Ross MwcFan Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Limit contact with your dad even more. The more he controls you, the more you limit contact with him. He'll soon get the message.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Limit contact with your dad even more. The more he controls you, the more you limit contact with him. He'll soon get the message. But parents behaving badly never gets better. You get drawn into the same bull**** every time. I recommend cutting all ties.
Pierre Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 OP is the product of abnormal dysfunctional parents and she will behave erratically. These are the teens that date old men looking for a decent paternal figure. OP stated the father was never there for her. So now she seeks a better daddy by dating an older guy. Sadly, there are old men that prey on these teenagers. OP will end up just like her parents.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 When you said pr girl I thought it meant you work in public relations. I must admit I did wonder precisely what was meant by female public relations workers being so feisty. That's the whole reason why they are hired.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Sadly, there are old men that prey on these teenagers. If you wish to see dating as predatory then we are all predators preying on each other.
Pierre Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 If you wish to see dating as predatory then we are all predators preying on each other. 38 on a 17 is predatory. However, you have your own perspective. 1
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 38 on a 17 is predatory. However, you have your own perspective. If she is dating him just to find a better father as you assume then she is equally predatory.
Pierre Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 If she is dating him just to find a better father as you assume then she is equally predatory. :laugh::laugh: Rationalization can be awesome. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Okay. First, I am pretty sure that this man does't really have his s**t together at all. I don't think any 38 year old man who did, even a little tiny bit, would be trolling for teenaged girls at Coney Island. Please rethink spending any more time with this man. NOT because of your father, but because I am quite sure it is not a good situation for you. Regarding your father: it's a difficult situation for you. I think your dad is not in your life much, but when it suits him he blusters in with all kinds of authoritarian and even violent bravado and expects you to submit to his will, right? I understand you point very well about how he is verbally abusing you and calling you degrading names while at the same time, trying to act as if he is interested in protecting you honor or whatever. He is dishonoring you himself. I wonder if you feel like going out with 38 year old losers as a way of jabbing at your father? Could this be the case? Anyway, you really have 2 different issues going on here. One of them is that it seems that you are making some pretty questionable choices for yourself. The other one is that you have a problem dad. I hope you will see that the middle aged guy has NOTHING to offer you and move on. Don't hang onto that because you are determined not to let your dad boss you around. AND, you probably need to learn how to assert yourself with your father when no fighting is going on. You are about to be a self reliant adult, and you need to have that skill anyway. Good luck.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 You are about to be a self reliant adult And when she is a self-reliant adult will you allow her to date who she wants Grandma Chaucer or will she be stuck at the kiddie end of the pool to suffer all the abuses of that demeaning and demoralizing circumstance.
stillafool Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My goodness, is there a shortage of young men to date these days or are some girls so unattractive they can only date old men. Sorry to be harsh, but pretty young girls have so many guys wanting to date them they don't have time for old perverts.
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 And when she is a self-reliant adult will you allow her to date who she wants Grandma Chaucer or will she be stuck at the kiddie end of the pool to suffer all the abuses of that demeaning and demoralizing circumstance. She is allowed to date who she wants now, as far as I'm concerned. I'm hoping she will make better choices for herself than selecting from middle aged men who are cruising Coney Island to pick op on teen girls. You certainly seem defensive about this. Are you one of those guys? Maybe you and Shaun-dro should team up. Could be awesome.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My goodness, is there a shortage of young men to date these days or are some girls so unattractive they can only date old men. Sorry to be harsh, but pretty young girls have so many guys wanting to date them they don't have time for old perverts. Yeah only young perverts right?
stillafool Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Yeah only young perverts right? Absolutely! When you're young, young perverts are fun. When you're young, old perverts are sick!
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 She is allowed to date who she wants now, as far as I'm concerned. I'm hoping she will make better choices for herself than selecting from middle aged men who are cruising Coney Island to pick op on teen girls.As far as we know he is a good catch so there aren't better choices to make. Everyone goes to Coney Island so characterizing a man who happens to meet a girl there who he really hits it off with as cruising for teens is the usual overwrought LS ridiculousness. You certainly seem defensive about this. Are you one of those guys? No, I'm into gilfs which is why we get along so splendidly.
LittlePrince Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Absolutely! When you're young, young perverts are fun. When you're young, old perverts are sick! or perverts are perverts, they do an equal amount of damage, and should be avoided equally. No need to bring race, age, etc. into this.
