strawberry_swirlz Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 aaahh i have been seeing this guy for about a week and he non stop calls. it drives me crazy and he never stops calling even if i say to. i don't know what to do! he also changes plans around constantly..and calling me every 5 minutes. he never sleeps in and calls at 7:30 am!!! help me what do i do!
uriel Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 Tell him you don't want to see him again. Hard to do, but necessary at this point. Way too clingy. -- uriel
Author strawberry_swirlz Posted July 5, 2004 Author Posted July 5, 2004 oh yeah...and he's sweet though and shy but the calling is crazy...it's like a teeter totter of choosing to stay or to go!!!!
Swamp Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 God, that will drive someone up the freaking wall. Calling at 7:30 in the morning is absolutely obserd. He obviously hasn't had anyone brutally explain boundaries to him. I suggest you let him go, and give him a very serious lesson. That way the next girl will have better luck with him.
uriel Posted July 6, 2004 Posted July 6, 2004 Problem is -- this behavior's not a sign of emotional health. If he's this clingy after one week, how else will this behavior (and the feelings driving it) manifest? No reason to be unkind, but you need to be direct, either way. Why not tell him, I'd still like to see you, but I'm having doubts because x? -- uriel
faux Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 Solution: Discontinue contact with this guy. Explain to him firmly and specifically what he is doing to bother you, and be sure he KNOWS it is upsetting you. Explain you wish to have absolutely NO further contact with him, and that anything between you is ended with absolutely no chance of that changing. If he won't stop, and I don't think he will if he is this obsessive, you will have to go to Plan B. Restraining Order: If you are in a dating relationship with a person, you can get a restraining order against that person. A restraining order will bar that individual from contacting you in any way, be it electronically, via notes, or through other people. That person will not be able to harass you further under penalty of law. If you get really freaked out, and he will not leave you alone, going to your local police department would be a good idea. If you are really serious and he lives in another municipality, visit his municipality. Be sure that you keep a log of when he phones you. If you have a cellular phone, save the call history but jot it down as well. Write down the time, how long the call lasted, what he said and how you felt, and what you said. I recommend just hanging up on him if you know it is him, and not taking his calls at all. You can apply for a TRO (Temporary Restraining Order) at the police station. You will be explained your options when you discuss your situation with an officer. TROs usually are in effect for one week, after which you will be required to present your case in family court (You do not need an attorney, and you are guided through the process). Good luck. But please... Give him the benefit of the doubt and explain to him your disapproval and true intentions/feelings. Be firm and do not spare his feelings. This is for his own good.
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