TDiddy98 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hey all, I think I need some outside opinions to help me put this situation in perspective. Basically I met a girl on OLD, we clicked and went on a date about a week after we first started talking. The date went GREAT; we both had a great time, conversation was great and we were both making each other laugh, she was very receptive to touch (we would hi-five and both hold on to each others hand, I playfully put my arm around her shoulders a couple of times and both times she leaned into me), and the night even ended with kissing (somewhere between a "good night" kiss and making out). I told her I wanted to see her again, and her response was "definitely!". She went on vacation 2 days later for a little over a week, and was moving to a new place as soon as she came back from vacation (both things I was aware of before we went out). So, I couldn't see her the first week after our date because she was gone, then I couldn't see her the 2nd week after our date because she was moving and catching up on work from her vacation. The 3rd week she was sick and also had per-existing things going on, and then the 4th week (last week) she had a pretty major crisis come up that's swallowing all of her free time. Throughout this whole thing she has been very apologetic, and I have been very understanding and positive, not giving any hint of frustration or anything. Mid last week we left it with her saying she will get in touch with me when things calm down. Now, odds are that her busyness the past few weeks is perfectly legit; but of course there is that part of me that keeps saying to myself "Is she blowing me off? Does she really not want to see me again but just can't tell me?". That part of me is driving me crazy, so I would love to hear what some people who are not involved in the situation think about it. A few other possibly important facts: - She mentioned early on that she's not into "multi-dating", so I'm not TOO concerned that she's seeing someone else - To go with the above, she deleted her OLD profile after I asked her out, before we went on our date (and as far as I can tell she hasn't created a new one) - She also mentioned early on that she does get busy a lot - She mentioned that she doesn't push for much in relationships (I took this to mean she's somewhat passive in the relationship department) - Her texts haven't had the same..."personality" to them since she got back from vacation as they did before hand (possibly/probably due to the busyness/stress) Anyway, I hope I'm handling this right. I'm trying to be patient, optimistic and supportive, but it's so hard when all I want to do is see her again! Should I be doing anything different other than leaving the ball in her court for now? I don't want her to think that I've lost interest, and have her decide to give up because she doesn't push in relationships.
phineas Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Dude, She isn't into you. Think about it. Have you ever been so busy that you couldn't even spare 30 - 40 mins for even lunch with someone you liked? Now if you've been texting her or talking to her a lot in between, stop. Are you even trying to date other women from the website?
Author TDiddy98 Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 To be honest, yes, I have been that busy before. A quick get together isn't really an option since we live and work on complete opposite ends of a rather large city. I have not been texting her a lot, just the occasional funny text mixed in with trying to coordinate our schedules. And yes, I have definitely been looking at other options, there is just something about this one that makes me not want to quit just yet. I don't know, you may be right, I just have a really hard time buying that she's not into me when she was SO into me on our date. She admitted being very attracted to me, I'm successful, have my life in order, can make her laugh, and we share similar views on a lot of important subjects. With all that, how would she suddenly NOT be into me?
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