WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Will you stop participation in LS at some point? What do you feel will prompt this? So, when will you leave? Thanks.
LogicallyIllogical Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I lurked on these forums for awhile after my breakup. It's been a few months since then, and now I only come here once a week, if that. Although they helped, I found that spending too much time reading these forums was only keeping me tied to my pain. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I am loyal to LS and will stay here for all eternity 1
mario_C Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hard to say. I've only been here a few weeks or so and with a couple exceptions, been deluged by trolls and jerks. Check my Likes for those who are not But I'm desperate, so for the same reason I update my OKCupid account, I have nothing to lose by staying. But I'm hoping some encouragement is coming - won't hold my breath... 1
Mr Scorpio Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I'd like to think I'll leave for good at some point, as that would imply that I'm beyond all the issues that keep me clinging to the site for moral support. However, given that I have issues related to relationships, (lack of) career, and family, I imagine I'll always have some issue to bounce off the folks at LS. And to Mario, sorry to hear your experience has been primarily negative. There are a lot of caring people on this site. Hang in there. 1
january2011 Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I've never stayed beyond the two-year mark on a forum because my interests change and life gets in the way. So I'll probably leave at some point, though I may check back every few months just to see if any of the regulars are around. 1
esteem-jam Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I would like to think like january2011. I thought of it before and I see a resemblance, or pattern- that i hang around and then move somewhere else and cycle repeats. I was on another forum, it was pretty personal, about my problems, I posted stuff, some personal stuff, well, didnt get the support or w/e as always... but then I started to figure the people behind the forum, the regulars, mods- I did not like how matters were handled, no arguments, but I figured, as in any forum- there is somebody behind it. Unless I see something that is not with my morals here, I could stay a little longer. But I have to say the "Dating" section of the forums is pretty vomiting, for me.
amaysngrace Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Will you stop participation in LS at some point? What do you feel will prompt this? So, when will you leave? Thanks. Hmmm....well I left LoveShack for a couple of years and just came back two days ago. I left because I felt as though it was counter-productive to my personal well-being because I spent way too much time on here. But....I really liked it and missed so many great people that when I was feeling all weirded out thinking about the end of the world, it's where I wanted to be
StarlaStardust Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hard to say. I've only been here a few weeks or so and with a couple exceptions, been deluged by trolls and jerks. Check my Likes for those who are not But I'm desperate, so for the same reason I update my OKCupid account, I have nothing to lose by staying. But I'm hoping some encouragement is coming - won't hold my breath... Mario, really? Who is doing this to you? I will beat them up. *makes tough face* 1
StarlaStardust Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 I'm a crackhead for forums like this. I'll never leave............... ................
Art_Critic Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 They always come back... I sometimes have toyed with the idea of putting down the keyboard on LS.. I think the trolls and lack of moderation plays a role in my desire to leave.. when it strikes. I like to think my time is pretty valuable.. at least it is to me, so I want my time on LS to be of good use of my time and when that starts to fade I tend to post less and the desire to lock up my account comes in. I like posting and giving what little I have to give to help people, that seems to be why I post here. 3
Anela Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I've never stayed beyond the two-year mark on a forum because my interests change and life gets in the way. So I'll probably leave at some point, though I may check back every few months just to see if any of the regulars are around. I can be this way, but I tend to come and go, rather than leave altogether. In the past, I wouldn't say anything, I would just slip away for a while, and then check back in. I feel sort of homesick for a few places, but feel odd being so transient, when others stick around at one place as their forum, or occasionally move on together to another place. 2
writergal Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) They always come back... That's so true. How many times I've heard from LS'ers, "I hope I've helped with my posts here on LoveShack, but now it's time for me to leave" only to see them post again a couple weeks later. LoveShack is the equivalent of Internet crack. And the only cure is to cancel your Internet service which isn't realistic. Well, my student teaching for me will keep me logged off LS all fall and winter which I'm sure a slew of regulars will be overjoyed with. I like to think my time is pretty valuable.. at least it is to me, so I want my time on LS to be of good use of my time and when that starts to fade I tend to post less and the desire to lock up my account comes in. I like posting and giving what little I have to give to help people, that seems to be why I post here. You're like the LoveShack Yoda, "Art Critic good posts he writes, mmmm." Edited July 3, 2012 by writergal 2
jquest1280 Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I come here to help people out more than to get help, so I won't be leaving soon. I wish I'd seen LS when I was the one needing help, it would have been really good if only to know I was not the only one bleeding out there. Thankfully I don't see a lot of trolls, and I have seen some really good nuggets of wisdom, profound and funny, the kind you wouldn't find in all the advice books out there, coming from people who really lived through it. I wished I'd taken note of them; there are so many posts and particpants it's hard to go back and look for threads.
Anela Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 Well, my student teaching for me will keep me logged off LS all fall and winter which I'm sure a slew of regulars will be overjoyed with. I doubt that's true. I saw a thread in which several people said nice things about you. When I start to wonder about things like that, that's one reason I might check out for a while, if not because of them, then because I'm wondering about that in the first place. Most of the time, I can appreciate different personalities, and I've found that I've become friends with people that I never saw myself being friends with in the past. I'm not even talking about cliques - I'm talking about a guy I really didn't like, and he didn't like me. The feeling was strong, and mutual. I guess we've both mellowed over the past eight years.
fucpcg Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 I hope to quit coming for my own mental state as quick as possible, however plan to continue to come to try and share and help when and where I can.
Art_Critic Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 That's so true. How many times I've heard from LS'ers, "I hope I've helped with my posts here on LoveShack, but now it's time for me to leave" only to see them post again a couple weeks later. LoveShack is the equivalent of Internet crack. And the only cure is to cancel your Internet service which isn't realistic. Well, my student teaching for me will keep me logged off LS all fall and winter which I'm sure a slew of regulars will be overjoyed with. I love your posts WG as many people here do.., so if one day you stop logging in you will be missed Internet Crack..hahaha that is sooo true 3
Author WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 4, 2012 Author Posted July 4, 2012 Well I'm starting to look at it (LS or something similar) as our cultures evolved form of therapy with the goal being to leave the "therapy". Possibly return from time to time for a maintenance session. But the primary goal would be to leave. Thinking out loud.
todreaminblue Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Will you stop participation in LS at some point? What do you feel will prompt this? So, when will you leave? Thanks. everything has an ending...... i think i will be prompted to leave when i take more hope than i give, or when i start to lose my sense of humour.....deb 1
Double D Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Master Yoda that is Art Critic is right - they all come back. When I joined it was to get over a break up + then I left maybe 2 yrs after. I came back a few yrs ago + realised Loveshack has more than just a 'break up' section, who knew! I don't think I would leave completley as I find Loveshack a good source of inspiration + foresight. 1
SunandMoon Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I joined recently and, well, I like it here! Most of the regulars seem pretty kind and fun, as well as share some good advice. I came to learn......and I certainly have a lot to learn, lol. Have a feeling I'll stick around or at least 'til my 'member' is all 'established'. Or might take a leave of absence/slowdown when my Imogen Heap buddy; WG, leaves.
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