jecca1976 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Its been 2 months since the man I fell in love with broke the news that he no lonlonger feels the same and he wanted it over... Can read in my previous post... Just needed to I guess vent, say it out loud how much I still miss him an think of him daily...I'm doing the right things... Not talking, going out with friends, spending alot of time thinking trying to focus on me... Just my heart has other ideas... I love this man and I won't contact him, I just at this point in my life I want someone to be here cause he wants too... Just I guess it hurts because I just really believed we shared something special, and the fact that it's been 2 months and not a word I guess it just stings a bit more cause I realize I really never meant what I thought... And it just friggen sucks! I thought by this point it'd hurt less? :-S
StarlaStardust Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I"m there with you. I hear it just takes time. Blahblahblah, time.
Samilia Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Its been 2 months since the man I fell in love with broke the news that he no lonlonger feels the same and he wanted it over... Can read in my previous post... Just needed to I guess vent, say it out loud how much I still miss him an think of him daily...I'm doing the right things... Not talking, going out with friends, spending alot of time thinking trying to focus on me... Just my heart has other ideas... I love this man and I won't contact him, I just at this point in my life I want someone to be here cause he wants too... Just I guess it hurts because I just really believed we shared something special, and the fact that it's been 2 months and not a word I guess it just stings a bit more cause I realize I really never meant what I thought... And it just friggen sucks! I thought by this point it'd hurt less? :-S It takes time to get over a break up. It also depend on your emotional maturity and the length of the relationship. The longer the relationship, the harder to get over it. It does suck, but you seem to be doing alright, keeping busy, going out, etc... Do you feel you could date? As long as you're honest with your intentions, that could help.
tc37 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) Jecca1976, I know all too well just how you're feeling right now. It's not easy getting over someone you once love. It's been almost 3 months for me. I thought for sure I would be over him, but I'm not:( Stay strong, one day both you and I will eventually get over our exes. Have a good day sweetie. Edited July 3, 2012 by tc37 1
BlazePT Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 You're doing fine, keep going 2 months isn't really that long if the relationship was somewhat meaningful. You did a good thing by venting here! Cheers!
Ruby65 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 You're doing GREAT! For me, where you are right now has always been the hardest point.... around the end of the 3rd month is when I usually feel decent enough to start looking around and maybe even dating again. I'm not saying I've ever been completely OVER a breakup in 3 months, but from after that point on there's always been a significant shift in feeling much, much better. Hopefully the 3-month mark will make a big change for you, too! 1
Author jecca1976 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 hey all...thanks for the comments... I just needed to get that so off my chest... As for dating no not at all... I have not fallen in love since I was in my 20's and that relationship was 10 years this one was just under a year...and I fell completly... I guess going forward and time is all for the time being Im just glad I can come here and vent... Some days its just overwhelming... Again thanks
barese1 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Its been 2 months since the man I fell in love with broke the news that he no lonlonger feels the same and he wanted it over... Can read in my previous post... Just needed to I guess vent, say it out loud how much I still miss him an think of him daily...I'm doing the right things... Not talking, going out with friends, spending alot of time thinking trying to focus on me... Just my heart has other ideas... I love this man and I won't contact him, I just at this point in my life I want someone to be here cause he wants too... Just I guess it hurts because I just really believed we shared something special, and the fact that it's been 2 months and not a word I guess it just stings a bit more cause I realize I really never meant what I thought... And it just friggen sucks! I thought by this point it'd hurt less? :-S I relate to this post so much, its been nearly a month and a half NC for me. Thinking of the daily, doing the right things etc. thats what hurts me the most, really believing they felt at least some of what I felt but no. It hurts bad still for me too, but I'm hoping at the 3 month mark things will seem a little more positive. I think it takes at least that long before you really accept things and have done so much to move in it kicks in. At least I hope so coz if I still feel exactly the same at 3 months NC I'm just going to cave and see what happens.
Samilia Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I think if you really are in pain, 6 months is the average time to get back on track. It also depends on how well you deal with your feelings, if you really are trying to get better, etc.. I know we don't control everything, but let's just try, even if going out with your friends still leaves you with thoughts of him at night, at least you're on the right path. Personally the NC is something I crave and cherish. I need it, and I know why.
Christine52 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 The pain you feel comes from feelings of disappointment that that person did not end up being your soul mate. It is not that you have lost your soul mate forever. Don't confuse the two, stay optimistic, and always have hope. 1
Author jecca1976 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 barese1 as bad as I feel and for every moment I miss him...I wont call. You know what it is... what makes me stop is at 35 years old I want someone to wanna be here... to wanna miss me...to wanna fight for me. I love him, I hvnt felt so compatable in prob forever...its just I think if he had the feelings I thought he had for me then he would fight for me and hes not... When it first happened, I did fight for him...I asked what I could do to make it better, told him I loved him and wanted to be with him...and all he said was "I need time" he later tectex the same day after I walk out saying he was sorry that he broke my heart, that he dose have feelings for me but dose not want to make things worse...and wanted us to be friends.... I couldent answer.... my heart was in a million pieces... As much as every day comes and goes I wanna call, wanna hear his voice...we live very close even, I cant. I think it would set me back these 60 days right to the start... I hvnt cried like that in 15 years. He knows I love him, he knows I want nothing but to be with him... and thats why I think it hurts so much now because other then that tex that day he has never said a word, so what dose that say for me? that he hasnt thought twice... If you call trust me it wont ease the pain... Good luck =)
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