johnwolfra Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I go to this restaurant regularly and ran into a waitress that had waited on me a few times a few months ago. She had gone home for the summer but was visiting and was eating dinner with her friend. On the way to my table I stopped and said hello (she "knows" me as a regular). We talked about what we were doing for the summer, what degrees we were getting, etc. Her friend interjected when my major came up and said she had classes in the same building as me. I asked the waitress to remind me of her name again and introduced myself to her friend before sitting down at my table to eat. Nothing extraordinary by any means but since the waitress knows me a little, both of them were pretty friendly (laughing, light joking, etc.) and they are pretty attractive, I think it couldn't hurt to try and see if I can talk to them on Facebook some and maybe get to know them a little more. The waitress and I have two mutual friends (a cook I know and his waitress girlfriend) so I thought that would give me enough of a reason to add her. Turns out her friend is a friend of one of the girls I work with, so I thought that might give me a reason to add her as well. If I didn't have any mutual friends with them I think I'd just have to forget it since that would almost certainly be creepy, but in this case I think it might be ok. So, I was thinking about waiting a little less than a week to add the waitress, and if she accepts it, wait a couple more days to add her friend (the waitress and my coworker will be mutual friends at this point). I am probably over-thinking it, but I feel like if I do it too soon I might freak them out, and if I wait too long it will be awkward because they likely won't remember me (which would also end up being sort of creepy). Opinions? Thanks.
YellowShark Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My goodness Facebook is soooo retarded. Why is it even on your radar? Facebook in not a yardstick to measure a persons interest or worth. And if you think it is you are soooo not ready to be in any relationship.
Art_Critic Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I am probably over-thinking it, Yeah.. just add them both... and use that opportunity to take the conversation further..
YellowShark Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Yeah.. just add them both... and use that opportunity to take the conversation further.. Really? That's so childish. How about approaching her in person - like a MAN! - and asking out for a coffee sometime.
YellowShark Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I am sorry guys but you are illustrating how stupid Facebook has made people. This guy hardly knows these two girls. So before he gets all weird and stalker-like on Stupidbook perhaps it would be best to actually be her friend and talk to her IN PERSON before he starts stalking them on Stupidbook. I know it sounds crazy, and you will probably flame me for it, but I am not wrong at all.
Art_Critic Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Really? That's so childish. How about approaching her in person - like a MAN! - and asking out for a coffee sometime. I was answering the OP's concerns, not my own. Like a MAN...hahaha.. Yeah.. FB can be retarded but it doesn't mean that he can't use it to finish the conversation.. If he had their phone number or would see them face to face then the FB thing might seem a little 2012.. but he doesn't and it seems he can't walk up to them so FB seems okay..
YellowShark Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 If he had their phone number or would see them face to face then the FB thing might seem a little 2012.. but he doesn't and it seems he can't walk up to them so FB seems okay.. I do not want to turn this into a thread about Stupidbook. So this is my last comment. But prior to 2005 mankind did pretty well for many centuries with the opposite sex without Stupidbook. If the OP wants to hook up with this girl then do it in person. Like a man. Not on Stupidbook like a love-sick dweeb.
Author johnwolfra Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 I personally don't like Facebook either, but that is often the best way to reach some people. The last two girls I had anything to do with I had talked to them on Facebook for a couple months and a while after they broke up with their boyfriends they decided they liked me and ended up in a couple relationships. I'm only going to run into this waitress once a week at best, and it will be another 2 months before that even can happen, and she is graduating in December. Her friend I might run into on campus, but it isn't likely. SO basically, I'm either going to attempt to talk to them this way or not at all. If I ran into them on a semi-regular basis I would do it in person, and I *have* done it in person with plenty of others.
truth_seeker Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I am sorry guys but you are illustrating how stupid Facebook has made people. This guy hardly knows these two girls. So before he gets all weird and stalker-like on Stupidbook perhaps it would be best to actually be her friend and talk to her IN PERSON before he starts stalking them on Stupidbook. I know it sounds crazy, and you will probably flame me for it, but I am not wrong at all. You're right. He should try to meet her in person first and ask her out. Only use Facebook as a last resort. I made this error so I know what I'm talking about.
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