ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Cross-posting from a post I made in the BU sub-forum. Where would I go to find girls that I like? They seem to be very rare. I used to be a hardcore gamer and huge nerd. I'm 23 now and have grown out of many things that I never thought I would. I still have an affinity for geeky things, but not as much as I used to. I'm basically looking for a physically attractive, slightly geeky girl. Sexual attractiveness to me is important, but so is health. I don't want to date a fat slob who can't take care of herself. Call me shallow, but if I take the time to take care of my body, then I want somebody else who will do the same. I don't want somebody super nerdy or super geeky to the point of annoying me either. My best friend is a personal trainer who owns a gym, and he has mutual friends working under him. The girls there are physically fit of course, but they are all very vain, shallow, and unintelligent. Yeah, that may seem high and mighty coming from me, but there is some serious stupidity in thinking we test our nukes on the Pentagon's walls. School was never really a...great place for me to meet girls. Girls generally don't take engineering/math/tech courses. The ones I meet who do take those courses have 0 interest in dating. They are very career-driven and focused on school and studying. I hate going to bars and clubs. I hate drinking. Yeah, I can easily pick up girls there...girls with no substance. Getting laid is not my goal. Come to think of it, I've met all of my past exes through my social circles. Almost all of my friends have grown more into the bar/clubbing scene, working in bars, partying almost every night, whatever. It's something that happens when you go to university I guess. With that said, the girls now in my social circles consist entirely of girls that I will never have any romantic interest in. My ex was a soccer player, pretty, obviously physically fit and healthy, intelligent, liked to write, was a little geeky, liked me for me at the time, nice, sexually attracted to me, wasn't greedy (never had a problem paying for some of my things), etc. I'm basically having this problem where the girls I meet are incompatible with me from the get-go, and if I do happen to meet one that has a chance of being compatible, she's wholly uninterested. My friends average my physical appearance at an 8. My best friend owns a gym and personally trains me. People considered me a child prodigy, very smart, blah blah. It's something all of my exes liked about me, so I'll just go with it. I never had a confidence issue, because I never actively looked for a SO. They just came to me because well...I was confident because I never cared I guess. I'm in a "don't give a ****" mood now, so I'll approach girls whenever. I'm rusty on my PUA/DJ techniques. They actually work very well...on the girls that I *don't* like LOL. So...wait 9 months for the next anime convention. My best friend told me that when he was dragged to one by a mutual friend of ours, there were some hot, geeky girls. Game stores are a no-go. The girls going there look like they don't give a crap about their health and hygiene. I guess I'll try a book store. Library's kinda dead. People definitely do not want to socialize there. I live in a rich town that pretty much has nothing to do except for drinking.
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Cross-posting from a post I made in the BU sub-forum. Where would I go to find girls that I like? They seem to be very rare. I used to be a hardcore gamer and huge nerd. I'm 23 now and have grown out of many things that I never thought I would. I still have an affinity for geeky things, but not as much as I used to. I'm basically looking for a physically attractive, slightly geeky girl. Sexual attractiveness to me is important, but so is health. I don't want to date a fat slob who can't take care of herself. Call me shallow, but if I take the time to take care of my body, then I want somebody else who will do the same. I don't want somebody super nerdy or super geeky to the point of annoying me either. My best friend is a personal trainer who owns a gym, and he has mutual friends working under him. The girls there are physically fit of course, but they are all very vain, shallow, and unintelligent. Yeah, that may seem high and mighty coming from me, but there is some serious stupidity in thinking we test our nukes on the Pentagon's walls. School was never really a...great place for me to meet girls. Girls generally don't take engineering/math/tech courses. The ones I meet who do take those courses have 0 interest in dating. They are very career-driven and focused on school and studying. I hate going to bars and clubs. I hate drinking. Yeah, I can easily pick up girls there...girls with no substance. Getting laid is not my goal. Come to think of it, I've met all of my past exes through my social circles. Almost all of my friends have grown more into the bar/clubbing scene, working in bars, partying almost every night, whatever. It's something that happens when you go to university I guess. With that said, the girls now in my social circles consist entirely of girls that I will never have any romantic interest in. My ex was a soccer player, pretty, obviously physically fit and healthy, intelligent, liked to write, was a little geeky, liked me for me at the time, nice, sexually attracted to me, wasn't greedy (never had a problem paying for some of my things), etc. I'm basically having this