LittleBlueSock Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Hiya ,its my first post and I'm just looking for some impartial advice really. I have been having some issues recently with my relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together a year and a half, I am 18 and he is 20. Its my first serious relationship, and before we were together I never really thought I would have a problem with my bf/so watching porn or anything, but I've noticed since we've been together I kind of have. I have a higher sex drive than him, and would like sex more than he would, it just kinda hurts that he still watches porn even though I'm not sexually satisfied? (Obviously there is a part of me that feels jealous he is looking at other women that are way more attractive than me, but I accept that most guys do that and its something I'm gong to have accept while in a relationship with him, and that its probably more of a self esteem issue on my part really) I have tried talking to him about this but he just gets really defensive and angry and I usually end up leaving it. He did loose his virginity to me, and although the sex is amazing when we do have it its just a bit rigid and I would like him to take control more, again we've talked about it but nothing really seems to be changing. My main issue really is that he watches porn more than we have sex a week, is it me that's just making a big deal out of nothing? How could I approach this issue with him so he's not as defensive? I just don't really think its fair that he finds time to sort himself out so to speak, while he knows I would like sex more. Thanks
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manup Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Hiya ,its my first post and I'm just looking for some impartial advice really. I have been having some issues recently with my relationship with my boyfriend, we have been together a year and a half, I am 18 and he is 20. Its my first serious relationship, and before we were together I never really thought I would have a problem with my bf/so watching porn or anything, but I've noticed since we've been together I kind of have. I have a higher sex drive than him, and would like sex more than he would, it just kinda hurts that he still watches porn even though I'm not sexually satisfied? (Obviously there is a part of me that feels jealous he is looking at other women that are way more attractive than me, but I accept that most guys do that and its something I'm gong to have accept while in a relationship with him, and that its probably more of a self esteem issue on my part really) I have tried talking to him about this but he just gets really defensive and angry and I usually end up leaving it. He did loose his virginity to me, and although the sex is amazing when we do have it its just a bit rigid and I would like him to take control more, again we've talked about it but nothing really seems to be changing. My main issue really is that he watches porn more than we have sex a week, is it me that's just making a big deal out of nothing? How could I approach this issue with him so he's not as defensive? I just don't really think its fair that he finds time to sort himself out so to speak, while he knows I would like sex more. Thanks give him more bj's
sid3 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Wow a twenty year old guy watching more porn than having sex with his girlfriend. Either he's not very attracted to you, or he's just a total pervert. Nothing you did wrong, IMO. My advice, drop him like a rock. 2
Author LittleBlueSock Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Wow a twenty year old guy watching more porn than having sex with his girlfriend. Either he's not very attracted to you, or he's just a total pervert. Nothing you did wrong, IMO. My advice, drop him like a rock. I have been thinking that for a while, its hard on the old self esteem, because ive always been told that im out of his league, why are you with him etc etc I really would like to try and make this work, but having sex 3 times a week just isnt enough for me
sid3 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I have been thinking that for a while, its hard on the old self esteem, because ive always been told that im out of his league, why are you with him etc etc I really would like to try and make this work, but having sex 3 times a week just isnt enough for me Self esteem is funny like that. There's always two sides, meaning what you see as taking a hit could be perceived as a boost. Change your perception to change the reality. And good for you for wanting to making it work, but at 18 do you really think you've found the best you can do. My best advice, don't spend too much time on LoveShack, it'll rot your brain.
Ruby Slippers Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Unfortunately, most guys who are so into porn that they choose it over sex with a ready partner aren't going to change much. You can basically accept the situation as it is, or move on. If it were me, I'd move on and find a guy who loves sex as much as you do. It shouldn't be a problem for you to find this. 1
KungFuJoe Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 The porn in itself is not bad, but the fact that he'd rather watch porn than have sex means that the sex you guys are having isn't doing it for him. If he is a good boyfriend in other areas and you value your relationship, you could try sitting him down and asking him what he wants in regards to sex, fantasies. Ask him what kind of porn he watches and what gets him off. If he avoids the subject, or just shrugs you off, then drop him like a freakin rock because at that point, you will have done everything a good girlfriend could be expected to do.
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