Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 She wen't to a celebration party at her school and she got drunk, she kissed this guy who has in the past: tried it on with her knowing she is taken by me, and grabbed her and kissed her. She asked him "would you ever kiss me" they went of and kissed she came back later on that afternoon told me everything, i have decided to stay with her but i am still a bit worried, i know that alcohol is a sort of truth syrium but i know her and she disn't even like him in the first place. We have agreed no drinking at all when we are not together but i am worried because if alcohol brings out the truth in you does she love me ? We are in love, she never drinks on a regular basis at all. I am worried if this is the real her, we have been togehter for 4 months and we have spoken to eachother everyday since the daii we met we have seen eachother anout 3 quaters of the time, i love her and need help badly because i cannot suffer anohter heartbreak:(
Titanwolf Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 alcohol is a sort of truth syrium but i know her and she disn't even like him in the first place Contradiction. Alcohol doesn't make you do something you would never otherwise do. It lowers your inhibitions, so in Lehman's terms, somewhere deeeeeep down, she wanted to kiss him. This will not end well OP. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Your girlfriend is a slut and alcohol is just an excuse. Drunk cheating is no more excusable than drunk driving. If this ho choses to get drunk to a point she can't contro her sexual impulses, she is a willing participant. A slut is what a slut does. 1
mesmerized Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Normally I don't defend cheaters in any way. But she was honest with you right away, that's a good sign. It's up to you to give her another chance or not but to me it seems there is room for another chance. good luck. 1
yongyong Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Bang her as many as you can while looking for another girl
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 We are in a proper romantic relationship and you guys have gaven good advice but i just want to say to the guy who posted about the alcohol being truth syrium does that means she doesnt love me or what is there between them ? Because he has done nothing to show kidness or actual love towards her only sexual interst, i have read there messages and it is clean no flirting other than him taking the piss out of her and trying to seduce her witch fails
Feelsgoodman Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 We are in a proper romantic relationship and you guys have gaven good advice but i just want to say to the guy who posted about the alcohol being truth syrium does that means she doesnt love me or what is there between them ? Because he has done nothing to show kidness or actual love towards her only sexual interst, i have read there messages and it is clean no flirting other than him taking the piss out of her and trying to seduce her witch fails Basically, it sounds like she wants hick cock. Sorry if that sounds crass but I'm not sure how else to put it.
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Contradiction. Alcohol doesn't make you do something you would never otherwise do. It lowers your inhibitions, so in Lehman's terms, somewhere deeeeeep down, she wanted to kiss him. This will not end well OP. Please read my last post i need quite a bit of help here because i am keen on making the right decision mate and you seem to know alot is there a way we can contact 1 to 1 coz there is more to it
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Normally I don't defend cheaters in any way. But she was honest with you right away, that's a good sign. It's up to you to give her another chance or not but to me it seems there is room for another chance. good luck. I agree she tells me everything especialy when over boys are involved, she is honest and i can belive everything she says, i can vouch for it.
AH1990 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Title should read: "Urgent!! My girlfriend kissed a guy" Alcohol is never.....EVER an excuse to do something like that. It's not really a truth serum either. It brings out a persons inner most desires. It's makes you do stupid $hit. Stuff you would most likely never do while not drunk. Tell your girlfriend that you just had a hardcore makeout session with three other girls, while you were all plastered. Don't worry, it's ok, you were drunk. That makes everything better! My advice: Put the trash in the garbage! Go out and find the 'right' girl for you. There is even girls out there that will get drunk and still know to do the right thing and come home to their bf at the end of the night.
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Title should read: "Urgent!! My girlfriend kissed a guy" Alcohol is never.....EVER an excuse to do something like that. It's not really a truth serum either. It brings out a persons inner most desires. It's makes you do stupid $hit. Stuff you would most likely never do while not drunk. Tell your girlfriend that you just had a hardcore makeout session with three other girls, while you were all plastered. Don't worry, it's ok, you were drunk. That makes everything better! My advice: Put the trash in the garbage! Go out and find the 'right' girl for you. There is even girls out there that will get drunk and still know to do the right thing and come home to their bf at the end of the night. Is there a way i can contact u 1 to 1 coz i need someone i can speak to on the outside coz there is more to it sadly
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 to everyone .. after a long thought i have alot of interesting things to say ... We are at a young stage in life and being 16 and 13 we do not know what we won't out of love and life, we are much to young to be having relationships but i have noticed that people call that type of love "puppy love" this is funny because most of the people that do don't know what it means. I do and it means that when you are young you do not know what you wan't out of life and definitly relationships and love, this means that cheating is more common in younger peoples relationships due to this, that is why it is called puppy love. I have a confession, i cheated on this girl 3 times before. This is bad i know but listen on ... I have come to realise that i still have feelings for her and love her, and i, growing up dispised cheating because of my parents relationsip. And i still do, and i do not even know why i kissed these girls but i did and i feel nothing for them it was me being young and no knowing what i want from love and realtionships. I underfstand she is even younger than me so she will be more prone to this. Knowing that i understand that she does not have any feelings for him it was just like how i was but also because she was drunk adds to that equation. She was bound to kiss anyone there and the fact it was him was because she knows he likes her. She is not a cheater and i know that it is not in her nature. that guy who posted saying it was a good sign wen she told me the truth str88 away. Cheat and tell makes no sense but she knew after that is was a mistake as did i. I am going to stick with her and i know that there may be more cheating but i will repost on this thread in years to come telling you how it has gone. I bet the cheating will die down in years to come.