problem where the girls I meet are incompatible with me from the get-go, and if I do happen to meet one that has a chance of being compatible, she's wholly uninterested. My friends average my physical appearance at an 8. My best friend owns a gym and personally trains me. People considered me a child prodigy, very smart, blah blah. It's something all of my exes liked about me, so I'll just go with it. I never had a confidence issue, because I never actively looked for a SO. They just came to me because well...I was confident because I never cared I guess. I'm in a "don't give a ****" mood now, so I'll approach girls whenever. I'm rusty on my PUA/DJ techniques. They actually work very well...on the girls that I *don't* like LOL. So...wait 9 months for the next anime convention. My best friend told me that when he was dragged to one by a mutual friend of ours, there were some hot, geeky girls. Game stores are a no-go. The girls going there look like they don't give a crap about their health and hygiene. I guess I'll try a book store. Library's kinda dead. People definitely do not want to socialize there. I live in a rich town that pretty much has nothing to do except for drinking. Join groups that you are passionate about if you have to travel is it worth the effort? think about opposites attract.......forget specific traits......you might be able to get a potential interested in what you are......stop judging people and being judgemental in nature......you dont judge a book by its anime cover..you dont judge a game by the picture on the front.....so dont judge a person on sight......broaden your own horizons....discover new interests......be a complete package and knowledgable yourself...good luck happy gaming..deb
Emilia Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 So...wait 9 months for the next anime convention. My best friend told me that when he was dragged to one by a mutual friend of ours, there were some hot, geeky girls. Game stores are a no-go. The girls going there look like they don't give a crap about their health and hygiene. I guess I'll try a book store. Library's kinda dead. People definitely do not want to socialize there. I live in a rich town that pretty much has nothing to do except for drinking. Book clubs? Language clubs? Art/creative groups? I think any of those might be good. Not for geeky perhaps but for nerdy certainly. I was quite nerdy when I was much younger and those were the places I liked to hang out
Author ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) Eh, let me rephrase that. I don't really care that much about anime or games anymore. I want somebody who can enjoy my hobbies. Like...if I wanted to shoot some hoops, then I would love for her to shoot hoops with me. If I want to play a game on a lazy weekend, then I would love to play it with her. I want to have somebody who's willing to go to the gym with me. Maybe I'll want to watch an episode of whatever anime once a month. I'd rather she enjoy than not, otherwise, I'd just feel like I'm wasting her time. Well, LOL after seeing you guys tell me how rare they are, this is going to make it immensely harder to move on from my ex if girls like her don't exist. She was a writer, played the same games I did, was willing to play sports with the guys and me, liked physical activity, etc. Being somebody who wasn't very musically inclined, I was able to pick up on some of her music and learn new things. I liked reading her writing. That's what I meant by "geekiness." She wasn't tech/math/science-oriented at all. That's why I was there to make up for that kind of stuff whenever those kinds of problems came around. I've joined groups before in the past. The problem is, I don't want people who are obsessive. The kinds of people who join anime clubs are really, really obsessive about Japanese culture. I want somebody who has a life outside of that. This is coming from somebody who used to be in those clubs. I very quickly lost interest in them because of how extreme such clubs are. Book clubs? I've never met a single girl in a book club that cared about physical health. Yeah we were opposites in our self interests, but when it came to hobbies and group activities, we shared everything. I felt like we were really compatible. Yes, it does sound like I'm trying to fill a void, but it's a fact that I would never be happy with somebody who's just a pretty face or somebody who doesn't like doing anything that I like to do. There are plenty of fish in the sea, yet they're really rare? Ouch... It's really easy to find guys who play WoW, sports, and work out, etc. It seems to be hard as hell to find a girl with the same geeky/nerdy hobbies that knows what the sun is. Edited July 4, 2012 by ZhaoZilong5
Emilia Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Well finding a nerdy/bookish/creative person who is also into sports is rare. I had to make the choice between the two (ie bookish v sporty) at some point in my dating life, it's much easier that way. Your ex is quite rare, yes
Author ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Doesn't have to be sports per say. Just somebody who can keep herself healthy. Super skinny and morbidly obese are huge red flags to me, not to mention I'm not sexually attracted to those at all, so it won't work. Is it so much to ask for somebody who put some effort into her body as much as me? No, I'm not some bodybuilder like the majority of my friends, but with that same token, I no longer sit in my room 24/7 on WoW either.
