Author 96nole Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 (edited) So, I googled this as I truly believe my XH has at least some narcissistic personality traits and lo and behold, I may have found out why it was so easy for him to move on from a 22 year marriage. "If you are separating from a narcissist, do not harbor thoughts of revenge. If you try to revenge, they will only turn againstyou and show no mercy. You end up being in a battle with a narcissist and that is not the place where you want to be. If a narcissist thinks you no longer love him or her, you will immediately become an insignificant character. At that point they simply move on to find another prey." If I tried all day long, I could not find a passage that would better describe my situation. The minute he thought he had no chance to win me back, he said out loud, "OK, then I know what to do" and he got online, found an old friend (idk, could be an old gf as that is his usual choice) and started talking and went to see her almost immediately. There he is, to this day. I mean, I know people have to move on, but lightening moves slower...lol 96nole.....you too ^^^^^ on to a cruise with her new...(gulp and shudder)...love! I think I will read up on this a little more...Good grief! That's the article! It explains a lot. Even her actions to disrespect my dead grandparents. She was even in the room with them when each of them died. And just last month she disrespected them to try and hurt me. As far as the cruise goes, every single person that has been told about it has been shocked or disgusted by it. But that website explains it pretty well. Since it's all about 'her' in her mind, it doesn't matter to her if it hurts someone else. Her comment last year "I only want what's best for me" pretty much says it all as far as she is concerned. Edited July 8, 2012 by 96nole
2sure Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 You're right, it didn't need to be that way. He should have just divorced you. But he chose to betray you for a second time. There are consequences to our actions. His are that he had lost a lot more than he thought and had to change his lifestyle. If you feel you got more that you should have, then give some back if you can." Mwhahahaha! Yes, of course I could. But trust me, I'll never feel that bad about it. Ever!
Author 96nole Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 You're right, it didn't need to be that way. He should have just divorced you. But he chose to betray you for a second time. There are consequences to our actions. His are that he had lost a lot more than he thought and had to change his lifestyle. If you feel you got more that you should have, then give some back if you can." Mwhahahaha! Yes, of course I could. But trust me, I'll never feel that bad about it. Ever! :lmao::lmao::lmao: 1
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