louise_23 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) ive got a fairly busy life and dont particularily feel ready for a relationship. i was in one from the age of 16-22 (which didnt end well) and i kind of just enjoy the freedom of not answering to anyone. besides, the only offers i seem to get are for flings and ONS's which im not into anyway. however, i noticed after 2 years of being single my friends are starting to act almost sympathetic towards me and like im strange for always being single. like i need rescuing. i mean, sometimes i think itd be nice to have someone to go to a movie with once in a while but i have faith that when life's a bit simpler someone good will come along & i will settle down. ive just got too many responsibilities right now (primarily a very ill parent) to be able to have a relationship with anyone. its just starting to make me feel weird that im being treated like somethings wrong with me. some of my friends are ALWAYS in relationships and never leave any time between the transition from one to another. i really cant do that. i suppose i just wondered if anyone else has had this kind of treatment from friends? and also, what are peoples opinions on being single? is 2 years really too long? (i should probably add my brother has also recently started treating me the same way) Edited July 1, 2012 by louise_23 missed a bit
january2011 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Since reaching adulthood, I've always experienced this whenever I've been single. It seemed that being a single woman can make one an automatic target of pity or suspicion, no matter how much they doesn't feel sorry for themselves and their life is fabulous with/without a partner. If one were to soapbox it, it can lead to a society that views singledom as an unnatural state and an invalid life choice. I think that what is a perfectly valid life choice is that you are unwilling to rush into any relationship just for the sake of having a boyfriend. That you are not willing to give up your singlehood until you meet someone who is worth giving it up for. That you are in no hurry to align yourself to a man who does not make you a better you by being a part of your life. 1
january2011 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Edit: Sometimes, when people question other people's life choices, they're really questioning their own. 1
Author louise_23 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Since reaching adulthood, I've always experienced this whenever I've been single. It seemed that being a single woman can make one an automatic target of pity or suspicion, no matter how much they doesn't feel sorry for themselves and their life is fabulous with/without a partner. If one were to soapbox it, it can lead to a society that views singledom as an unnatural state and an invalid life choice. I think that what is a perfectly valid life choice is that you are unwilling to rush into any relationship just for the sake of having a boyfriend. That you are not willing to give up your singlehood until you meet someone who is worth giving it up for. That you are in no hurry to align yourself to a man who does not make you a better you by being a part of your life. thanks for this. i think you're right about it being the general view of society sort of thing. i just dont understand it. its frustrating people feel the need to pay any attention to my love life at all (or lack of). the fact im single keeps me on hand to listen to their relationship drama at short notice afterall. i never mention my love life to them so i dont know why theyre bringing it up. Edit: Sometimes, when people question other people's life choices, they're really questioning their own. ohhh i like this lol. i can hope this is the case. your a ****face. gals took the mysogynist over me when i did all the right things. now i'm 280 pounds, eat bad, shower less than once a week. i really dont know what youre talking about? that like never then right. again, dont know what you're talking about.
FitChick Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Ask them to fix you up with one of their single friends, who will certainly be unsuitable. Then say, "Is that the best you can do?" They will leave you alone after that.
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