DollWelch Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Is there a preset number of days a man must wait before he can call? Normally, or rather the general consensus is for the man to call right away or at least the following day. But if he doesn't, is that an indicator of disinterest or perhaps the avoidance of coming off as desperate? (Desperate may not be the best word in this case). Or are there ulterior motives at play? Thoughts?
LittlePrince Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 The time it takes to get through all of the other collected numbers from the previous nights. 1
sid3 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Actually its unlikely a guy will call the next day or right away if he has other options. Without lighting the multidating fuse, I'll just say a guy with several options will call when he feels like it, if ever.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 The more interested he is, the sooner he'll call. Easy day.
dancingonthemoon Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I find most guys wait three days before calling. Anymore than that and they are not interested.
Sid6.7 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 The more desperate he is, the sooner he'll call. Easy day. My apologies, I had to make a small edit. I hope you don't mind.
sid3 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 My apologies, I had to make a small edit. I hope you don't mind. Well done 6.7
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Think of it as a limit as to how many days he can wait versus how long he should wait.. Day 1 - If he calls the next day he's being very forward and clear about his interest, he really wants to see you again and is much more likely an action from a man who sees you as long-term potential and a man isn't interested in letting you slip away Day 2 - This is a little tricky, he may have waited or been busy the day prior out of courtesy or not to show an over-bearing amount of interest..a lot of women claim to want a man to contact him right away however from a mans point of view and experience contacting too soon and showing too much interest has not paid off for many. So bottom line this still a good indication of interest, however may also reveal a little less enthusiastic interest...it depends and a man will intentionally wait until Day 2, especially If Day 1 like I said he had a lot going on...however a text/email on Day 1 in regards to Day 2 might be a middle of the ground compromise. Day 3 - This is the zone where most women feel the PUA linger...although I don't have much knowledge on legitimate "pick-up-artist tactics" that I see constantly mentioned on this forum however I've never looked into it as reading material or researched it or had interest...I can guess at what people are referring to as the three day rule. This is where a guy is trying not be over-zealous in his efforts and appearing to play coy, however this is not a promising tactic as men who wait this long are likely more interested in playing games than taking chances..the chances of a man waiting this long are for the wrong reasons. Furthermore this is more enticing to primarily younger men and women, as the interaction, communication and flirtation period lasts longer and tends to be more...how should I say "novice" like. So bam, you got 3 days for prince charming until Ursula turns you back into a little mermaid and into one of those wrinkly p*nis looking things stuck at the bottom of her cave.
sid3 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Think of it as a limit as to how many days he can wait versus how long he should wait.. Day 1 - If he calls the next day he's being very forward and clear about his interest, he really wants to see you again and is much more likely an action from a man who sees you as long-term potential and a man isn't interested in letting you slip away Day 2 - This is a little tricky, he may have waited or been busy the day prior out of courtesy or not to show an over-bearing amount of interest..a lot of women claim to want a man to contact him right away however from a mans point of view and experience contacting too soon and showing too much interest has not paid off for many. So bottom line this still a good indication of interest, however may also reveal a little less enthusiastic interest...it depends and a man will intentionally wait until Day 2, especially If Day 1 like I said he had a lot going on...however a text/email on Day 1 in regards to Day 2 might be a middle of the ground compromise. Day 3 - This is the zone where most women feel the PUA linger...although I don't have much knowledge on legitimate "pick-up-artist tactics" that I see constantly mentioned on this forum however I've never looked into it as reading material or researched it or had interest...I can guess at what people are referring to as the three day rule. This is where a guy is trying not be over-zealous in his efforts and appearing to play coy, however this is not a promising tactic as men who wait this long are likely more interested in playing games than taking chances..the chances of a man waiting this long are for the wrong reasons. Furthermore this is more enticing to primarily younger men and women, as the interaction, communication and flirtation period lasts longer and tends to be more...how should I say "novice" like. So bam, you got 3 days for prince charming until Ursula turns you back into a little mermaid and into one of those wrinkly p*nis looking things stuck at the bottom of her cave. Gotta ask Ninja, when are you likely to call?
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 My apologies, I had to make a small edit. I hope you don't mind. Yea...if a girl considers it "desperate," then she's not interested.
Sid6.7 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Well done 6.7 Why, thank you, 3. Yea...if a girl considers it "desperate," then she's not interested. Based on some of your posts, you are the expert in this regard.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Based on some of your posts, you are the expert in this regard. Why thank you.
