funlady Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Do you girls ever ask a guy out and how do you guys feel about being asked out? I always believed that if a guy isn't asking me out, it is because he doesn't want to go out with me. That simple. So what would me asking him out instead change? I hear all these stories how guys will do anything to get the girl they want. So again, he isn't doing anything = he isn't that into me. Am I wrong? Opinions please! FYI I am not going to ask anyone out. I am asking your opinion out of curiosity.
turt Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 It isn't true that guys do anything to ask any girl out. There are probably many that liked you and never said a word. Every guy that you ask isn't going to like you as well so don't think that it's because they would have talked to you first.
HHC Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Do you guys ever ask a girl out and how do you girls feel about being asked out? I always believed that if a girl isn't asking me out, it is because she doesn't want to go out with me. That simple. So what would me asking her out instead change? I hear all these stories how girls will do anything to get the guy they want. So again, she isn't doing anything = she isn't that into me. Am I wrong? Opinions please! FYI I am not going to ask anyone out. I am asking your opinion out of curiosity.
Sid6.7 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I always believed that if a guy isn't asking me out, it is because he doesn't want to go out with me. That simple. So what would me asking him out instead change? I hear all these stories how guys will do anything to get the girl they want. So again, he isn't doing anything = he isn't that into me. Am I wrong? Opinions please! FYI I am not going to ask anyone out. I am asking your opinion out of curiosity. Girls don't ask guys out for the same reason many guys don't ask girls out. Fear of rejection. So when girls don't ask guys out and the guys don't ask you out the girls are left asking where the hell are all the good guys! Society has somehow dictated us guys should do the asking. I think it is great when girls ask a guy out. Whether you are approved or denied. In your case, you are already denied and never approved because you have made it clear you are not going to ask anyone out. 1
Algermas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Do you girls ever ask a guy out and how do you guys feel about being asked out? I always believed that if a guy isn't asking me out, it is because he doesn't want to go out with me. That simple. So what would me asking him out instead change? I hear all these stories how guys will do anything to get the girl they want. So again, he isn't doing anything = he isn't that into me. Am I wrong? Opinions please! FYI I am not going to ask anyone out. I am asking your opinion out of curiosity. No you don't, you're just cripplingly afraid of rejection. I love hearing women talk about this kind of stuff, men need to man up and not let rejection get to them when women are the biggest cowards with the frailest egos to have ever existed. 1
Weezy1973 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I've never been asked out, but all of the women that I have asked out have given some very obvious hints that they are interested. I think many women feel that the "obvious hint" is equivalent to asking someone out. I personally would feel quite uncomfortable with someone I didn't know randomly asking me out. But I'm also not one to cold approach.
Pierre Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Do you girls ever ask a guy out and how do you guys feel about being asked out? I always believed that if a guy isn't asking me out, it is because he doesn't want to go out with me. That simple. So what would me asking him out instead change? I hear all these stories how guys will do anything to get the girl they want. So again, he isn't doing anything = he isn't that into me. Am I wrong? Opinions please! FYI I am not going to ask anyone out. I am asking your opinion out of curiosity. Ask a man out when you are certain he is interested, but is too shy to ask you out. Ask him to hang out and not to a formal date. And lastly; learn how to flirt. 1
NYC-BigKat Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Do you girls ever ask a guy out and how do you guys feel about being asked out? I always believed that if a guy isn't asking me out, it is because he doesn't want to go out with me. That simple. So what would me asking him out instead change? I hear all these stories how guys will do anything to get the girl they want. So again, he isn't doing anything = he isn't that into me. Am I wrong? Opinions please! FYI I am not going to ask anyone out. I am asking your opinion out of curiosity. Do u like someone? I always do . Can u ask a guy out please? We want a girl to ask us out. Dont be scared. I be happy if any girl asks me out so u should try it.
motive2002 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Women don't ask guys out not for just fear of rejection, but fear of seeming too "easy". If they make the first play it can leave the wrong impression. So they want the guy to carry the rejection burden. They want to be chosen first, and then choose themselves. As far as I know, you can either be happy with it, or move to a different country where they still do arranged marriages or some other such nonsense.
Algermas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Women don't ask guys out not for just fear of rejection, but fear of seeming too "easy". If they make the first play it can leave the wrong impression. So they want the guy to carry the rejection burden. They want to be chosen first, and then choose themselves. As far as I know, you can either be happy with it, or move to a different country where they still do arranged marriages or some other such nonsense. No it's really more that they're cripplingly insecure and can't handle any sort of rejection. 1
motive2002 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 No it's really more that they're cripplingly insecure and can't handle any sort of rejection. Maybe some but not all. Not every woman I've met has been "crippled" by insecurity. The times I remember a woman fancying me, she made non-verbal gestures, suggesting interest. Eye contact. Smile. Wanting to continue conversations. Seems to be around a lot etc. etc. That's her "invite". She may not flat out ask you, but she has opened the door a bit. If you miss that opportunity, that's your own fault, but again, get used to the guy taking on the role of being judged/rejected. Just the way it is.
