am classed as very attractive too, but maybe in a few years it will all change. I'm thinking of dumping him and going out with someone older and uglier for the security ha ha Edited July 4, 2012 by JHparkes
SJC2008 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I'd say it's a double red flag. His comments are insensitve so that may be a sign where he'd bring out the worst in an argument and two it may be a sign that he would leave for a younger woman. My guess is that you WILL stay with him though. I'm not judging you just going by posters trends. There's another poster who is 35 and is dating a 32 year old who when they met said "I hope your body never changes".
Author JHparkes Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 I'd say it's a double red flag. His comments are insensitve so that may be a sign where he'd bring out the worst in an argument and two it may be a sign that he would leave for a younger woman. My guess is that you WILL stay with him though. I'm not judging you just going by posters trends. There's another poster who is 35 and is dating a 32 year old who when they met said "I hope your body never changes". Hmmm yes I judged it as rather insensitive too. I am going to have to have some time to myself to get my head around this and work out how and when to dump.
Christine52 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You need to focus on things you can control. You can never control someone's decision to leave you for another woman. What you can do is focus on making yourself a high value woman, and having the most fun with him as possible, so he associates being with you with intense pleasure and fun! Guard your heart, don't give it all to him until he's committed. This should be the case in any relationship, as people leave their SO's for any, and every reason at times. Have confidence, as confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have. Young women who are 18, but not confident will never out match a 33 year old woman with sass
Author JHparkes Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 You need to focus on things you can control. You can never control someone's decision to leave you for another woman. What you can do is focus on making yourself a high value woman, and having the most fun with him as possible, so he associates being with you with intense pleasure and fun! Guard your heart, don't give it all to him until he's committed. This should be the case in any relationship, as people leave their SO's for any, and every reason at times. Have confidence, as confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can have. Young women who are 18, but not confident will never out match a 33 year old woman with sass Thank you Christine. Very positive and wise words of wisdom
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