confusedgirl Posted July 5, 2004 Posted July 5, 2004 heehee funny topic name...im in a loving relationship,or at least it has been,its coming up to our 1st anniversary of being together and things seem dull,boring,irritatable and wierd,hes not being as romantic as usual,but this is because we havent been doing anything together because we both cant drive!! and we both dont have a clue what to do with ourselves! i'm kind of getting worried too because whilst we are apart i feel so in love with him,i look at his picture and i melt and i cant get him off my mind all day,but when he comes over,i give off the wrong impression,something like i didnt smile all that much when i answered the door and he will ask me whats wrong and i dont look very pleased to see him,then i get irritated with him because hes constantly asking whats up! so i go quiet on him feeling hes changed and dont love me as much and hes asking whats wrong im telling him i get depressed easily n iv not been myself,he tells me i need to see my mates or have some kidn of hobbie going on in my life,which is true but that sort of hurt me cos it never seemed to matter at the start,then he admits hes not been himself,and hes been bored,he doesnt want the sex to get boring and this ans that,i felt relived knowing this,but im still worried about how i feel and the atmosphere there is when we are together. it used to be very good we were very romantic,i dont want things to fizz out,i love him so much,hes a rarity cos hes such a romantic and so right for me,i feel as if im nothign without him,i just want to know what to do how to sort things out,i want to stop the way things are feeling between us,seeing as its almost been a year,its not surprising im desperate for help in this matter,does anybody know what im to do to bring back the love and fun? we dont seem to of had much for a while please help!
peter34 Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 For an entirely different reason, my lover and I, in our 60's, enjoyed an erotic messy food lunch and afternoon. See post under "friends and lovers". Most successful ingredient to fulfillment was the use of a special thickener that made any liquid, hot or cold, any consistancy wanted. If what you thickened was a food product you would ingest, you may eat your meal from any plate you like. From a slick senuous apple juice to a chocolate pudding shaped in any suggestive shape you prefer, quite hard and well formed, to loose.... up to you. Worked for us! Bon Appetit, ya'll.
Fetish 2 Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 A relationship needs work. The best piece of advice i received from my older sister- this is that you both need to work at the relationship. It is not one-sided. For example.. you say that you don't get to meet up that much... but when you do.. you seem uninterested to him. To me, the obvious thing i would do is make the effort to smile, be happy and fun. etc. No boyfriend wants a girlfriend who is continuously whining , boring and dull. Sure enough, express your emotion if you're sad etc. But if there's nothing wrong- act that way. The same applies for him. Trust me- if you are in good spirits, he will be. There will be more fun, hapiness, laughter and most of all love in the relationship. This should get you both off to a good start for the rest of the day- as you avoid the bad start where you argue/debate over what is or isn't wrong. You have to think about what's undesireable in the relationship, find a way to fix it, and do it. Put some effort in- a good relationship won't be served to you on a platter. Put the effort in and reap the rewards.
CurlyIam Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 Where do you usually meet? I bet it's your place or his! Go outside, people! PArks, restaurants, cinemas! You don't need a car to do things. I know the feeling you're talking about: about getting bored! I would do anything about it! So put some fun, some spontaniaty, some sparks in your relationship. Wheather it's sex, it's talks, it's things you do together! Rediscover yourselves! Have fun, Curly P.S. I was so sure this post was about sex - because of the title !
sami Posted July 7, 2004 Posted July 7, 2004 I don't want to be judgmental but it sounds like you need to work on yourself. You may have issues of security and self-confidance. You may have hidden unseen yet felt fears of intimacy and physical closeness. Go and dig deep into yourself. Review your personal history and childhood. What type of a family life you had, and what about your first romantic experience (s). You might have been badly hurt somehow by someone you loved and trusted and that one was not up to your love and trust. There is something really wrong here between your reaction. In his absence you w'll be waiting and anticipating but you react differently when he is around. There is a problem here you need to find out and deal with. Your system is giving two different conflicting messages. One part of you desires and accepts him while the other part fears and rejsects.
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