Mme. Chaucer Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I have heard every excuse imaginable for why guys do not want relationships. You fill in the blank to say (with you), because there is no such thing as a person who does not want a relationship. We all fight feelings of loneliness and sadness, but no one wants to be truly alone unless you have dedicated yourself to living a cloistered life. I assure you that this is NOT true. There IS a such thing as a person who does not want a relationship. I have been that person. Not cloistered, either. My sister IS and has been for years such a person. She is never going to change. Not having a husband / wife type of person in your life does not relegate you to being "truly alone." I think you underestimate the powerful roles other kinds of relationships can play in our lives. And having this prized cure for solitude will NOT necessarily assuage those feelings of loneliness and sadness, as many people with failed marriages behind them can tell you. Being lonely in a relationship is about the loneliest thing imaginable. Life is a journey, and there are plenty of parts of that journey which, for plenty of us, are best NOT traveled as part of a pair. The "perfect" person could show up, but if the timing is not right, the chances for success are pretty dim. Disclaimer: True, many people will use "I'm not ready for a relationship" as a way to let somebody down easy-like. But as RedRobin posted upthread, who really cares? If it's not happening, it's not happening. Move on. If YOU want to be in a relationship and you think you are ready to bring your best, find someone likeminded who likes you as much as you like them.
Jessie32 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Give me the reasons you're "sure" that might be the problem. Don't give me the reasons you're not sure of. I think in a situation like this He's either : -Not interested. -Just got out of a relationship. -Loves someone else. Any other opinions? do the reasons matter? when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship thats all you need to know. This isn't rocket science.
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