Author rana-rana Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 Limit contact with your dad even more. The more he controls you, the more you limit contact with him. He'll soon get the message. hell yea i'm doing that right now papi. he tried to call me this morning and tell me he gonna come to my job in the evening if i dont straighten up. i'm not going for that ****! he better come to my job and embarrass me. he aint never done that before whats his problem? i'm spending another night at my friends **** it.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 She is allowed to date who she wants now, as far as I'm concerned. I'm hoping she will make better choices for herself than selecting from middle aged men who are cruising Coney Island to pick op on teen girls. You certainly seem defensive about this. Are you one of those guys? Maybe you and Shaun-dro should team up. Could be awesome. First of all, I don't hang out in Coney Island. I don't even like it there .
mesmerized Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 My goodness, is there a shortage of young men to date these days or are some girls so unattractive they can only date old men. Sorry to be harsh, but pretty young girls have so many guys wanting to date them they don't have time for old perverts. haha, I wonder that too sometimes. Maybe they like saggy balls. Maybe they like the extreme attention/treats these men give them. As they get older though, they start craving the young men they missed out on, this happened to a friend of mine. 3
Avarage Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 So you live with your Mom..? That's what I'm wondering. Because if so and Mom pays the rent, then he's got every right in the world to be there if Mom invited him in. More and more it's sounding like the OP is just 18, if that. In which case I absolutely support the Father on this. She seems too immature to be dating someone who's so much older, probably almost twice her age.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 That's what I'm wondering. Because if so and Mom pays the rent, then he's got every right in the world to be there if Mom invited him in. More and more it's sounding like the OP is just 18, if that. In which case I absolutely support the Father on this. She seems too immature to be dating someone who's so much older, probably almost twice her age. The OP can date whomever she wants. Her complaints is more about her father trying to control her every move, with the latest being her father wanting to run up to her workplace. If that's true, this guy is a real piece of work. I think the OP should steer clear of him and respond to his texts if she's not already doing so. She needs to show this guy that she's a big girl now and can make her own decisions without his consent. She is holding down a job so that shows some responsibility, don't it?
Shaun-Dro Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 hell yea i'm doing that right now papi. he tried to call me this morning and tell me he gonna come to my job in the evening if i dont straighten up. i'm not going for that ****! he better come to my job and embarrass me. he aint never done that before whats his problem? i'm spending another night at my friends **** it. And you should! Dont let your father try to intimidate you. That's what he is hoping to do because most fathers are bullies, especially Hispanic men. I think dating an older guy is like sticking it to him and keep doing this.
SmileFace Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 And you should! Dont let your father try to intimidate you. That's what he is hoping to do because most fathers are bullies, especially Hispanic men. I think dating an older guy is like sticking it to him and keep doing this. Didn't you date a young girl who you took on dates to a mall or something? Sorry if I am confusing you with another poster
Art_Critic Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 (edited) And you should! Dont let your father try to intimidate you. That's what he is hoping to do because most fathers are bullies, especially Hispanic men. I think dating an older guy is like sticking it to him and keep doing this. Busted... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/277524-my-sister-stalked-perv-teen-chat I spent the earlier part of the morning standing above my sister's back as she typed away inside of the Teen Chat room, just to see what she was talking about on there. The chat room is saturated with perverts and sex bots selling kiddie porn! Its awful My sister is 18, a legal young adult in NYS, but regardless, to see her get hit on relentlessly by much older men in the age ranges of 35-50 is much too upsetting. She was disturbed by this greatly, especially since when she goes to work (part time job) these same types of men drive up to her in cars and vans, saying fresh things to her, and sometimes even offering her money to get in the vehicle! These incidents have picked up greatly in the past year and much more now that the weather's nicer and she has a job, having to go out in public 4 days a week. Anyway, as I stood there and watched, my sister told me the way to get the perverts to respond is to simply say "hello, 14f, older guys?" and bam, she got about 50 hits in under 3 minutes, with men asking and begging to meet her. Begging for her pics. Begging for her cell number, etc. I know 18 is her real age, but it's the point of showing that these predators will stop at nothing to get a younger girl. I mean, I knew this was going on to some extent, but never so fiercely. And these teen chats are not being monitored at all. I wonder why? Then, to wrap things up, my sister revealed to me that last night, when she was online in the chat, she thought she had finally made a connection with a young guy around her age, who claimed to be 22 and sent her pics of himself through yahoo for proof. My sister took a chance and gave him her cell number. It turns out that the dude is over 40 (he admitted this after talking to her because he claimed he wanted to be with her and how she was so perfect for him) and he kept calling and calling, texting and texting, where I had to step in, but he completely avoided me! My sister then calls me at work just an hour ago on her lunch break to tell me that he's called again and plans on giving out her number to everyone else in the chat if she doesn't talk to him . I'm in a tight spot here. I'm not sure how to proceed with this. I can call the police, but what exactly do I tell them? They've never met and won't after this craziness. Any advice and similar experiences please enlighten? So when your 18 YO sister gets hit on by older men it's bad but when some girl that is 17 that YOU want to impress on an internet board gets hit on and wants to date an older man you come to her rescue.. hahaha Edited July 3, 2012 by Art_Critic 3
LittlePrince Posted July 3, 2012 Posted July 3, 2012 The OP can date whomever she wants. Her complaints is more about her father trying to control her every move, with the latest being her father wanting to run up to her workplace. If that's true, this guy is a real piece of work. I think the OP should steer clear of him and respond to his texts if she's not already doing so. She needs to show this guy that she's a big girl now and can make her own decisions without his consent. She is holding down a job so that shows some responsibility, don't it? It is funny if this guy was an "age appropriate" bf they would be singing a very different tune. My guess is a lot of LS suffers from childhood parental Stockholm syndrome.
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