firt81 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Went on four dates with the girl who happens to be moving in a month so don't think it will be anything long term. We've fooled around but no sex. I'm just so completely confused after the last date. Just to let you know I'm really inexperienced, this is the farthest I've ever gone with a girl (I'm 25 she's 21). So basically I have no idea how to do the hand holding/affection stuff etc. In fact did none of it first three dates. We went to the movies on the fourth, went to grab her hand, and she seemed receptive, then thigh. After she seemed normal but right away remembered she needed to buy shoes for work tomorrow (9:30 pm) Went with her to a store across the street and she got nothing. She still said she needed to buy shoes and I walked around a bit not knowing what to do grabbed her hand again but I think it was overkill as she didn't seem as receptive this time. She said she had to get up early for work (7 am) We parted, she kissed me and thanked me for movie and dinner. Not sure if shoe thing was to get rid of me. I didn't text her for two days, she played a word on word with friends vs me, I played one back. I texted her later that night, just a question on something she was doing. I never received a text back or another WWF word play (I don't know if this is dumb to mention or not). I texted her again yesterday (four days later) then walk one block and run into her. I have to go but only have two minute quick conversation walking with her, told her I just texted her (it was WWF text, was just hoping to get text back) She didn't seem really different from when I normally meet her at first (we're both awkward...) But now kind of kicking myself for not trying to setup another date right there and then. I'm a newb who doesn't know what he's doing, am I overanalyzing this or is she just not responding because she doesn't want to see me anymore. Since it was four dates I'd like some closure at least.
TDiddy98 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Don't text her; call her and try to set up another date. Be direct, that way you don't have to worry about interpreting signals. This way you will either A) get another date, or B) get some closure.
Author firt81 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 Don't text her; call her and try to set up another date. Be direct, that way you don't have to worry about interpreting signals. This way you will either A) get another date, or B) get some closure. I want to do that but she actually told me she doesn't like talking on the phone so not sure if that would be a bad idea...
day-dreaming Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 If she is awkward/shy as well and you waiting a while after the most recent date to call-- she might have assumed you're not interested. For the first 5+ dates I usually back off and let the man do the initiating of contact. She may have started to assume you weren't that interested in her. The shoe thing does sound a bit odd. If I were you I would ask her out one more time and you will have you answer. You can do it via text-- text her to ask if she is available a certain night and say you'd like to take her out again. Her response will give you your answer. If she says yes-- there ya go. If she is busy and is interested she will offer up an alternative day/time.
Author firt81 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) If she is awkward/shy as well and you waiting a while after the most recent date to call-- she might have assumed you're not interested. For the first 5+ dates I usually back off and let the man do the initiating of contact. She may have started to assume you weren't that interested in her. The shoe thing does sound a bit odd. If I were you I would ask her out one more time and you will have you answer. You can do it via text-- text her to ask if she is available a certain night and say you'd like to take her out again. Her response will give you your answer. If she says yes-- there ya go. If she is busy and is interested she will offer up an alternative day/time. I thought two days was a good time to wait since I felt I might have come off needy the last date with the hand holding. Not to mention the shoe shopping thing I still can't wrap my head around since at first it looked genuine, but then I wasn't sure. WWF made me think she was interested since she played, but nothing since then either... If she doesn't respond to text does that mean she's not interested either? Edited July 3, 2012 by firt81
day-dreaming Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I thought two days was a good time to wait since I felt I might have come off needy the last date with the hand holding. Not to mention the shoe shopping thing I still can't wrap my head around since at first it looked genuine, but then I wasn't sure. WWF made me think she was interested since she played, but nothing since then either... If she doesn't respond to text does that mean she's not interested either? Well, it depends on the girl's interest level I suppose. I like to hear from a guy the day after a date to know he had a good time/even if he isn't asking me out for the next date. If she doesn't respond within a day of receiving the text then I'd say she isn't interested or isn't as interested as you are in her. I do think you should ask sooner than later-- the longer you wait the less interested she may become. For example, one guy I saw for a few dates-- waited a week to ask me out again-- by then I assumed he wasn't interested and I lost my interest. Text her that you had a nice time and ask her out for a specific night/activity.
Author firt81 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 If I call what is the protocol if it goes to voicemail?
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