Contacted by ex, y?

[markg]

Hi All, first thank you for taking the time to read this and all replies would be appreciated.

 

I was with my Fiancee for 8 years and have 2 children together and 4 weeks ago out of the blue she wants to split up and I have to be honest I begged to stay but she was adament we were over so I had no choice but to leave but we arranged contact with my children and this was amicable until I found out that she had another man around my children 4 days after I had left and I told her no more around my kids and since then she has stopped me seeing the kids and having to go through the legal route now(expensive but worth it), then after 2 weeks of NC out of the blue she emails me to say "hope you are happy now" this statement was so confusing because to me I never asked or caused this break up and emails were going back and forth and she asked me 3 times if I am seeing anyone else and you are going to the gym for your new girl needless to say I am not seeing anyone at all but I am so confused by her actions and statements I don't know what to do with my feelings and she signed off the last email on Saturday as I was only asking for these things end of and I haven't replied but thinking should I or should I not?

 

I am going through hell not being able to see my kids and then she pulls my emotions back into touch again with her so please people help me out here what should I do because despite everything I love her.

 

Thanks to those who reply.

Edited July 2, 2012 by markg

[amaysngrace]

It's simple really...she has a wounded ego because you arent fighting to win her back.

 

The ball is in your court so ask yourself...what do YOU want??

[EgoJoe]

Continue the legal activity, begin ignoring her. Move on. It's Ego games.

[Samilia]

Hi All, first thank you for taking the time to read this and all replies would be appreciated.

 

I was with my Fiancee for 8 years and have 2 children together and 4 weeks ago out of the blue she wants to split up and I have to be honest I begged to stay but she was adament we were over so I had no choice but to leave but we arranged contact with my children and this was amicable until I found out that she had another man around my children 4 days after I had left and I told her no more around my kids and since then she has stopped me seeing the kids and having to go through the legal route now(expensive but worth it), then after 2 weeks of NC out of the blue she emails me to say "hope you are happy now" this statement was so confusing because to me I never asked or caused this break up and emails were going back and forth and she asked me 3 times if I am seeing anyone else and you are going to the gym for your new girl needless to say I am not seeing anyone at all but I am so confused by her actions and statements I don't know what to do with my feelings and she signed off the last email on Saturday as I was only asking for these things end of and I haven't replied but thinking should I or should I not?

 

I am going through hell not being able to see my kids and then she pulls my emotions back into touch again with her so please people help me out here what should I do because despite everything I love her.

 

Thanks to those who reply.

 

I would say, be careful that she's not trying to soften you up now that you are on a legal route for the kids.

 

Or she's seeing that you're doing just fine without her, and that's pissing her off.

 

Anyway, I wouldn't bother with her messages, if she wants to be serious about being with you, then she should say so, and only if YOU choose so, after all she cheated on you and dumped you. Maybe her new Casanova isn't prince charming after all, and she's regretting her decision, who knows..

 

Anyway, it's always better for the kids to have two loving parents under the same roof, so I can see why you'd choose to give it another try, *if* that's what she has in mind.

 

I'd still be careful.