MrCastle Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 It's hard to find what you're looking for because those things don't overlap, and in fact, are kind of opposites. If you were looking for someone who played sports, as well as went to the gym that would be easy, because those two things are similar and a lot of people who do one of those things also do the other but to be active in addition to staying home playing games, reading books, or watching anime. it's hard to find both. of course this forum being what it is, someone will quote me, tell me I'm wrong and begin to talk about a friend they know who plays 3 different sports, goes to gaming competitions and works at a comic book store, but I'm just talking about the norms here, not the exception to the norms it reminds me of a standup bit chris rock did a while ago, something like: "people get too hung up over 'soulmates', you're lucky if you just find a mate. soulmates don't exist. you're not gonna find someone who likes Seinfeld and the Wu-Tang Clan like you do. It's not gonna happen." my advice would be to just find someone you click with. maybe they won't have every bullet point quality you're looking for, but just accept them for the qualities they have that you do like and take it from there the more specific you get, the harder a person is to find 1
Author ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) I already have male friends that do all of that. My ex was willing to do everything that I wanted to do and vice-versa. It was like...we were perfectly compatible. Then G.I.G.S. happened on her part. I'm told by everybody here and other forums that she'll come back after finding out that the grass is greener. Everybody, my friends included, say I'm the great catch blah blah. She said that I'm an amazing person that deserves the best, and she doesn't feel she can do that for me at the moment. According to this thread, the joke's apparently on me. ****! It's hard to find what you're looking for because those things don't overlap, and in fact, are kind of opposites. If you were looking for someone who played sports, as well as went to the gym that would be easy, because those two things are similar and a lot of people who do one of those things also do the other but to be active in addition to staying home playing games, reading books, or watching anime. it's hard to find both. of course this forum being what it is, someone will quote me, tell me I'm wrong and begin to talk about a friend they know who plays 3 different sports, goes to gaming competitions and works at a comic book store, but I'm just talking about the norms here, not the exception to the norms it reminds me of a standup bit chris rock did a while ago, something like: "people get too hung up over 'soulmates', you're lucky if you just find a mate. soulmates don't exist. you're not gonna find someone who likes Seinfeld and the Wu-Tang Clan like you do. It's not gonna happen." my advice would be to just find someone you click with. maybe they won't have every bullet point quality you're looking for, but just accept them for the qualities they have that you do like and take it from there the more specific you get, the harder a person is to find Well, it seems to be much more common in males. I have a lot of guy friends who used to play WoW and hit the gym. They're still somewhat interested in anime/manga, some are football players, some are bodybuilders...I guess those things are just more common with males. The thing is, I don't feel like I'm being that specific. I'm just looking for somebody who happens to have similiar interests (not too much to ask, right?) who also happens to care about her physical health (apparently both is too much to ask). Similar interests mean I'll click with them. I've tried opposites...I don't click with them at all. As for physical health, I want somebody who cares enough to be healthy. I don't want an unhealthy slob for a SO. Not being able to take care of herself is a huge red flag for me. That Chris Rock quote seems to be even more specific than what I'm asking for. I'm not asking for somebody who likes a specific show and artist. In that scenario, it would be more like me looking for somebody who likes sitcoms and rap music, which quite frankly I'm not sure how rare or common that is. Just saying, I don't think I'm really being that specific... Edited July 4, 2012 by ZhaoZilong5
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Eh, let me rephrase that. I don't really care that much about anime or games anymore. I want somebody who can enjoy my hobbies. Like...if I wanted to shoot some hoops, then I would love for her to shoot hoops with me. If I want to play a game on a lazy weekend, then I would love to play it with her. I want to have somebody who's willing to go to the gym with me. Maybe I'll want to watch an episode of whatever anime once a month. I'd rather she enjoy than not, otherwise, I'd just feel like I'm wasting her time. Well, LOL after seeing you guys tell me how rare they are, this is going to make it immensely harder to move on from my ex if girls like her don't exist. She was a writer, played the same games I did, was willing to play sports with the guys and me, liked physical activity, etc. Being somebody who wasn't very musically inclined, I was able to pick up on some of her music and learn new things. I liked reading her writing. That's what I meant by "geekiness." She wasn't tech/math/science-oriented at all. That's why I was there to make up for that kind