natty30 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My boyfriend and i have been together a little over 4years. We started having a LDR towards the end of 2010. We used to talk often on phone, skype, chat & email almost everyday. Last june i went to see him in his country for a week, but it wasn't as great as i expected. I spent most of the time in my hotel room. He didn't have a proper job then, but he would say he's at work or running errands during the day so would see me at night. He actually spent like 2 night with me at the hotel and 1 full day in hotel with me. i didn't see him at all for 1 day and he took me around town for a few hours the day before i left. Since then, i haven't seen him physically. The thing is we broke up in april 2012 for 2months then got back together. When he wanted me back, he would call me, email or try to chat with me. But since we got back together, he tried to call once and at first he would reply to my emails and IM messages. Now, he doesn't respond to my emails, never calls and seems distant. The only time we talked was when i call. Even before the breakup i would do all the calling and i told him to make an effort. Basically i was the one holding down the whole relationship. But it seems like he still doesn't get how important communication is to me.When i asked him to come see me, he was like "i just started a new job and have no holiday". I understand that, but i want more. What should i do? Any advice?
TMichaels Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 What should i do? Any advice? Get a new boyfriend. Best, TMichaels 2
aisle_seat Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I agree with the other poster; this is a terrible situation and you've been dating for 4 years and only seen each other once?? And he didn't spend all his time with you at that? Get out now - don't call him, don't text him, don't email him. But do forget him - he is unworthy of your affection and efforts.
ladyabstrused Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Sounds familiar. Wait, wasn't it me who only met my ex once in our 4.5 year long LDR? Honestly, after I broke up with my ex have I realized that it was not really a relationship if we only met once in such a long time. Like what some of the posters here told me, it was mostly a fantasy. For a relationship to be real, even for an LDR, you've got to have more than once in 4 years of physical contact. What you should do is think twice about your relationship and if there is no other way in having more physicality with each other, I suggest you need to find someone who would make the time to meet you. The fact that he's not responding well to you, should be enough to tell you that it's not going to work out.
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