Algermas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Maybe some but not all. Not every woman I've met has been "crippled" by insecurity. The times I remember a woman fancying me, she made non-verbal gestures, suggesting interest. Eye contact. Smile. Wanting to continue conversations. Seems to be around a lot etc. etc. That's her "invite". She may not flat out ask you, but she has opened the door a bit. If you miss that opportunity, that's your own fault, but again, get used to the guy taking on the role of being judged/rejected. Just the way it is. I know that's her invite, it's also her way of 100% avoiding rejection. Because women are, generally, very insecure. 1
Sid6.7 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Maybe some but not all. Not every woman I've met has been "crippled" by insecurity. Yes, some. Even that is a very, very low calculation. Most and many are all insecure in some fashion or another and motive2002 hits it head on and doesn't mince words over it. Most women are insecure and Men need to really get a grasp on that concept. Even more so, hot women. If this weren't true the cosmetics industry would have failed years ago. Yet, it thrives tremendously.
motive2002 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I know that's her invite, it's also her way of 100% avoiding rejection. Because women are, generally, very insecure. So are men. If we weren't, then fear of rejection on our part wouldn't even be an issue. Some women are in fact horribly insecure. I've seen enough women's magazines in my time to make me fully understand why. The standard of beauty is astronomical! But I have had the pleasure of meeting women who love themselves exactly the way they are, they carry themselves with confidence, and yet they still prefer a man to ask, and it has nothing to do with insecurity. If you don't believe that, then you don't. Dunno what else I could say.
Algermas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 So are men. If we weren't, then fear of rejection on our part wouldn't even be an issue. Some women are in fact horribly insecure. I've seen enough women's magazines in my time to make me fully understand why. The standard of beauty is astronomical! But I have had the pleasure of meeting women who love themselves exactly the way they are, they carry themselves with confidence, and yet they still prefer a man to ask, and it has nothing to do with insecurity. If you don't believe that, then you don't. Dunno what else I could say. There's a distinct difference in the levels of insecurity. Women refuse to or are incapable of getting past it while men do so every day, sometimes facing rejection dozens of times over the years. Haha standard of beauty for women, unlike the muscular Greek god underwear models? 1
Feelsgoodman Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I hear all these stories how guys will do anything to get the girl they want. Maybe the stories you heat are not entirely accurate. Ever consider that possibility?
Sid6.7 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Maybe the stories you heat are not entirely accurate. Ever consider that possibility? Hahah You have seen some of the posts here, haven't you? I would be willing to admit the possibility those stories are not accurate just in time for you to admit the possibility those stories are accurate.
phineas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 women at work say "hi" to me all the time. Everyone at works says "hi" to me all the time. Everyone at work engages me in conversations all the time. Except apparently the women who are actually interested in me. they act like they don't want to talk to me. And barely say "hi". y'all is crazy. 1
runner Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 women at work say "hi" to me all the time. Everyone at works says "hi" to me all the time. Everyone at work engages me in conversations all the time. Except apparently the women who are actually interested in me. they act like they don't want to talk to me. And barely say "hi". y'all is crazy. yep. OP, if the guy is on the shy, introverted side, he might appreciate being asked out. the alpha guy on the other hand may not view you to be so desirable i'm afraid.
Christine52 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) I think it also depends a lot on the culture/the way they were raised.. From my limited experience with asian guys, I find many of them would not take kindly to a woman who is so bold as to ask them for coffee. Lord knows the heavens will rain fire if she even dares to propose, or ask them to become mutually exclusive. However, there are men from other culture who ADORE it when women make the first move, and they do so because they respect women as equal partners as they. So, Here is my conclusion: You need to set up the right environment for them to ask you out. Flirt, give eye contact, compliment them, touch them briefly on the arm, laugh at his jokes. Be sassy, cool and confident. Give him every reason to ask you out and also add a little mystery If he's still too afraid of rejection to ask you out, then you can casually say something like, "hey have you seen the trailer for that movie? It looks so good, I really want to see it". If he still doesn't ask you out at that point, he needs to grow a pair or he's not interested lol Edited July 3, 2012 by Christine52
Author funlady Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Do u like someone? I always do . Can u ask a guy out please? We want a girl to ask us out. Dont be scared. I be happy if any girl asks me out so u should try it. I do like someone but we work together, kind of, and I don't think that would be appropriate. However if I find another guy I like, outside of work, I shall ask him out! What the hell, right?
Shaun-Dro Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I do like someone but we work together, kind of, and I don't think that would be appropriate. However if I find another guy I like, outside of work, I shall ask him out! What the hell, right? Oh, is that so? Well, I'd like to see this. And please be straight with him on wanting to date, no throwing around lame hints you women are known for.
filani Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 (edited) No you don't, you're just cripplingly afraid of rejection. I love hearing women talk about this kind of stuff, men need to man up and not let rejection get to them when women are the biggest cowards with the frailest egos to have ever existed. ^^^^^ THIS There are a thousand ways most women will try to excuse themselves when asked the simple question " you like him, he likes you .What are you waiting for?" cliche answers include A)It's the man's job to approach first B)ladies don't do that C) I smiled , winked , flirted ( LOL ) and many others but what it comes down to is that they are afraid of rejection! simple Edited July 5, 2012 by filani
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