of stuff whenever those kinds of problems came around. I've joined groups before in the past. The problem is, I don't want people who are obsessive. The kinds of people who join anime clubs are really, really obsessive about Japanese culture. I want somebody who has a life outside of that. This is coming from somebody who used to be in those clubs. I very quickly lost interest in them because of how extreme such clubs are. Book clubs? I've never met a single girl in a book club that cared about physical health. Yeah we were opposites in our self interests, but when it came to hobbies and group activities, we shared everything. I felt like we were really compatible. Yes, it does sound like I'm trying to fill a void, but it's a fact that I would never be happy with somebody who's just a pretty face or somebody who doesn't like doing anything that I like to do. There are plenty of fish in the sea, yet they're really rare? Ouch... It's really easy to find guys who play WoW, sports, and work out, etc. It seems to be hard as hell to find a girl with the same geeky/nerdy hobbies that knows what the sun is. your ex sounds like a great person...you wont replace her......if you judge other women by who she was......on yours and hers relationship ......it was unique ....you have never known a girl who is an avid bookworm who cared about physical fitness.....they exist......just because you haven't met one doesnt mean that fish doesnt exist.......and they are many..... when you are looking for something and cant find it...... to increase your chances of success you work more on finding attributes that makes you more attractive so you are the one who is the catch.......i am an avid reader,work out everyday, i kickbox,jog with a rottweiler twice a day, write poetry am planning on writing a book one day.....want to see the world...make a difference.... BUT I would never consider dating someone who referred to a woman as a fat slob...lack of respect...or had specific no go zones.....for example.....not allowed to be obsessive......you my fine friend just eliminated the whole female race and definately the female writers because we have to be obsessive or another word for obsessive is passionate.......think about it for a while......you require a deep thinker but are thinking in the shallow tidal zone.....the fish in the shallow zone are not what you desire.......you want to swim with the fish in the deep blue sea, learn how to steer the boat to fish in the deep blue.you might get caught yoruself without even having to try to fish..good luck....best wishes swimmin with the fishes........deb 1
utterer of lies Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Where to find physically attractive, slightly geeky girls? At your local university.
Author ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) BUT I would never consider dating someone who referred to a woman as a fat slob...lack of respect...or had specific no go zones.....for example.....not allowed to be obsessive......you my fine friend just eliminated the whole female race and definately the female writers because we have to be obsessive or another word for obsessive is passionate.......think about it for a while......you require a deep thinker but are thinking in the shallow tidal zone.....the fish in the shallow zone are not what you desire.......you want to swim with the fish in the deep blue sea, learn how to steer the boat to fish in the deep blue.you might get caught yoruself without even having to try to fish..good luck....best wishes swimmin with the fishes........deb I'm not sure if you misunderstood me or are being purposely obtuse, but to each their own. What I meant is, I wouldn't date somebody who doesn't love herself enough to keep herself healthy. It's as simple as that. By obsessive, I'm talking about Japanophile obessive. You've probably never seen it before, but I'm talking about the ones who live, breathe, and sleep anime/anything Japanese. Sure, be passionate about what you do, but when you're neglecting the rest of your life, then something's wrong. Let me put this another way. A girl that likes video games would be cool, but I don't want one that only sits inside all day and plays video games. I'm highly positive that I'm not eliminating the entire female race. The entire female race doesn't breathe anime. My ex was a writer. I loved that about her, and she was passionate about it. She also spent time with me and spent time doing other things with her life. She didn't spend 100% of her time on one thing. That's not the kind of person that I'm looking for. No, I don't want somebody who is 414 pounds. I feel like that's a lack of effort to even be attractive, and I don't want to go through the pain of losing my SO early due to health problems that could have been prevented. Why should I put in all of the effort to make myself attractive but not get the same? I'm sure there are a lot of girls out there who are turned off because I don't like to drink or go clubbing constantly. There are probably some girls who are turned off because I occasionally play video games. That's fine; we're just incompatible. I wouldn't consider them eliminating the entire male gender even though most guys probably do play video games. Edited July 4, 2012 by ZhaoZilong5
