without Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Give me the reasons you're "sure" that might be the problem. Don't give me the reasons you're not sure of. I think in a situation like this He's either : -Not interested. -Just got out of a relationship. -Loves someone else. Any other opinions?
DjinnAgain Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I think in a situation like this He's either : -Not interested. Only one I have seen.
Author without Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 Doesn't like relationships/bad experiences. Really? you're sure of this reason? can somebody be like this?
Arabella Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 When a man meets a woman and truly likes her and falls in love with her, he WILL want a relationship... if nothing else, because the thought of losing her to another man will haunt him. My experience is that when a man wants to be involved with a woman but does not want a relationship, he simply does not like her well enough to see a future with her. He may want to date her casually or have sex, but he does not consider her girlfriend material. -A 5
Pierre Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Give me the reasons you're "sure" that might be the problem. Don't give me the reasons you're not sure of. I think in a situation like this He's either : -Not interested. -Just got out of a relationship. -Loves someone else. Any other opinions? You may want to add: Does not want to be tied down Wants freedom to travel anywhere Seeking a career Needs to save money, cannot afford a GF Vanity: Being single is seen as a more desirable status Needs time to go to the gym and work out Wants to only concentrate on himself. 5
Author without Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 You may want to add: Does not want to be tied down Wants freedom to travel anywhere Seeking a career Needs to save money, cannot afford a GF Vanity: Being single is seen as a more desirable status Needs time to go to the gym and work out Wants to only concentrate on himself. Are this still correct if they still were in touch afterwards and he gets to know her but still doesn't want to date? (not dating anyone else either.)
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Give me the reasons you're "sure" that might be the problem. Don't give me the reasons you're not sure of. I think in a situation like this He's either : -Not interested. -Just got out of a relationship. -Loves someone else. Any other opinions? He's trying to pretend he isn't having dating difficulties especially if he is trying not to seem weak in front of a woman being women aren't kind about weakness in a man or he is sleeping around so he doesn't need a relationship to get some and doesn't want the party to end. The latter is part of the reason why women who aren't in relationships don't want to be in relationships. They can get a man's attention easily any time they want and if they settle down then they are depriving themselves of the multitude of men they could be getting flirted up by.
Author without Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 All that I think is "not liking you" is the most probable and if you're considering any other reason, you're fooling yourself *sigh*. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 All that I think is "not liking you" is the most probable and if you're considering any other reason, you're fooling yourself *sigh*. Thats all there is, he just doesnt want a relationship with you. But there are a small number of guys that sleep with alot of women, but decided he doesnt like relationships because he doesnt like their personalities. If he keeps getting the same type of woman he doesnt really like, he might not know what he's doing wrong and gives up on relationships. He might consider a woman that is different from his norm a unicorn, and thats what hes really going for.
Andy_K Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Every guy I've ever known who said he was staying single because he wanted to focus on his career, or he wanted time to himself, or to save money, or was getting over a breakup, or any other of a multitude of reasons, has changed his mind instantly when he met a girl he really liked. There is just one real reason. He's Just Not That Into You. 6
sea shells Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 (edited) Even though its supposed to be a straighforward concept, I have difficulty with that phrase too. Heres two reads that gives some interesting and good insight: Where Is This Relationship Going? | Bill Cammack http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/guy-wont-call-you-his-girlfriend/ Edited July 2, 2012 by sea shells
phineas Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Every guy I've ever known who said he was staying single because he wanted to focus on his career, or he wanted time to himself, or to save money, or was getting over a breakup, or any other of a multitude of reasons, has changed his mind instantly when he met a girl he really liked. There is just one real reason. He's Just Not That Into You. Pretty much this. However if I start a project on I NEED to finish i just ignore women entirely because my free time is sparse enough as it is & regular dating = nothing getting done. Now, If jessica (alba or Biel) needed an escort, well...who the hell needs boards on their deck?
Titanwolf Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Really? you're sure of this reason? can somebody be like this? Yeah of course. Especially if they surround themselves with people who constantly bombard them with examples of bad relationships, it can take it's toll in many ways. Some don't think it's worth the heartache/mindfu**. My cousin was like this. He saw relationships crumble around him constantly, eventually he gave up on the idea and the women who liked him often asked me what was wrong with him.
Author without Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 Yeah of course. Especially if they surround themselves with people who constantly bombard them with examples of bad relationships, it can take it's toll in many ways. Some don't think it's worth the heartache/mindfu**. My cousin was like this. He saw relationships crumble around him constantly, eventually he gave up on the idea and the women who liked him often asked me what was wrong with him. Sadly i see that everyone else thinks differently.
Author without Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 So basically when he says no, he doesn't like you. How sad is that?
El Brujo Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 You may want to add: Does not want to be tied down Wants freedom to travel anywhere Seeking a career Needs to save money, cannot afford a GF Vanity: Being single is seen as a more desirable status Needs time to go to the gym and work out Wants to only concentrate on himself. I want to add: Does not want some train-wreck of a woman having the hots for him (don't laugh, it happened to me four times).
Author without Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 I want to add: Does not want some train-wreck of a woman having the hots for him (don't laugh, it happened to me four times). What do you mean? would you explain more?
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Who cares why they don't want a relationship? If you do, and he doesn't, move on. Doesn't even take that long to figure out. Could be a bazillion different reasons that may or may not have anything to do with you. No sense worrying about it. Women obsess about this way too much. Send him packing and find someone who does want a relationship. No big deal. 2
Author without Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 Who cares why they don't want a relationship? If you do, and he doesn't, move on. Doesn't even take that long to figure out. Could be a bazillion different reasons that may or may not have anything to do with you. No sense worrying about it. Women obsess about this way too much. Send him packing and find someone who does want a relationship. No big deal. Lol, I like your attitude. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Who cares why they don't want a relationship? If you do, and he doesn't, move on. Doesn't even take that long to figure out. Could be a bazillion different reasons that may or may not have anything to do with you. No sense worrying about it. Women obsess about this way too much. Send him packing and find someone who does want a relationship. No big deal. Women without options obsess about this too much. So do men without options.
Author without Posted July 3, 2012 Author Posted July 3, 2012 Women without options obsess about this too much. So do men without options. That may have some truth in it, I don't see many potential dates around myself. Cuz I don't go out much except for my studies and there aren't much men there. But I met him online and there are many other online men I can date. But I just don't like online dating. That thing is over I just wanted to ask this question out of curiosity.
RedRobin Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I don't have any options... I'm not obsessing. I consider it a waste of time. Most people don't know what they want themselves... Don't see alot of point in trying to be a mind reader. Seems better to focus on what you want instead... 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 There is just one real reason. He's Just Not That Into You. I'm positive this is not true. Some people are not in a place to be in a relationship for any number of reasons and actually REALIZE this to be the case. That is a good thing. Much better than being so "into you" that they lose touch with the fact that they are not "relationship material" themselves at this point in their lives, and launch into a doomed relationship. 1
mortensorchid Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I have heard every excuse imaginable for why guys do not want relationships. You fill in the blank to say (with you), because there is no such thing as a person who does not want a relationship. We all fight feelings of loneliness and sadness, but no one wants to be truly alone unless you have dedicated yourself to living a cloistered life. I've had guys tell me everything - they've been hurt, they are too busy, they are afraid, they are somehow spiritually damaged (that was a rare one - the guy who actually told me that God wanted us to be friends, needless to say I told him where to go), etc. ALL of them are married today, or were married once. One came back and told me later on that he felt so guilty and wanted us to be friends, I told him to go back to his wife and let her know of this and I'm sure she will be understanding.
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