hidella32 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 New to this but wanted a perspective from total strangers who aren't afraid to tell it like it is...appropriately:p. Ok so here's the scenario... Been doing the online dating thing and met two pretty cool guys. The second (current) guy sought me out about 2 months ago. we emailed casually and then I hit it off with the other guy so pursued that one. Right before guy #1 blew me off (with no explanation), #2 emailed again and wanted to reconnect. So I did....long story short, went on first date, public place, drinks...great time etc. texted daily until the second date, which was drinks and a movie at his place. Again, kept it casual, flirting etc. and he kissed me towards the end of the night. I didn't initiate but i kissed back. My interest level piqued after the second date and he texted me on my drive home saying he wanted to get together again. This was 4 days ago and i have heard nothing!?? I texted him ONCE saying thanks for a good time and hoped he enjoyed his weekend. He read the text 2 hours later but did not reply. I don't want to play the BS games but i feel like that is what's going on here. I am not desperate, i have my own life, friends etc. and have been busy since we last hung out. He does work weird hours (2-midnight) but I feel like he's blowin me off too! Any advice or thoughts?? Sometimes I just wanna scream and throw in the towel with dating period!
phineas Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Ok, movie at his place = SEX. seriously. How do you not know this? Never go to a guys place if you don't want sex. You didn't sleep with him so now he is doing what us men call freezing you out.
Emilia Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 He was after only sex and nothing else. Chalk it up to experience and find someone else
Eddie Edirol Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 He only wanted sex, and you blew him off for guy #1 initially, now he blew you off for someone else probably, and gave you a taste of your own medicine. It happens.
carhill Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 The second (current) guy sought me out about 2 months ago. we emailed casually and then I hit it off with the other guy so pursued that one. Right before guy #1 blew me off (with no explanation), #2 emailed again and wanted to reconnect. Reverse the genders and this is likely what happened. It's all part of dating. Until a potential couple clarifies the 'us', no one really owes anyone anything except what they personally adhere to as civil and respectful behavior. As an example, how did you tell Guy #2 that you chose to eschew his affections and attentions for those of Guy #1? Was he disclosed to the specifics? Example: "You seem like a really lovely man but I met someone else and wish to pursue that relationship at this time" Welcome to LS
Algermas Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You iced him for #1, he was hoping to deposit a load in you, that didn't happen and now he's done.
Christine52 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I don't tolerate games from anyone. If a guy did that to me, and ignored me for 4 days, I would make one last attempt to set up a date with him. If he doesn't respond within 48 hours, it's over. I know it's cut and dry, but we don't have time to dilly dally and analyze everything. If he's not that into you, why waste your time?
truth_seeker Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 We was looking to get laid. Didn't happen, so now onto other easier targets. That's OLD in a nutshell for most people multi-dating.
truth_seeker Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 We was looking to get laid. Didn't happen, so now onto other easier targets. That's OLD in a nutshell for most people multi-dating. Made error - *He
phineas Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 You iced him for #1, he was hoping to deposit a load in you, that didn't happen and now he's done. Pretty much. When a woman blows me off for someone else I need to get a return on my previous investment of time or she's done. On the other hand, If I got options & decide I like one better i'd never go back to the looser if the one I chose didn't work out. I'd cut my losses & move on. I consider it disrespectful to go after the one who didn't make the cut. Their a person who deserves better than being someone's second choice. But, women have no problem doing this & are completely clueless for the most part as to how disrespectful this is. By the way, I don't believe for a second the guy she blew off magically contacted her looking to reconnect after things didn't work out with the guy she choose him for. I'm willing to bet she did something to get his attention first. 1
Shaun-Dro Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Pretty much. When a woman blows me off for someone else I need to get a return on my previous investment of time or she's done. On the other hand, If I got options & decide I like one better i'd never go back to the looser if the one I chose didn't work out. I'd cut my losses & move on. I consider it disrespectful to go after the one who didn't make the cut. Their a person who deserves better than being someone's second choice. But, women have no problem doing this & are completely clueless for the most part as to how disrespectful this is. By the way, I don't believe for a second the guy she blew off magically contacted her looking to reconnect after things didn't work out with the guy she choose him for. I'm willing to bet she did something to get his attention first. Right. The OP played games and now she got some of it. I'm glad that he blew her off. More women like her deserve this and worse!