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 To me you're not really looking at this clearly, because I think you're still not over your ex and you're looking for someone exactly like her. Whenever you're in that state of mind, no one ever looks good enough...plus how well do you even know these women? do you even give them a chance? how do you know they don't attain qualities that you would even value more than your ex? Also your critiques are a little wishy washy, you kind of jump from one side the road to the other...in a way that you're saying you want this and that but it's not good enough If it's not this way either, which is ultimately your ex, you're basing everything off of your ex and how close to the mark they appear...that's my assessment however I don't think you see yourself doing that, you might think she's not a factor at all to you. Anyway at the end of the day you need someone who is compatible with you and while having some degree of demands you also have to realize that each woman is going to be at least a little different than the other...I think you desire someone who is intelligent, creative and physically fit/active. I would stick to that general area but I wouldn't specify beyond that....be open-minded, because most people that I see have a hard time finding the "perfect match" are people who usually lack self-awareness, have entitlement issues and in actuality really don't know what they are looking for because what they're actually looking for doesn't make a person a person, it's just a compilation of desirable qualities that someone should have in so and so manner...they just end up banging their heads against the wall, it would be wise to broaden your perspective and be willing to learn about women rather than judge them at face value because they don't seem like the your ex/perfect match. You also need to figure out what didn't work with your ex (other than the reason you tell yourself it didn't work out) so that you can see how maybe things weren't as rose covered as you thought they were. 3
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I'm not sure if you misunderstood me or are being purposely obtuse, but to each their own. What I meant is, I wouldn't date somebody who doesn't love herself enough to keep herself healthy. It's as simple as that. By obsessive, I'm talking about Japanophile obessive. You've probably never seen it before, but I'm talking about the ones who live, breathe, and sleep anime/anything Japanese. Sure, be passionate about what you do, but when you're neglecting the rest of your life, then something's wrong. Let me put this another way. A girl that likes video games would be cool, but I don't want one that only sits inside all day and plays video games. I'm highly positive that I'm not eliminating the entire female race. The entire female race doesn't breathe anime. My ex was a writer. I loved that about her, and she was passionate about it. She also spent time with me and spent time doing other things with her life. She didn't spend 100% of her time on one thing. That's not the kind of person that I'm looking for. No, I don't want somebody who is 414 pounds. I feel like that's a lack of effort to even be attractive, and I don't want to go through the pain of losing my SO early due to health problems that could have been prevented. Why should I put in all of the effort to make myself attractive but not get the same? I'm sure there are a lot of girls out there who are turned off because I don't like to drink or go clubbing constantly. There are probably some girls who are turned off because I occasionally play video games. That's fine; we're just incompatible. I wouldn't consider them eliminating the entire male gender even though most guys probably do play video games. ok so you don't want a heavy girl you like your women to be healthy......disrespect comes in when you refer to not wanting a woman who is a fat slob......and I am never purposely obtuse.....how can you not be alert or quick on purpose.....so are you asking if i am being slow minded on purpose......who would admit to that for starters.....obviously i must have misunderstood....so your question was sent with a barb on the end of it....barb not required..... I do know what it means when it comes to japanese anime I have a son who is in to anime....I hate cartoons......its like japanese water torture for my brain..i obsess over the unmatched mouth movement.......i prefer to sing along to sesame street much more fun, less torture, more in sync ....... I still believe that you can work on yourself if you dont think there is anything you need to learn.....then maybe in that lies the problem...........you obviously have intelligence......all I have read that you bring to the fishing tackle box.....is that you are attractive, healthy that you have and will refer to a woman as a fat slob, that you think what you are looking for is rare and have no idea where to look for this rare and stunning fish......that you dont like criticism......and that you are on a love shack site posting a thread about advice but then when offered advice become snobby and defensive...... do you think that getting to know the female race is better when you dont call one of them slow on the uptake or its better to insult a woman to prove how attractive you are to the female race....which by the way.....i am part of......even though you might have to type slower so i can get what you are asking advice about.....you tell me....without being defensive......or you can ignore me......as I have nothing to offer one such as yourself.....you know more about females than i do ....whatever way you go joe...if you leave out the barbs ill be friendly...good luck.....deb
