tivoconga Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 The other day I had a first date with a girl I met online. We met by a lake, and walked around it, had some interesting conversation, and when we got back to where we started, we stared at each other for a few seconds, and she asked what next. So we grabbed some drinks and sipped them by the lake until the sun went down. Similar story at that point - stared at each other a few seconds, and she said something about do you want to do this again? I said I would like that, we hugged, and parted ways. It seemed pretty smooth date - not fast moving, but a nice way to get to know someone that I've only seen digitally. That said, I followed up with her the next day via e-mail simply to reiterate what was said at the date close - namely that it would be great to see her again, and that we should figure out something soon. I'm not sure if I felt like proposing something definitive at that point - in particular because I was uncertain about whether or not I would be heading out of town for the rest of this week+weekend. As such, the earliest possible day to meet her would be about 8-9 days after the first meeting. At the end of the message, I told her I would let her know if I was heading out of town. Anyhow, it's been a couple of days since I sent her a letter and I haven't gotten a response. Granted, there weren't really substantial questions posed in the letter, and I did tell her I would let her know if I was heading out of town (kind of putting the ball back in my court) - but still, some genre of a confirmation would be good. What should I do? Things seemed to go smoothly, but I don't know if there were fireworks. It would be good to give it another go, however, to see how things work out. I figure I'll follow-up with her letting her know if I'm going out of town, and propose something a bit definitive in terms of a second meeting. Should I even bother with that, or should I wait for a reponse to the previous letter? Any other thoughts? Thanks!
utterer of lies Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Call her on the phone and ask her out. No email, no texts, no facebook chat.
Christine52 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I agree completely. Email, texts and facebook make dating a lot more onerous. Calling rules out a lot of unanswered questions.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Met online? Spidey Sense tells me that she is meeting with others to walk around the lake. Many people are only as faithful, loyal, and honest as their options.
Author tivoconga Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Call her on the phone and ask her out. No email, no texts, no facebook chat. Seems reasonable. I decided to head out of town for a long weekend. Should I call her to tell her I'll be out of town (as I told her I may or may not - the plans have since crystalized), and at the same time, propose a meeting time for next week (with specifics)? Or should I send her a message (email/text) telling her I'll be out of town, and simply call her when I get back? I know - kind of a redundant question in context of, "just call her", but we likely won't go out again for another ~week.
Author tivoconga Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Met online? Spidey Sense tells me that she is meeting with others to walk around the lake. Many people are only as faithful, loyal, and honest as their options. She may be meeting with others - it was only a first date - if she was exclusive with me prior to our first date I would be a bit concerned...and truthfully, I would be concerned if she's exclusive with me now (again - only 1 date). That doesn't necessarily mean she's actually seeing others (I have no idea if she is or is not), but she should still be ok meeting others at this point...I certainly am.
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