Algermas Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Pretty much. When a woman blows me off for someone else I need to get a return on my previous investment of time or she's done. On the other hand, If I got options & decide I like one better i'd never go back to the looser if the one I chose didn't work out. I'd cut my losses & move on. I consider it disrespectful to go after the one who didn't make the cut. Their a person who deserves better than being someone's second choice. But, women have no problem doing this & are completely clueless for the most part as to how disrespectful this is. By the way, I don't believe for a second the guy she blew off magically contacted her looking to reconnect after things didn't work out with the guy she choose him for. I'm willing to bet she did something to get his attention first. Women believe their vagina is magical and that any man should praise Jesus for being allowed a chance at entry, hence the way they treat men.
Feelsgoodman Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 The answer to OP's question is contained in her own thread title (namely, in the word "too")
sid3 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Women believe their vagina is magical and that any man should praise Jesus for being allowed a chance at entry, hence the way they treat men. That wouldn't be the case if there weren't so many men that think its all good.
Bristolius Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Women believe their vagina is magical and that any man should praise Jesus for being allowed a chance at entry, hence the way they treat men. Jesus said, "I am the door; if anyone enters through Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture." John 10:9 1
Author hidella32 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Thx for the advice...I should have prefaced by saying that I did not originally blow guy #2 off...a few months ago when we were emailing, he went on "vacation" for 3 weeks and told me he'd get in touch when he returned (which happened to be over a month later). So in response to one comment, no I don't think i "got what I deserved" in seeing where things went with guy #1. @Christine-Thanks for your reassuring comment:) @carhill- Guy#1 and I just didn't work out and hadn't heard from #2 because he was not around. So I don't think I was using guy#2 at all because he said he would get in touch with me when he returned...which is what he did (just a little later than i thought)
NYC-BigKat Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Thx for the advice...I should have prefaced by saying that I did not originally blow guy #2 off...a few months ago when we were emailing, he went on "vacation" for 3 weeks and told me he'd get in touch when he returned (which happened to be over a month later). So in response to one comment, no I don't think i "got what I deserved" in seeing where things went with guy #1. @Christine-Thanks for your reassuring comment:) @carhill- Guy#1 and I just didn't work out and hadn't heard from #2 because he was not around. So I don't think I was using guy#2 at all because he said he would get in touch with me when he returned...which is what he did (just a little later than i thought) Why cant u give a really really nice guy a chance? A guy like me? I'm very nice & wont blow u off. I never do stuff like that. I believe in deja vu so I'm careful not to do stupid stuff like that to people u know.
SJC2008 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Why are you going back to peoples on a second date anyway?
Celtica Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Women believe their vagina is magical and that any man should praise Jesus for being allowed a chance at entry, hence the way they treat men. Yikes. Someone is bitter...
ThingsAreComplicated Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Ok, movie at his place = SEX. seriously. How do you not know this? Never go to a guys place if you don't want sex. You didn't sleep with him so now he is doing what us men call freezing you out. no...no...no. It hurts to read this over and over again. It's not "knowledge" but teenager/PUA-bull****.
yongyong Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 If a girl is attractive enough, guys would do anything to get laid with her. Guys, would you expect to get laid by a hot girl on first night? If you had only gotten a kiss out of it, would you see her again to move forward or move on? Depending on your hotness level, Guys will be happy just being around you. He doesn't mind just hangingout with you as long as he hopes something will happen in the end. If a girl wasn't hot enough and she wasn't putting out, guys wouldn't pursue that to preserve their ego. (oh geez, you are 5 and you expect me to take you out on a date, get to know you???? too much investment for one night. sorry) 2
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