Els Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 (edited) I'm not sure if you misunderstood me or are being purposely obtuse, but to each their own. My impression is that you're the one misunderstanding her post. I personally don't think there's anything wrong with wanting what you want, but it's the manner in which you state it that reveals quite a few (distasteful, to me) things about your general mindset and mentality. In fact, your post comes across to me as a textbook narcissism example. Now, I'm certainly not qualified to diagnose you, and perhaps you don't come across in that manner IRL. But there is confidence... and then there is arrogance, as demonstrated by a wholesale listing of how great you are and how almost everyone else, well, sucks. I'm not saying this to attack you, but you would do well to take a look at what you are saying, and why it may turn some potential partners away. There are plenty of people with good balance in their lives (though not everyone who is healthy is extremely physically attractive, and vice versa). It isn't that girls are unable to find a balance and guys are; rather, video games are still a very male-dominated field, so girls who are into them are rare, period, and additional criteria just makes your search targets even more rare. As to where to find them, well, I'm afraid there isn't any one location where hot gamer girls in particular flock to, as much as you (and virtually every other young gamer male) wish there is. Perhaps carry on with activities you enjoy (gym, conventions, etc), and hope to luck out? Edited July 4, 2012 by Elswyth 2
irc333 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I would say try and meet women half way and develop other interests. Finding a woman who is into anime and actually under 400 lbs That's the only setback of geeky girls, though they are into the same things some skinny, white geeks are into, they seem to not much hold on their weight. There was one woman, about that weight, no joke, she was farting audibly.....remember on "Stepbrothers" when one of them let a fart, and the interviewer asked, "Was that a fart??" "I could taste it...on the tip of tongue" lol Yeah, a woman farting is definately a turn off, and can only be found in the "geeky" niche'. LOL And those "geeky" girls you see at conventions all the time in their hot Anime' outfits or Super/Powergirl spandex, cleavage/ big boobs....sorry, but their either married or spoken for, and chances or....they're always finding away to let other single men at conventions KNOW they're spoken for in some kind of subtle manner. LOL
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 My impression is that you're the one misunderstanding her post. I personally don't think there's anything wrong with wanting what you want, but it's the manner in which you state it that reveals quite a few (distasteful, to me) things about your general mindset and mentality. In fact, your post comes across to me as a textbook narcissism example. Now, I'm certainly not qualified to diagnose you, and perhaps you don't come across in that manner IRL. But there is confidence... and then there is arrogance, as demonstrated by a wholesale listing of how great you are and how almost everyone else, well, sucks. I'm not saying this to attack you, but you would do well to take a look at what you are saying, and why it may turn some potential partners away. There are plenty of people with good balance in their lives (though not everyone who is healthy is extremely physically attractive, and vice versa). It isn't that girls are unable to find a balance and guys are; rather, video games are still a very male-dominated field, so girls who are into them are rare, period, and additional criteria just makes your search targets even more rare. As to where to find them, well, I'm afraid there isn't any one location where hot gamer girls in particular flock to, as much as you (and virtually every other young gamer male) wish there is. Perhaps carry on with activities you enjoy (gym, conventions, etc), and hope to luck out? I actually only answer posts I think I can help, so thank you for thinking he may have misunderstood me....i actually was trying to help......a bit embellished.....a bit flowery.... I however have increased my knowledge today by replying to his post and trying to help.....you can lead a fish to the water....but he doesnt need advice on how to not be a mullet....deb
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 That's the only setback of geeky girls, though they are into the same things some skinny, white geeks are into, they seem to not much hold on their weight. There was one woman, about that weight, no joke, she was farting audibly.....remember on "Stepbrothers" when one of them let a fart, and the interviewer asked, "Was that a fart??" "I could taste it...on the tip of tongue" lol Yeah, a woman farting is definately a turn off, and can only be found in the "geeky" niche'. LOL And those "geeky" girls you see at conventions all the time in their hot Anime' outfits or Super/Powergirl spandex, cleavage/ big boobs....sorry, but their either married or spoken for, and chances or....they're always finding away to let other single men at conventions KNOW they're spoken for in some kind of subtle manner. LOL I find farting a turn off in men.......more men audibly fart in public.....turn to each other and say....did ya hear that....nearly blew my arse off with that.....think i am king.....and then smile pleased with themselves.......than women would......
