Meg717 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Last Tuesday a guy messaged me on OKCupid, I thought he was cute so I responded. We were talking all afternoon - you know get to know each other stuff. Wednesday he started conversation..eventually I suggested we hang out. He said he was shy and asked if I was OK with his tattoos. I said the tattoos were a selling point. He gave me his phone number and then we started texting. He asked for more pics and made it clear he wasn't looking for dirty pics. I told him that I didn't have any of me on my phone and to just look me up on facebook, unless he was uncomfortable being FB friends and barely knowing each other. He said he would look me up. Thurs we were texting..then on Friday I noticed he sent me a message via OKC that I never saw and it said "Whats up? You don't seem like the type that would talk to me. Haha you're cute" so I sent him a text Fri afternoon saying "So since my phone is messed up, I just noticed a msg you sent on Tues and I didn't want you to think I was ignoring you. Based on your pics I think you're super cute and your tattoos are sexy. That's all ..Hope you're having a good day!" NO RESPONSE!!! And I haven't heard from him since Thursday night, oh and he never friended me on FB. So now my questions... Why did he just stop responding? I'm not dumb, I gather he's not interested but is this what I'm dealing with in the dating world? Can I blast him for not being a man and being honest in the situation?
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 He probably just wanted to see If he could get a response from you since he felt you might have been out of his league or at least someone he may not have expected a response to...he played stupid on that tatts, kind of a pull for compliments and validation. Now that he knows you are interested and he can talk to a girl like you, then he's satisfied with that and probably isn't either interested or confident enough to meet you in person. With online dating, some men just use it for an ego boost and only make a play when it looks like a sure and easy thing. Most men I've heard from or seen are typically intimidated by online dating because they're trying so hard to be something they are not.
Author Meg717 Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 There could be 10 billion reasons. One time I got a number off a girl at a bartender who I really really liked and never called her because I thought she would reject me There's no point in worrying about it. Just move on to the next guy. If you want, contact him one more time in a few days and if he doesn't respond, then definitely move on Hmmm interesting...thanks for the response!!
Author Meg717 Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 He probably just wanted to see If he could get a response from you since he felt you might have been out of his league or at least someone he may not have expected a response to...he played stupid on that tatts, kind of a pull for compliments and validation. Now that he knows you are interested and he can talk to a girl like you, then he's satisfied with that and probably isn't either interested or confident enough to meet you in person. With online dating, some men just use it for an ego boost and only make a play when it looks like a sure and easy thing. Most men I've heard from or seen are typically intimidated by online dating because they're trying so hard to be something they are not. Wow online dating is a tough world. I feel that it's one of the only ways I have to meet men though. I don't want to meet guys in a bar and my friends don't really have any single friends and I live in a rural area so there's not much going on...I guess it's just a matter of weeding through and trying to find the right guy.
Author Meg717 Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 The best is that I thought he was out of MY league. I was surprised he was talking to me and told my friend I was afraid to meet him in person, but obv I would have!
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