collegeprobs Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Hello everyone I've been lurking these forums for a little and finally decided to share my story. okay me and my ex had been dating for about 2.5 years when last month she said she wanted space, this eventually lead to our breakup. We both still really lov eachother and I tried supporting her to help her figure things out but I was hurting so bad. It seemeed like she did not even care as she was going out partying the next day. the whole reason we broke up is beause our relationship became dull, I realized my flaws and she did hers. anyway after being a complete wreck for two weeks straight I started going out too. I saw her one night at the club and she gave me a hug and just kinda ignored me and left (don't blame her the point was to get spac) anyway this hurt me really bad that night and I got really drunk. I ended dancing with a few girls, some even offered to come home with me. I declined cause I still love my ex. anyways now me and my ex seem to be doing better and are on th path to work things out, she said she doesn't want anyone else but me and I said the same. she just needs space and time and as hard as it is for me its doing good for me too (got a job). my only thing is I feel terrible about my drunken antics at the club, I even got a few girls #'s but I deleted them because I felt so bad. I want to tell my ex I danced/touched other girls but I'm affraid shed break it off for good. You see going to the club really made me realize I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Every girl I saw could not compare, my ex was my first love (first girl I had sex with etc) sowhile dating I always had that curiosity of other women (never acted on it cause I'm faithful) now I feel like I am 100% positive she is the right one.. so anyone have any good advie?!
KatZee Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 my only thing is I feel terrible about my drunken antics at the club, I even got a few girls #'s but I deleted them because I felt so bad. I want to tell my ex I danced/touched other girls but I'm affraid shed break it off for good. It already is broken off. It doesn't matter what you do at this point in time. She's not your girlfriend. You see going to the club really made me realize I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl. Every girl I saw could not compare That's great that you're feeling this, but SHE left YOU. She is the one that needs to feel this. If she doesn't, it doesn't matter what you feel, say, do, etc. She won't come back. Strict NC. That's what needs to be done. Start living your life. Move on.
Author collegeprobs Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 I was affraid that was the answer.. the weird thing is she keeps telling me she sees us two together etc, etc but that she is just sad. You see our relationship turned pretty bad both of us stopped hanging out with people and would just stay in and sulk.. looking back at it I realize how dumb we where acting. I wasn't a perfect boyfriend and ill admit that. I just wonder how this will end. I'm already living my life, I'm doing a lot better than I was when this all started...
Beaker78 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 My 1 and only piece of advice would be don't at any point mention what happened in the club cause she will see that as your trying to make her jealous. Don't try that cause it will blow up in your face....want her back let her do the running go strict NC see where it leads too.
Author collegeprobs Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 I'm just scared she'll lose interest in me if we go NC:(
Million.to.1 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Well, if she loses interest in you, then you have your answer. No one here is going to post what you want to hear. The fact is, she has left you. She is also scared of losing you, but she is obviously willing to take that risk, because she left. Call her bluff. Go N/C. Read the guide to NC. it's for you, not to try and win her back. That cannot be your motive. You have to want to be happy without her in your life at all. The longer you hang around waiting, the more pain you will put yourself through. Bottom line. If you want to be happy, Go NC.
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