HHC Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 When you want to, and have the time to give them your undivided attention. No point in calling the next day if you're busy and the phone call will be cut short (unless you're a coward and that's your forte). No point in waiting 4 days if for four days you're just thinking about calling. Set the relationship up properly from the get go. Be yourself and do what you would do, not someone else.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Gotta ask Ninja, when are you likely to call? It all depends It's not something I honestly put a lot of thought into, and I wouldn't be able to tell you an average. I kind of do everything based on how I feel.
sid3 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 It all depends It's not something I honestly put a lot of thought into, and I wouldn't be able to tell you an average. I kind of do everything based on how I feel. Exactly the answer I was expecting!
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Exactly the answer I was expecting! As If I didn't know why you were asking
DjinnAgain Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 2 on a waxing moon.. 3 on a waning moon... Now, if there is an eclipse.... Never follow stupid rules.
sid3 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 As If I didn't know why you were asking Touche! Not worshiping the vagina is quite apparent in the insight you provide. What a breath of fresh air.
Art_Critic Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 When I was single and dating I always called when I wanted to talk to her.. Sometimes that might be right after the date or it might be a day.. but I never called on day 2 or 3 if I was interested. It is only desperate when the girl isn't interested and the guy hasn't read her signals right and then he calls on the first day..
Author DollWelch Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 I find most guys wait three days before calling. Anymore than that and they are not interested. That is the average number I have been hearing across the board (from 3rd parties). And I agree. Sometimes 3 days is even pushing it. The more interested he is, the sooner he'll call. Easy day. Exactly. This is where a guy is trying not be over-zealous in his efforts and appearing to play coy, however this is not a promising tactic as men who wait this long are likely more interested in playing games than taking chances..the chances of a man waiting this long are for the wrong reasons. I agree. The 3 Day Rule applies, but anymore than that (4th, 5th, 7th Day), it's pointless. Game Over. Right now, I am sitting at "Day1". Yesterday I specifically wrote out my number in his cell, and handed it to him (since he asked). I haven't heard from him at this point and hence the question. I'm not sure what to think. He seemed really into me. I know because of the way he simply looked at me (aside from other signs). I'm giving him until Friday, if I don't hear from him, I'm moving on. Life keeps going.
USMCHokie Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I'm giving him until Friday, if I don't hear from him, I'm moving on. Life keeps going. Now the question is, if he does call at some point after Friday, would you still accept his call...?
Sid6.7 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Now the question is, if he does call at some point after Friday, would you still accept his call...? Oh, yes. Of course she will. That is unless she as a few plates spinning her self. But let's be honest shall we? What are the percentages of that happening from a female considering they rarely even make a first move on a guy, much less having a few plates spinning herself. So, in reality she is just sitting at home or chilling out in the meantime doing every day things much like everyone else. What people don't point out is the things that are going through their heads during that time. It is a mental building process. You don't want to be immediately available, that's just too damn easy. There is no way you are going to create value by doing such an act. You hear the words mystery, emotionally unavailable, *******, for a reason. These are the very reasons that are not in the forefront, you got a date in the first place, and ultimately laid. After all, this is what Men want, and so do females mind you. If you are calling the next day you come across desperate. Maybe not consciously to her, but there it is, it exists anyway and eventually it will surface only to bite you in the ass later on. Does calling the next day happen? Can it work afterwards? Sure it can in those rare instances. Moan, whine and decry it as much as you like but these things work and exist for a reason. If they didn't they wouldn't be repeated time and again.
Art_Critic Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Does calling the next day happen? Can it work afterwards? Sure it can in those rare instances. I think you are over thinking it.. it's just dating.. I'm almost 50 and never waited past day 2 to contact a date and most of my first contacts were the next day and I never once came across desperate.. I also was never at a loss for dates, 2nd dates, women in my life.. or marriages so I guess my whole life was the rare occurrence.. I do think that when a man comes across desperate it is because the liking is only one way, if both people like one another after the first date the call can happen right after the date and they just go about business as usual and don't judge one another. So.. if a guy calls on the first day and he comes cross as desperate then he likes her much more than she likes him.. either way.. even on day 2 or 3 it would be a fail. So.. it really is about knowing to call or not.. period, not when to call.
sid3 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I think you are over thinking it.. it's just dating.. I'm almost 50 and never waited past day 2 to contact a date and most of my first contacts were the next day and I never once came across desperate.. I also was never at a loss for dates, 2nd dates, women in my life.. or marriages so I guess my whole life was the rare occurrence.. I do think that when a man comes across desperate it is because the liking is only one way, if both people like one another after the first date the call can happen right after the date and they just go about business as usual and don't judge one another. So.. if a guy calls on the first day and he comes cross as desperate then he likes her much more than she likes him.. either way.. even on day 2 or 3 it would be a fail. So.. it really is about knowing to call or not.. period, not when to call. Yep, that is all one really needs to know.
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