BeyondtheClouds Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My sister and I are debating as to how one should expect their date to meet the transportation requirements of a date? Should men do all the driving, no matter who lives where? In an urban area where most people don't own a car, should a guy pay for the transportation, buses, taxis? I am sure this is as prickly as "who pays for the date?" Let's talk about it.
runner Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 how about meeting at a pre-arranged destination, and then perhaps going for a stroll on foot somewhere in between ? 2
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 The woman's chaperone should drive her to her date and back.
FitChick Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I don't drink so I don't mind being the designated driver if needed. Otherwise, I prefer the man do the driving because it gives me a chance to relax and enjoy the scenery.
Vintage79 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My sister and I are debating as to how one should expect their date to meet the transportation requirements of a date? Should men do all the driving, no matter who lives where? In an urban area where most people don't own a car, should a guy pay for the transportation, buses, taxis? I am sure this is as prickly as "who pays for the date?" Let's talk about it. If we live far apart - in particular for the first few dates - I fully expect the woman to be able to get herself to the date location, without any help from me. I'm certainly not going to pay for her cab fair - she chose to live where/how she does, so she should be able to deal with it. If she can't get to the date location, she should pick/help pick a location that she can get to [i have no problem picking a location that is convenient for her]. At a minimum, she should chose a date location that requires the guy to essentially drive by her house, so that the guy can get her essentially en route. Asking for cab fair/transportation money isn't much different than asking the guy for money so you can go buy a new outfit to wear for him, or asking him to pay you for the deodorant that you used so you don't stink. If a woman asked me for money for transportation costs - she'd never see me again - and I wouldn't give her the money. I will, however, frequently pick up the tab for first dates - for the things that we do together (not the other stuff), but I usually make these dates cheap...as it helps weed out the gold diggers and helps to ensure that they actually want to see me as opposed to my wallet. After the first 1-3 dates, I fully expect the woman to contribute a fair amount - ideally equal, or near equal...I don't like a power imbalance in the relationship - I don't think that women should be immediately placed in a submissive/lesser role...this is obviously different than what some guys prefer.
lil hoodlum Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Well I'm the man and if I want to date a woman I allways drive. It bugs me to see dudes just riding around letting there girlfriends/ dates driving all of the time. I also pay for all of the dates becuase I am wanting to date a woman. Of the last three girlfriends, all LTR's, I have paid 90% of the time. And no, I do not expect anything in return. It is simply me enjoying spending and sharing some time with someone specical. I wish some more of the younger guys would get a backbone and learn how to treat a lady as a lady.
phineas Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I have yet to date a woman that lived closer than 20 mins to me. Plus most women don't want a stranger picking them up at their house. Also, since I live in a semi-rural area if she doesn't have a car and doesn't live close by then i'll probably pass. On the occasion the woman has a history of flaking I make her come pick me up.
ScienceGal Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 For the first few dates I would insist on meeting the guy somewhere. After that, picking me up is a sweet gesture if we live close, but not necessary.
one goal Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Guy should. That way he has control of the date and she can't backout or flake.
MuscleCarFan Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I think a guy should drive unless doesn't own a car or have a license. Maybe split on gas if it is a long trip?
LittlePrince Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Guy should. That way he has control of the date and she can't backout or flake. She could still do that if you drive.
Algermas Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Well I'm the man and if I want to date a woman I allways drive. It bugs me to see dudes just riding around letting there girlfriends/ dates driving all of the time. I also pay for all of the dates becuase I am wanting to date a woman. Of the last three girlfriends, all LTR's, I have paid 90% of the time. And no, I do not expect anything in return. It is simply me enjoying spending and sharing some time with someone specical. I wish some more of the younger guys would get a backbone and learn how to treat a lady as a lady. That fine and dandy but women insisted they were 100% equal, strong and independent. I fully agree. I'll be a gentleman once I meet a girl my age who is a proper lady.
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