caseyjayne Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) Previous Post Above you can see my previous post which goes pretty in depth into the breakup. I got a phonecall from my male best friend to tell me he had spoken to ex at party. My ex was concerned that people were sugar coating the break up for me and was worried that it would make it harder for me to move on. Said friend suggested I text my ex and set him straight about the situation: ME: I've heard you're concerned people are sugar coating the break up to me which I can understand. There are people who have done this but at the end of the day I'm not taking any notice because it's not anyone elses business and just because they say we're going to get back together doesn't mean we will. I know I handled it the wrong way at first and my feeling obviously haven't changed, it will take a while for me to feel better but I respect your feelings and I know that our relationship just isn't what you want anymore. Honestly though I'm not being influenced by what other people. Hopefully you'll feel you can talk to me again at some point because I miss having you around as at least a friend. I hope you enjoyed the party and have fun in America! X EX: L**E has got the wrong end of the stick. I said I thought that when we first broke up people might have been sugar coating it but I don't think that they are anymore. Sorry for the confusion hah x ME: Silly L**E! Well now I feel slightly awkward for sending you a stupidly long text haha sorry about that x EX: That's fine don't worry x Now after this conversation should I continue with NC or limit to LC? It's only been 2 weeks since we last spoke (6 weeks since the break up) and I BEGGED for him back... and I know this pushed him away I stopped as soon as I gained realisation of this. He seemed concerned about my wellbeing and how I was coping with the breakup. I don't know if I'm just being delusional but I know my ex and he always puts others first. I'm so scared because I know that even if he did have feelings for me and want me back that he wouldn't tell me as he'd feel he was disrupting the healing process. I know NC is not intended to get your ex back but I'm using it to give my ex breathing space and also work on myself. I have got alot better recently. I still think about him alot and I do want him back but I've reassed things and I know that we weren't perfect and we would need to work hard if we did get back together. By telling him in the text that I still feel the same in my opinion this has left the door slightly open but I always have to take the upper hand and initiative in the relationship always have. He has told me many different things which have clouded my judgement on how he feels: I don't like to think of you as my ex.I don't know what I want.I've been thinking about it for a week.I've been thinking about it for a while.I want time as there's never been a period of time without us talking.I don't love you anymore.You could probably seduce me.Are you trying to make me jealous? (in a flirty way) ALL OF THIS WAS SAID VIA TEXT OR SKYPE. He has an inability of telling me how he feels face to face and I feel this is because he knows I can tell when he is lying. As we were in a long distance relationship I don't feel that NC is going to work as I had been away for 10 weeks (5 weeks into the term he broke it off - this was the longest we had ever been apart) Desperate for advice! Edited July 1, 2012 by caseyjayne LEFT OUT IMPORTANT INFORMATION
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