CarrieT Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 We are at a young stage in life and being 16 and 13 we do not know what we won't out of love and life, we are much to young to be having relationships but i have noticed that people call that type of love "puppy love" this is funny because most of the people that do don't know what it means. Wrong. Most of us have been in your shoes and know all too well what "puppy love" is... It is a first blush of learning to care for someone without having the emotional maturity to be able to consciously and intelligently discuss your feelings for one another without desire getting in the way. I have a confession, i cheated on this girl 3 times before. This is bad i know but listen on ... I have come to realise that i still have feelings for her and love her, and i, growing up dispised cheating because of my parents relationsip. And i still do, and i do not even know why i kissed these girls but i did and i feel nothing for them it was me being young and no knowing what i want from love and realtionships. I underfstand she is even younger than me so she will be more prone to this. Have you come clean with her about your own cheating? We are at a young stage in life and being 16 and 13 More importantly is the fact that she is 13 years old and drinking. THAT should be more of a concern than her budding awareness of her sexuality... Listen - here's an old person's perspective (one who HAS been in your shoes). BACK OFF. Let her grow up without the pressures of sexualization before she is ready for it. You both have a lot of growing and maturing to do; better to do so without the pressures of alcohol and sex.
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Wrong Listen - here's an old person's perspective (one who HAS been in your shoes). BACK OFF. Let her grow up without the pressures of sexualization before she is ready for it. You both have a lot of growing and maturing to do; better to do so without the pressures of alcohol and sex. I agree almost 100% but i fear if i let her go she will fall out of love with hme and endanger our chances of being in a succseful relationship. Also i know we are in love because i can hear it in her heartbeat, the tone of her voice and the way she is around me. I know i am because of similiar way i am towards her and i just know > I am coming clean tommorow and explaining my learnings and hope that she understands because we are a like and if she loves me witch she does i know she will do anythink to stay together. But yes we stay away from alcohol from now on, and yes les sexual stuff.
TripLine Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 to everyone .. after a long thought i have alot of interesting things to say ... We are at a young stage in life and being 16 and 13 we do not know what we won't out of love and life, we are much to young to be having relationships but i have noticed that people call that type of love "puppy love" this is funny because most of the people that do don't know what it means. I do and it means that when you are young you do not know what you wan't out of life and definitly relationships and love, this means that cheating is more common in younger peoples relationships due to this, that is why it is called puppy love. I have a confession, i cheated on this girl 3 times before. This is bad i know but listen on ... I have come to realise that i still have feelings for her and love her, and i, growing up dispised cheating because of my parents relationsip. And i still do, and i do not even know why i kissed these girls but i did and i feel nothing for them it was me being young and no knowing what i want from love and realtionships. I underfstand she is even younger than me so she will be more prone to this. Knowing that i understand that she does not have any feelings for him it was just like how i was but also because she was drunk adds to that equation. She was bound to kiss anyone there and the fact it was him was because she knows he likes her. She is not a cheater and i know that it is not in her nature. that guy who posted saying it was a good sign wen she told me the truth str88 away. Cheat and tell makes no sense but she knew after that is was a mistake as did i. I am going to stick with her and i know that there may be more cheating but i will repost on this thread in years to come telling you how it has gone. I bet the cheating will die down in years to come. I was going to agree with another poster and say give her a goodbye bang but now that I found out that she is 13, she is kind of immature for you because she is a child. I can't believe you can even take this serious. 1
Author Fallen Angel 12100 Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 TipLin - Yes i agree but if you knew her in person she is more mature than most people her age, but yes there are times when i see the kid in her and it does remind me of how this relationship is so delicate. And i know what i need to do as the older one in the relationship i need to observe and make sure i make the right moves but i am very optimistic and i hope it works out for the best *fingers crossed*
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