Ratchet Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 (edited) We've been together for 3 months & I've been concerned for about 2 of them now & everytime i bring it up she denys that she's pregnant, many times, even though she shows all the symptoms. On top of the pregnancy pamphlets i found in her drawers, her week of morning sickness & high tempature I recently lifted up her mattress & found a letter that her ex left her, it pretty much said 'good luck with the baby, i'm outta here', she ended up saying it's from a couple years back in which she had a miscarriage. It's making me unable to trust her at all & causes me to treat her like crap which normally ends in her bursting into tears thinking i'm only using her for sex & am going to leave her. Would it be normal for a girl in her situation to do this? I don't understand how she could continue to lie about it when she would be 3+ months pregnant, her stomach will be completely popped out soon, how on earth could she plan on admitting it to me after all the lies? What should i do? (other than the obvious option of leaving asap) Im 19, she's 17. Cheers Edited July 2, 2012 by Ratchet
TaraMaiden Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Leave. Once she's had the baby she'll chase you up for it, and then get a paternity test done. If it's not yours, she will have to pay for it. If she's not pregnant, or she has an abortion, frankly (either way) you're dodging a bullet. LEAVE now. Seriously - ask your mom and dad what they feel you should do.... Guess what they'd say...?
Million.to.1 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 buy a home pregnancy test for $10 and ask her to do it. all she has to do is wee on a stick. explain you have justified suspicions and you want it straightened out. if she doesn't do it, you can just trust that she is probably pregnant. if she is more than 12weeks pregnant, she can not have an abortion.
TaraMaiden Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Incorrect. In the USA it's 26 weeks. In the UK, it's 24 weeks. France & Germany, it's 12, Italy it's 13.
Million.to.1 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 okay... sure... didn't know that. But 2nd trimester abortions are a completely different procedure. Hell of alot more involved than a simple curettage. 12 weeks is the limit where I live but up to 18 weeks under special circumstances. Personally, i think 26 weeks is way way way too long.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Leave. Once she's had the baby she'll chase you up for it, and then get a paternity test done. If it's not yours, she will have to pay for it. If she's not pregnant, or she has an abortion, frankly (either way) you're dodging a bullet. LEAVE now. Seriously - ask your mom and dad what they feel you should do.... Guess what they'd say...? You can still end up paying for the child even if it isn't genetically yours if you are on the birth certificate as the father.
TaraMaiden Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 not so. That's what courts are for. If you can prove genetically you're not the father you don't have to be responsible for the child. The only time you are, is if you legally adopt.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 not so. That's what courts are for. If you can prove genetically you're not the father you don't have to be responsible for the child. The only time you are, is if you legally adopt. It doesn't work that way everywhere. Some places the birth certificate trumps post-genetic testing because family court is only interested in what is best for the child. You are in Britain. You wouldn't understand. The law isn't the same everywhere.
TaraMaiden Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I watch Judge Judy, and she stated that nowhere in America does a man have to be held legally responsible for a child that isn't his. He can apply through the family courts to have his name taken off the birth certificate. I'm just quoting her and with her involvement, I thought she'd know.... "Madam, put on your listening ears, you're not receiving!"
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I watch Judge Judy, and she stated that nowhere in America does a man have to be held legally responsible for a child that isn't his. He can apply through the family courts to have his name taken off the birth certificate. I'm just quoting her and with her involvement, I thought she'd know.... "Madam, put on your listening ears, you're not receiving!" Are you serious? Are we really going to use Judge Judy, a horrible tv judge, as a source?
TaraMaiden Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Why not? She may be on tv, but she has some background... but passed the New York Bar examination in 1965, and became a prosecutor in the family court system. In 1982 Mayor Ed Koch appointed her a judge, first in criminal court, then later as Manhattan's supervising family court judge in 1986. Just because she's on tv she's a crock? Judith Sheindlin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia please. She may not be universally popular, but it doesn't make her wrong....
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Why not? She may be on tv, but she has some background... but passed the New York Bar examination in 1965, and became a prosecutor in the family court system. In 1982 Mayor Ed Koch appointed her a judge, first in criminal court, then later as Manhattan's supervising family court judge in 1986. Just because she's on tv she's a crock? Judith Sheindlin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia please. She may not be universally popular, but it doesn't make her wrong.... Her rulings are highly suspect and I doubt they survive attempts at being over turned.
amaysngrace Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Her rulings are highly suspect and I doubt they survive attempts at being over turned. I agree. I tried to sue GE on her show and submitted my case not once but twice and have yet to get a reply. She's suspect.
luvinthesun Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 She cant just put u on the birth certificate...or tom cruise, Jesus Christ and channing Tatum would be dads to thousands of kids. U have to sign paternity. My child is two and has no.legal father. No support nothing from ..."dad."
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