tenspoons Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Is chatting with the person I like every other day too much, or not enough? How about every 2 days. I feel everyday would get boring for the both of us after a while, but then I feel a week is too long without saying hello. What about if she says, "talk to you tomorrow" every time we say goodbye? Does that mean I should? We have been out a few times already and we live pretty far apart. Its been forever since we've seen each others face due to temporary and recent business. I just feel like I annoy her sometimes or will annoy her for talking to her too much for some reason. Should I just let her be until we can see each other regularly? It will be about 10 days... Basically I've been reading what people say about this and they only say that there is a fine line or sweet spot, yet they never give examples or ways of figuring out what is healthy and what is too much/little.
FitChick Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) There is no answer that fits everyone. Edited July 3, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Aquamelon Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Is chatting with the person I like every other day too much, or not enough? How about every 2 days. I feel everyday would get boring for the both of us after a while, but then I feel a week is too long without saying hello. What about if she says, "talk to you tomorrow" every time we say goodbye? Does that mean I should? We have been out a few times already and we live pretty far apart. Its been forever since we've seen each others face due to temporary and recent business. I just feel like I annoy her sometimes or will annoy her for talking to her too much for some reason. Should I just let her be until we can see each other regularly? It will be about 10 days... Basically I've been reading what people say about this and they only say that there is a fine line or sweet spot, yet they never give examples or ways of figuring out what is healthy and what is too much/little. In my situation, I stated early on that we should talk at least once a day .It doesn't have to be a 3 hour conversation so long as we both get some communication in. We fall asleep together every night, that's our golden rule. Lately I've had to give him more space so he can have the time to hang out with friends and work on projects (we have a 3 hour time difference) but he'll text me and at the end of the night I'll get my phone call. Different things work for different relationships. We have been together 5 months so it is a bit early on for me to say "oh well this works great". I'm having my fair share of problems with my bf. But in my mind, a quick 5-10 min conversation daily at a minimum just to say "Hello" would be a good move. 1
HeavenOrHell Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 IMO you're over thinking this far too much, I've never worried about what is the right amount of communication, you just do what comes naturally, if you want to talk then talk, if you don't want to talk some days, don't On size doesn't fit all, what's fine for one couple might not be fine for another. Is chatting with the person I like every other day too much, or not enough? How about every 2 days. I feel everyday would get boring for the both of us after a while, but then I feel a week is too long without saying hello. What about if she says, "talk to you tomorrow" every time we say goodbye? Does that mean I should? We have been out a few times already and we live pretty far apart. Its been forever since we've seen each others face due to temporary and recent business. I just feel like I annoy her sometimes or will annoy her for talking to her too much for some reason. Should I just let her be until we can see each other regularly? It will be about 10 days... Basically I've been reading what people say about this and they only say that there is a fine line or sweet spot, yet they never give examples or ways of figuring out what is healthy and what is too much/little.
justwhoiam Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I don't get to see him every 10 days, so I can't really put myself in your shoes. But if my boyfriend felt that way as to not contact me for fear of boring me, I would be disappointed. Not that I love being bored to death, but the fact is he seldom bores me. It just happens when he gets into much technical details about something I don't seem to figure out about his job... but he already knows that. So I guess he gets into technical details just when I ask him. For the rest, it's always a pleasure to hear from him. And actually, if he doesn't call, my first thought is he doesn't feel like talking to me not the other way round. So be sure she's ok with hearing from you 3 times a week or less. As for me, the more the better. Always. (Unless you're a very boring person).
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