irc333 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I find farting a turn off in men.......more men audibly fart in public.....turn to each other and say....did ya hear that....nearly blew my arse off with that.....think i am king.....and then smile pleased with themselves.......than women would...... Yeah, but how often do you actually HEAR a woman fart in public? LOL
Author ZhaoZilong5 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 <Sigh> this forum needs to make up its mind about me. One moment I'm being told I'm a doormat who treated a woman much better than she deserved, then a few hours later I'm being called a narcissist. I'm only describing myself based on what others have said about me, but I guess going into different sub-forums is like was liking on a minefield. So which is it? Do I lack self-respect for wanting to leave the door open for reconciliation and thus end up being a doormat? So after going NC and meeting other people, I'm suddenly a narcissist for knowing what I do like and dislike in a female? At least I'm being honest here. I want two things. Some geekiness with physical health. She doesn't have to be a writer like my ex, somebody who loves anime or whatever, a soccer player, a WoW player, etc. Is it too much to ask for two broad similarities? Apparently so. Maybes 3 things. You guys are focusing on the "fat slob" comment too much. I swear I've seen it mentioned 3 or 4 times already. Like I said, I want somebody who's willing to put in as much as I do into myself and the relationship. I'm basically looking for somebody who's willing to make it work as much as me. I do believe that you can't love and takes care of others without loving and taking care of yourself first. Like I said, I'm not looking for a HB10 super model that does absolutely everything that I do. I'm looking for somebody who has an affinity for my interests who also wants to be healthy. I'm not asking for somebody who is a health nut that will go to 5 A.M. boot camps with me. I'm asking where because I'll go to a gym, and none of he girls click with me due to differing interests. I go to anime and book clubs, and after hanging out with them, I realize that their lifestyles are completely sedentary. I tried bars just for fun. No dice, but I wasn't expecting much anyway. So again, I'm not looking for a substitute for my ex. I'm looking for somebody who shares just two broad interests with me. Apparently, they're super rare according to your responses.
Emilia Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 So again, I'm not looking for a substitute for my ex. I'm looking for somebody who shares just two broad interests with me. Apparently, they're super rare according to your responses. I think it's an effort to be that well rounded and perhaps most people don't feel like making that effort
Els Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 <Sigh> this forum needs to make up its mind about me. One moment I'm being told I'm a doormat who treated a woman much better than she deserved, then a few hours later I'm being called a narcissist. I'm only describing myself based on what others have said about me, but I guess going into different sub-forums is like was liking on a minefield. So which is it? Do I lack self-respect for wanting to leave the door open for reconciliation and thus end up being a doormat? So after going NC and meeting other people, I'm suddenly a narcissist for knowing what I do like and dislike in a female? It's possible to be both, really. People with narcissistic tendencies are often inwardly insecure as well, so they may possibly maintain poor boundaries of principle. Also, you misquote me. I distinctly mentioned that I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting what you want. It's the manner in which you've described all the women you've ever interacted with (except your ex), and yourself, that led to my hunch. At least I'm being honest here. I want two things. Some geekiness with physical health. She doesn't have to be a writer like my ex, somebody who loves anime or whatever, a soccer player, a WoW player, etc. Is it too much to ask for two broad similarities? Apparently so. No, you aren't. Look at everything you've said again, including calling the girls at the gym 'vain, shallow, and unintelligent', the girls in the bar 'of no substance', etc. You're looking at people as lists of attributes, and extolling your 'virtues' over them. Normal people with healthy mindsets don't go around passing negative judgment on virtually everyone they meet and talking about how they've been called a 'child prodigy' and rated an '8 or 9'. I'm sorry, but they really don't. Maybes 3 things. You guys are focusing on the "fat slob" comment too much. I swear I've seen it mentioned 3 or 4 times already. Like I said, I want somebody who's willing to put in as much as I do into myself and the relationship. I'm basically looking for somebody who's willing to make it work as much as me. I do believe that you can't love and takes care of others without loving and taking care of yourself first. That is all well and good, but this paragraph and the 'fat slob' comment are wildly different from each other. It's the difference between calling someone a retard and saying that they aren't thinking things through properly. If you can't understand that, there's nothing more that can be said about it.
