GLDheart Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 We are all different, when I was in my 20's I was a dedicated pussy hound, until my Ex Fiance came along. She was that special someone that comes along once or twice in a life time. The problem was I was living in this beautiful orchard filled with lots of fresh ripe fruit, and she wanted me to pluck from just her tree. That did not compute in my brain. While I was able to cut way back on my partners, every once in awhile there would be the perfect peach that I just had to try. She never caught me and we broke up for other reasons. I have the strangest craving for fruit..... 1
threebyfate Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Leigh, sounds like you're using a lot of justifications for someone selfish or a lack of willpower and poor boundaries. In my opinion, polyamorous or swinger relationships are individuals who use multiple partners to compensate for their fear of loss or abandonment. In staggering their emotions over multiples, if one leaves, the others take over or another is found. This is less about confidence in self and more about insecurities.
sad puppy Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I say absolutely not, people cannot cheat on someone they love, not someone they truly love passionately. One may love someone as a sister or friend or roommate but real love would never allow someone to cheat. Cheaters are cowards, plain and simple. They may meet someone and work to get out of the marriage in an expedient fashion, that I understand. But carrying on in an affair for a long time or multiple affairs - cheater has a serious problem and loves no one but themselves.
Author Leigh 87 Posted July 9, 2012 Author Posted July 9, 2012 I do not think having more than one sexual partner is usually what happens in the closest, most loving relationship. Some men , though, can be very much in love, and still have a really strong fantasy about threesomes... Seeing their girlfriend with another hot girl... Every in my boyfriends friendship group say they would definately want to see their partners with a hot lesbian. Then of course, there are the men who are mandly men, love women and all, yet once they are into a girl, they have no place to accommodate a fantasy, even two hot girls together. I think people are simply cut froma different cloth; my boyfriend is obviously able to have me and another hot girl go at it, and even have sex with her. Is not, however, into pleasing them or into their pleasure, the way he is with a girl he is into.... I know for a fact my boyfriend loves me, and we share a very deap relationship.. You know, we always feel " way closer" and " happier" than thsoe couples around us. We just feel our love is so strong that others cannot compete haha...... For that reason, we both feel that anymore experimenting with other sexual partners, i will take away and minimize what we have. He says he wants to feel as close as possible to me, and that threesomes were a fantasy that was fu ti live out for the sake of it, of saying to his mates " wow, my girlfriend is the best, we have a loving relationship, and I got to try my ultimate fantasy" .........I do not think open relationships or poly sh*t works, on a passionate, deap level. Sorry, but I have soo many hobbies, and interests to explore and keep me interested in life - as well as a loviog partner and my career, social life, and need to travel and explore other countries some day - I feel like you ca have ENOUGH joy in life, without having two people to love... I just cannot fathom loving or liking two people at once.... I think the most passionate love, stems from monogomy. Like wise: open relationships, or cheating, I find it hard to believe it to be true of people in a very passionate relationship.
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