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 <Sigh> this forum needs to make up its mind about me. One moment I'm being told I'm a doormat who treated a woman much better than she deserved, then a few hours later I'm being called a narcissist. I'm only describing myself based on what others have said about me, but I guess going into different sub-forums is like was liking on a minefield. So which is it? Do I lack self-respect for wanting to leave the door open for reconciliation and thus end up being a doormat? So after going NC and meeting other people, I'm suddenly a narcissist for knowing what I do like and dislike in a female? At least I'm being honest here. I want two things. Some geekiness with physical health. She doesn't have to be a writer like my ex, somebody who loves anime or whatever, a soccer player, a WoW player, etc. Is it too much to ask for two broad similarities? Apparently so. Maybes 3 things. You guys are focusing on the "fat slob" comment too much. I swear I've seen it mentioned 3 or 4 times already. Like I said, I want somebody who's willing to put in as much as I do into myself and the relationship. I'm basically looking for somebody who's willing to make it work as much as me. I do believe that you can't love and takes care of others without loving and taking care of yourself first. Like I said, I'm not looking for a HB10 super model that does absolutely everything that I do. I'm looking for somebody who has an affinity for my interests who also wants to be healthy. I'm not asking for somebody who is a health nut that will go to 5 A.M. boot camps with me. I'm asking where because I'll go to a gym, and none of he girls click with me due to differing interests. I go to anime and book clubs, and after hanging out with them, I realize that their lifestyles are completely sedentary. I tried bars just for fun. No dice, but I wasn't expecting much anyway. So again, I'm not looking for a substitute for my ex. I'm looking for somebody who shares just two broad interests with me. Apparently, they're super rare according to your responses. The fat slob comment shows a general inability to take into consideration that you would if in a room full of people that contained overweight women with husbands or boyfriends...... not make that comment about what you dislike..........this site is a forum where you can sit behind your computer and have the dutch courage......to say whatever you want.....you dont have to look people in the eye and grandstand what you believe to be unattractive in an offensive manner......and face the people you are offending....do you tell women when you are talking to them they are fat slobs or they should look after themselves.....i would have no hesitation in saying exactly what i have said to you in person if you belittled any women in front of me....which you did here.....so excuse the fact i am honest.....my daughter is carrying extra kilos.....if you called her a fat slob and unattractive......i would rip you a new one.....and thats honesty.....be respectful .....a woman could be a possible key to you finding happiness.....respect all woman that cross your path doesnt mean you have to be attracted to all women...but you need to learn how to be respectful even on here.....then you get it back .....deb
KR10N Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 That's the only setback of geeky girls, though they are into the same things some skinny, white geeks are into, they seem to not much hold on their weight. There was one woman, about that weight, no joke, she was farting audibly.....remember on "Stepbrothers" when one of them let a fart, and the interviewer asked, "Was that a fart??" "I could taste it...on the tip of tongue" lol Yeah, a woman farting is definately a turn off, and can only be found in the "geeky" niche'. LOL And those "geeky" girls you see at conventions all the time in their hot Anime' outfits or Super/Powergirl spandex, cleavage/ big boobs....sorry, but their either married or spoken for, and chances or....they're always finding away to let other single men at conventions KNOW they're spoken for in some kind of subtle manner. LOLJesus Christ! Everyone farts!
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